[blparent] The maid wants to go on strike! (Clothes)

Thu Jun 7 03:14:16 UTC 2012

Right, and when you know it's spaghetti day at school, put them in red 
instead of white.

Jo Elizabeth

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a 
song."  Maya Angelou

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From: "Erin Rumer" <erinrumer at gmail.com>
Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 8:35 PM
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

> Yes, and when in doubt I change my son's clothes if there is any question 
> as
> to whether they're clean or not.  We do lots of extra laundry this way but
> I'd rather be safe than sorry, especially with a toddler who can't yet 
> tell
> me if there is something on his clothes.
>
> Erin
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Tammy
> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 7:05 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>
> Hi,
>
> I always run my hands over my kid's and their clothes when I'm givving 
> them
> a kiss and hug goodbye, usually so fast they dont' even know I'm doing it.
> this way I can tell if they are wearing holey jeans or if their hair's a
> mess or their shirt's not tucked in properly, or as is so often the case
> with my 3 year old, if his shoes are on the wrong feet and shirt's on
> backwards.  There's one particular shirt he has that he insists on wearing
> with the picture on the back.  All the rest he will wear right, so I just
> let him wear it that way since he's only 3, and he tells people that he
> likes it that way and nobody says anything more.
>
> Tammy
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Jennifer Jackson
> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 2:10 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>
> Gabe,
>
> This may sound like a weird question, but I have always just checked with 
> my
> hands to make sure my nieces were wearing skirts and shorts that were age
> appropriate. I also check my boys clothes by feel, but that is generally 
> not
> so personal. I know your daughter is only eleven so this may not even have
> become an issue yet. I am just curious about your plan for this.
>
> Make-up is probably an issue too for blind parents of teen girls. I just
> took a deep breath and hoped for the best with my nieces. This is probably
> not the best way for an every day situation. :) So what do you all do?
>
>
> Jennifer
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Gabe Vega
> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 6:56 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>
> I just went through this at my son's graduation. My 11 year old daughter
> took some scissors and cut holes on the knees of her pants. to look like 
> the
> other little girls and people she sees that wear the new style of pants
> these days. they are holes with a shredded look to them.
>
> Well anyways, I wore a suit and Tie about a $500.00 dollar get up to my
> son's once in a life time Kindar Garden graduation and I was walking 
> around
> with my daughter and these holy pants. and when I found out a world of
> embarrassment went over me and I was shocked and didn't know what to do. 
> so
> I know how this feels, kids some times do the weirdest things.
> Gabe Vega - Sent from my Macbook Air
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> On Jun 6, 2012, at 10:35 AM, Jennifer Jackson wrote:
>
>> Jo Elizabeth,
>>
>> I think you have touched on a point here that is particular to being a
> blind
>> parent. When our children go out badly dressed people assume that it
>> is because those poor pitiful children have blind parents who can not
>> provide for them. Yes, we can all say that we should not care what
>> other people think, but that is nonsense. We, just like everyone else,
>> are part of the social contract and there are consequences to ignoring
>> the standards of
> that
>> contract. It really is a big deal if the people in our child's school
> think
>> he is being neglected. Often these are consequences that a child is
>> not mature enough to understand or respond too. That being said, my
>> pride is
> an
>> issue here too.
>>
>> It may comfort you to know Jo Elizabeth that that torn clothing look
>> seems to be a thing. I recently had to explain to my son that the
>> shirt he has with the arms torn out is acceptable, just barely, to
>> meet the you must where clothes at home standard, but it is not ok to 
>> wear
> out of our yard.
> Of
>> course the fact that he sees other adults at the store dressed in the
>> same kind of shirt with pajama pants on, or their underwear showing,
>> does not help support my point. The no hat or coat fashion requirement
>> is also baffling to me. It is apparently more important to look right
>> than it is
> to
>> not be cold, which just supports my earlier point about logical
>> consequences. :)
>>
>>
>> Jennifer
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 1:42 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>>
>>> Rebecca, what if the child does not care if his clothes are dirty?
>>> What
> if
>>> he is perfectly willing to go around in dirty clothes? I know it is
> summer
>>> time now, but my oldest son would go to school in dirty clothes. I
>>> have
> to
>>> have someone sighted go through his clothes occasionally and pull out
>>> things with stains because he will just wear them that way.
>>>
>> Well, maybe he needs to miss opportunities he'd get if he dressed
>> appropriately, being passed over for a date or a volunteer thing or a 
>> job.
>>
>> There is a difference between clothes that stink and stains. I'm not
>> clear
>
>> which one you're dealing with.
>>
>> Truthfully, I've taken to asking Stephen before we go anywhere if he
>> has clothes on that aren't torn.  The last time I didn't ask, he wore
>> a shirt that had one sleeve ripped off and jeans that looked like
>> they'd been through a crocodile attack.  An older man from my church
>> asked me
> privately
>> if I needed money to get my kids decent clothes, which was totally
>> embarrassing.  Seriously, the next week, the man and his wife brought
>> a
> bag
>> to me of stuff they'd bought at Target, for both Stephen and Sarah, as
>> if
> I
>> couldn't provide for them.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>>
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