[blparent] House rules

[Peggy]

I don't know how many kids you are trying to do foster care for or adopt and 
I've hesitated to write in because I don't want to seem like I know 
everything because I most certainly do not ... however I did foster care for 
a number of years and here's what I learned:

We put an alarm system on the doors and the kids snuck out the window, in a 
two story house
If you are raising teens they will sneak people in and out and be very good 
at it
They will drink and smoke *not just cigarrettes* if they can get away with 
it
They will steal and it doesn't matter who it's from *One girl stole from my 
son who was like three at the time*
Watch your phones because if they can sneak calls, they will
No matter what precautions you take *sighted or blind* if they want to do 
something bad enough, they will find a way

I'm not trying to discourage you from doing foster care, I got away from it 
for a while, mostly because for some reason they said I wasn't approved 
anymore but no one will give me an explanation.  I'm thinking about doing it 
again because my husband and I would really like to adopt but I will not 
take teens again, at all!!  They are very manipulative and have learned the 
system well and know how to use it to their advantage and as I said, if they 
want something bad enough they will find a way to get it or do it.

I don't know how they expect you to plan for every event that will come up 
because with kids, especially foster kids, you just don't know what that 
will be, blind or sighted!!  I guess the best advice I can give you is 
prepare as much as you can and then let everyone know that every kid is 
different and situations need to be handled differently for every kid ... 
blind or sighted we or you can not be prepared for everything!!

And my advice about the park, buy squeaky shoes or use a child leash or wait 
until a child learns to come when you call before attempting to go!

I hope I didn't discourage you and I wish you all the luck in the world, 
foster care is very rewarding, hard but rewarding, and with all the crap my 
kids got away with ... I would take them back in a heartbeat, I love them 
and loved doing foster care ... it's the case workers, HHS, people in 
authority and the system that are the problem!!  The foster care system is a 
joke, at least in Nebraska and it's amazing how shallow people working in 
the system can be, blind or sighted, they need good foster parents and 
should be willing ... providing you can provide a safe and loving home ... 
to give you a chance!



-----Original Message----- 
From: Miranda B.
Sent: Monday, January 02, 2012 4:15 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: [blparent] House rules

Hi,

We're wondering what your family's house rules are? We have the basics like
"Respect everyone and their belongings" and such, but we want to hear from
you on what has worked.

Thanks, and have a great week!



In Christ, Miranda

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