[blparent] children and trust

[Veronica Smith]

When gab was a toddler, the only time I used the leash was when we traveled.
She thought it great fun.  I was terrified that someone would just rush by
and take her without me seeing so I enforced the leach.  
Gab ran in the street once and only once and was punished harshly.  A child
knows when a harsh voice is used and maybe it was and is that she is a
sensitive child, but she never did it again.  
I harshly said, it is not okay to go in the street. I used that angry eyes
to the best of my ability. I squinched my face and lowered my voice.  
She was 3.
V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jodie and Kahlan
Sent: Tuesday, May 22, 2012 12:27 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] children and trust

Hi. I didn't want to send this before because I wasn't sure how I could do
it respectfully. Honestly, my first thought was to say that I won't treat my
child like a dog. But I thought about it and now I can see the potential use
for a leash. As for me, I would only use it as the very last resort. This is
just my opinion and I'm not trying to criticize anyone's parenting style.

I agree with Rebecca that freedom is earned and that Miles made a mistake,
but it's my opinion that if your child is kept on a leash at all times, he
or she won't have the chance to earn back your trust or his or her freedom.
Personally, I would try all the audio tips, and teach Kahlan to answer or
come when called. if she doesn't respond in some way when she's called, then
and only then would I use the leash because she proves to me then that she
can't be trusted yet. Until she learns to answer or come, I think the bells
and the child locator will be our best friends.

--
Hugs from Jodie and kahlan

good morning dialog. Either you can yawn and stretch and hit space on the
get out of bed button or tab to the snooze button. Remember if you hit space
on the cancel button, that means that you're not in your right mind to make
a decision at this current time. Cancel button. 
Sorry, we can't accept this response at this time. Please boot me up when
you're really and truly awake. Good bye button.


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