[blparent] an update (kids & meds)

Fri Mar 30 23:30:20 UTC 2012

I also feel that many on this list have made the generalization that all 
parents who put their kids on ADHD meds are bad parents, or too lazy to try 
other approaches like talk therapy or behavior modification.  I have been 
very upset and disturbed by the generalizations made on this list.  My 
stepson has been on ADHD meds for quite a long time, as part of a program 
which also includes therapy and at-school support.  Without the meds, he 
couldn't be functioning in the school environment and wouldn't be getting an 
education.  It isn't just that he's a bundle of energy and we don't want to 
keep up with him, believe me.  Until you all have lived with a kid who has 
ADHD and is truly out of control, you don't know how hard it is for the 
parents or the kids.  We don't need to be judged.  We don't need to be 
looked down on for having kids on meds.  Sometimes, making the difficult 
decision to put a child on medication is the best thing we can do for the 
child, and until you've been there, it's not only unhelpful, but also 
uncalled for, to talk badly about parents who are.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Jennifer Jackson" <jennifersjackson at att.net>
Sent: Wednesday, March 28, 2012 1:51 PM
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] an update

>
> I wish to request that we all be more careful about the generalizations 
> and
> assumptions we make on this list. This is not in response to any one
> message, but some of you have skated right up to the edge of calling me a
> bad mother and it is hard to not jump in the middle of that. My children 
> are
> bright and wonderful people. 2 of the 3 of them have severe ADHD and are 
> on
> meds for it. We have been to specialist and participated in all kinds of
> evaluations and testing. They have to have an education and need to be
> medicated to function in that environment. Yes, there were other choices 
> we
> might have made, but we had a lot to weigh into that decision and it was
> more than just about one of them being a little difficult to handle. I am
> asking that we try not to be so judgmental of other peoples choices and
> situations.
>
>
> Jennifer
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Tay Laurie
> Sent: Friday, March 30, 2012 3:14 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] an update
>
> hey Gabe,
> What I understand, drugs like methylphenyldate, etc, are literally
> methamphetamines. how in the name of $deity they're allowed for use on
> children is eyond me but somehow they are.
> Weed? I doubt. Coke? Not too likely. But meth, oh ye. Go read the 
> monographs
>
> on medlineplus for adderol, methyylfphenyldate, etc.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Gabe Vega" <theblindtech at gmail.com>
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Friday, March 30, 2012 4:08 AM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] an update
>
>
> dude serious? Coke and Weed in these mental pills? Sign me up! lol! :-) 
> No,
> seriously. What are you talking about. since I am not one to dismiss your
> claim all I ask is that you give me a link or two to read about this new
> finding. its hard to understand that if Coke and Weed are illegal in 
> smoking
>
> or powder/packed forms how they would then permit it in drugs for use in 
> our
>
> children?
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> On Mar 30, 2012, at 3:17 AM, Kate McEachern wrote:
>
>> I know this will light a fire under my but but this pissed me off.
>>
>> You know what, good luck.  It sounds like your Dad wants to do whats best
>> for your sun so he can't be exposed to backwoods quackery.  Maybe you
>> should cohnsitter being tested for ADHD or something because you sound
>> like a paranoyed person pleading a case.  There is no crack or pot in
>> meds.  That is why the feds don't want it leaglised because they will 
>> luse
>
>> money they get from stocks in drug compenies.  Meds are helpful for some
>> people, like manics and bypoler and PPD pervasive personality disorder.
>> Good luck with every thing and I'm glad your Dad is stepping in to help
>> your son.  Frankly I won't be reading your poasts because I will not 
>> waist
>
>> my time helping you have a pitty party.
>>
>> Good luck.
>> Kate
>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at gmail.com>
>> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Friday, March 30, 2012 1:41 AM
>> Subject: [blparent] an update
>>
>>
>>> Hi all. Yes, I have returned, but this time, like a ghost.
>>>
>>> I will say this once. I understand everyone has opinions and are 
>>> entitled
>
>>> to them. I'm not here to start an argument with you fine ladies and
>>> gentlemen.
>>>
>>> I'm dreading an appointment for my son, with the Behavioral Health
>>> specialist just so they can tell me my kid has ADD or ADHD. I've already
>>> told them and I'm making this clear to you, that I will not give my kid
>>> medicine because of an imbalance in the brain. In case you didn't know,
>>> the medicines the doctors put your kids on for ADD and ADHD, have
>>> marijuanaand cocaine in them. So it keeps your kid doped up and just
>>> keeps them sick.
>>> So, I don't know why my dad wants this appointment. He knows how I feel
>>> about avoiding any kind of medicine.
>>> There is a ray of hope here, the doctor that suggested the Behavioral
>>> Health testing, said that after the testing they'll see about getting 
>>> him
>
>>> tested for food allergies.
>>>
>>> Part of that tells me they're trying to control what I do with my son
>>> because when we went to the doctor, my dad started talking about his
>>> behavior in school. All because the doctor asked. When I was just going
>>> to get the food allergy testing first. I have a strong belief that the
>>> behavior has to do with a food allergy we don't know about and they want
>>> us to wait! I have one week to decide if I should cancel the appointment
>>> my dad and the doctor made.
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