[blparent] when children get hurt

[Erin Rumer]

With my son I have always gone to him calmly and picked him up to comfort
him, unless I know he barely did anything and then I'll just verbally coach
him through it   by asking him if he's alright in a concerned but mellow
voice.  If he's crying because he did hurt himself I'm hugging him and
telling him to "hug the pane away" and I inspect him slowly to check for any
injuries.  I first try to see if my son is touching a certain spot like his
head or hand to tell me what he's hurt.  I also am taking a survey of the
area in my mind to think of what's around and what my son could have hurt
himself on.  I just speak calmly and quietly which helps him to calm quickly
and I speak to him with understanding saying things like, "That hurt didn't
it?" or "Did you get an Ouchy?"  I don't make a big deal about him getting
hurt but I also want him to know that I'm empathetic.  Then once I know he's
alright I kiss his Ouchy, tell him how strong he is and have him show me his
big muscles which he always likes and-or I sometimes playfully give the
thing that hurt him a spanking if I know what it was.  Most times this gets
my son feeling better right away when I take the focus off of him and firmly
tell the table to, "be nice to my Dawson".  The spanking thing is something
my mom used with me and she said it always made me feel better.  Sometimes
if my son is really hurt and it's not just a bump or little fall, I'll just
hold him and hug him and nursing also often times comforts him quickly.

Erin  

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Ronit Ovadia Mazzoni
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 1:42 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] when children get hurt

Hi list,
I have a question which may seem silly to many of you but I would appreciate
any tips you may have. Whenever Alex falls down or gets hurt somehow and I
am not right there to see what happened, I am having a hard time knowing how
he hurt himself and the severity of the injury. I know this will be
happening more once he learns to walk and I'd love your ideas on how to
handle this. Whenever I know he has hurt himself, I always inspect as best I
can with my hands to see if I feel any blood. Often times, however, he
doesn't let me check him out thoroughly because he is crying and he pushes
my hands away. HE is not old enough to tell me what hurts. We had an
incident at the park a few weeks ago when he cut his lip on a wooden rocking
horse and luckily my husband was there to help figure out how bad it was and
to put water on it etc, but I am terrified that he will get more seriously
hurt when I am by myself and I may not know what he hurt and how bad it is.
What have you all done?

Thanks in advance for your comments.
Ronit


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