[blparent] Parenting classes

Fri Feb 24 01:29:27 UTC 2012

The parenting class idea is interesting to me. Yes there are people who
could use, who need the parenting classes. But what about those of us who
have children already, but who choose to adopte a child because they need a
good home? Yes I am not a perfect mother, but all three of my kids are alive
today, they are healthy, fed, well and loved. So if these parenting classes
are required for all adoptive parents then that means I have to take them
too. I will take the classes, if required, because I want to adopte, not
because I feel I need them.  

It baffles me, that people who are not trying to get pregnant, have babies.
But those who of us who want to be pregnant, to have children, can't. *sigh*

Just my two cents,
Marsha 

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Bridgit Pollpeter
Sent: Thursday, February 23, 2012 4:17 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] Parenting classes

The only reason I think parenting classes should be required is because
one, all adopting parents must go through numerous rounds of such
classes to help them understand what parenting all entails, and to
provide them with information that can be very helpful, and two, it
makes sense that any new parent could benefit from parenting classes. I
don't hold this opinion because I think people can't parent or need some
"expert" telling them how to raise ones children; I simply mean some
basic, foundational information is very beneficial for a new parent
especially if younger. And there is a lot to parenting beyond the
everyday tasks such as feeding, changing diapers or what constitutes a
trip to the doctor. A lot of developmental methods can be beneficial for
parent and child. My mom has been a teacher for 16 years, and she has
taught me a lot about child development. I don't believe this whole
thing nowadays about so-called experts allegedly having all the answers,
but we can learn certain tools and methods then select what works best
for us. Proper nutrition, discipline, physical and mental development-
there is a lot that is helpful information to learn and use. What works
for one family might not work for another, but it's good to have a
wealth of information to draw upon. Knowing the psychological
differences between infants, toddlers, older children and adolescents
comes in handy. My 21-year-old sister doesn't understand why she can't
reason and use adult logic with her two-year-old. It seems like common
sense, but I know many people, of all ages, who struggle with this
issue. Some simple information about toddler development and psychology
could help some parents better deal with a toddler.

And anyway, this is all hypothetical. My reasoning for suggesting such a
thing is based solely on the thought that we all can benefit in some way
from more information and education about children and parenting; it has
nothing to do with the idea of people being incapable of parenting or
not intelligent enough to figure things out. And having been through
adoption meetings, I know the benefit of such information. And the
reason this is done with adoptive parents is to be sure a child is
placed in a loving environment that is safe; pardon my French, but any
crack whore can take a baby home or any teen with barely an ounce of
personal responsibility let alone a sense of responsibility for another
(I speak from personal experience on both accounts) can have a baby and
take it home; so why not just introduce required information and
education in hopes we create the same environments adoption agencies
strive for?

Sincerely,
Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter
Read my blog at:
http://blogs.livewellnebraska.com/author/bpollpeter/

"History is not what happened; history is what was written down."
The Expected One- Kathleen McGowan

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