[blparent] punishment

Tue Jan 31 23:39:02 UTC 2012

Sarah is young enough, we make her sit on the stairs if she gets out of 
control.  There's nothing to do and nothing to look at, and she hates it.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
Sent: Tuesday, January 31, 2012 4:18 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment

> The only way is restricting him from the things he likes and if that means 
> you have to hear him scream or throw a huge tantrum for x amount of time, 
> then be it.  My husband used to put Gab in her room when she'd do what she 
> wanted and she would scream and scream and we told her she could come out 
> when she could control herself and do as she was told.  Sometimes it took 
> a few minutes, sometimes a few hours and then the next time she acted up, 
> back into the room she went.  I know that professionals say not to use 
> their rooms as a place of punishment, but that is what I did, some peeps 
> use a rug and others use a chair, but you use what works. V
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> Behalf Of Nikki
> Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 11:12 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>
>    IDK if I could do that. I don't think he's angry with me. It has more 
> to do with him not listening and doing what he's told. Sunday, he and papa 
> went for a walk in the woods. As they were walking back to the car, my dad 
> told him not to pick up any snow because he didn't want his gloves to be 
> all wet when they got in the car. You know what? That little defiant brat 
> did it anyway. He doesn't listen. Two weeks ago, he got a detention for 
> not listening to the lunchtime supervisor and just continued playing, 
> ignoring the call to come line up. As far as last week and today, I don't 
> know why he pushed another kid, except today, he played freeze tag even 
> after he was told not to. So, I'm just wondering how to fix this "not 
> listening, ignoring, and not doing what told to do" business.
>
> It seems his answer for everything is "I don't know." I'm ready to wash 
> his mouth out every time he says that. Because I know he knows.
>
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Veronica Smith
> Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 11:20 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>
> Nikki, can you attend his class for a day or so.  Tell him that mommy is
> going to check up on him and then stick to your words.  It might be today 
> or
> 2 days later, but perhaps you need to see what the class is doing and why 
> he
> is acting up.
> Is he angry at you for something?  Sometimes a child will take it out on
> someone his own size to (in his mind) is punishing you.
> Maybe the teacher is only seeing the hitting or pushing, but not seeing 
> the
> whole reason for the behavior.  Perhaps, your son is  defending himself.
> You know, there is always 2 sides to every story.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Nikki
> Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 3:02 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] punishment
>
> Hi all. Yes I’m back again. How would you discipline a six year old boy 
> who
> doesn’t listen and do what he’s told? I haven’t figured out what will 
> change
> his behavior. He pushed another child, in school today and Friday. He lied
> to me last night by saying he’ll be good today. We even had him saying “I
> know I can, I know I can, said the engine that did.” I’m out of my witts
> end. The past few weeks have been horrible. I can’t understand why.
>
> The teacher uses a sliding scale for the behavior. You come to class, you
> start with an orange. Your behavior throughout  the day determines the
> outcome. So you can either do great and get a green card, but you can 
> slide
> back to orange, which is a “ready to work” day. Ah, but there’s the 
> possible
> yellow, which is a “behavior needs to be worked on".” You could go to red,
> which is the worst. I almost forgot, after the green is blue, “the best
> behavior, you’re like a role model.” One thing, if you get a red or blue,
> that’s it. You can’t slide off.
>
> Now, my son has been bringing home yellows and the past two days including
> today, were red. I’ve made the decision to take all of his toys out of his
> room, including stuffed animals and having him go to his room after school
> until he fixes his behavior. For each day he brings home a good report and 
> I’m
> not just talking an orange, I will give him one toy back.
>
> I’m tired of spanking him. It doesn’t seem to work for me. What do you
> think?
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