[blparent] What's the right age?

[Erin Rumer]

Yes, and when I think more about the situation it might be good to also ask
the adult who will be looking after your daughter to just give you a
courtesy call or come to the door and tell you if locations are going to be
changed.  Older kids around can be a good thing or a bad thing because if
they're good kids then they can mentor and help look-out for your daughter
but if they're misgevious they could influence your daughter by exposing her
to language, activities  or ideas that is not appropriate or something she's
not ready to handle for her age.  I'd just do what you can to get to know
the adults and kids more in any way possible to help ease your mind.

Erin

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Melissa Ann Riccobono
Sent: Thursday, May 10, 2012 7:10 PM
To: 'Jo Elizabeth Pinto'; 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] What's the right age?

It certainly is hard to let go!  I would say however, that it might be a
good idea to talk to Sarah about checking with you before she changes
locations.  At least with my kids, I would feel really uncomfortable not
knowing where they were.  I'd also probably want to check with the adult at
the house just to make sure it was all right for my kids to be there.  Maybe
I am paranoid, but I wouldn't feel comfortable with my five year old leaving
the yard without me knowing where he was going.  Just my opinion for what
it's worth.  I'm glad everything turned out so well, and it certainly sounds
as if a lot of the kids were together which is always nice.  And, it also
sounds as if there are some responsible older kids to help look out for the
younger ones, which is also a plus.
Melissa

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Thursday, May 10, 2012 7:22 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] What's the right age?

Hi.  I have a question about when to lengthen the apron strings a little.

Sarah's friends were playing outside this afternoon.  There were two girls
of about ten, then one Sarah's age, and a younger kid who's maybe two or so.
I told Sarah she could go play ball with them.  I went into the house to
work for a little while because I knew Sarah was fine.  But when I went
outside to check, they weren't in the yard anymore.  They probably went into
the house to watch a movie or something.

So, when do you let them have a little room?  At four, is Sarah old enough
to be playing at someone else's house when I'm not there?  I don't want to
be one of those helicopter moms who hovers too much.  I know the mother of
the girls who live there.  But I thought they would stay in the yard.
Should I let it be, or go get her?

Sarah's dad thinks it's fine and I'm just acting a little paranoid.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
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