[blparent] People holding my child

[Tammy]

Hi,

It's quite interesting to hear in a mom's group or wherever, some moms who 
seem to have no sense of fun and enjoyment where their baby's concerned. 
They do the everyday things, feeding, changing and bathing etc but seem to 
just go through the motions without creativity or imagination or even 
thought.  Our babies are only babies for a little while and I'm not sure I 
could just be a robot about it.  Even brushing Ashlyn's hair after a bath is 
great because her hair's nice and long and we talk and play games and it's 
good mommy baby time.  But they grow up so fast, and playing with them gives 
you an excuse to play too.

Tammy

-----Original Message----- 
From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 8:20 AM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] People holding my child

Some moms don't. I don't understand it but they don't.
I've had some interesting conversations with women who are now grandmas and 
great-grandmas. They all stress holding and enjoying your children and that 
it is very easy to get caught up in tasks that you don't do this. The 
mindset seems to be that you need to feed the baby, not enjoy him/her while 
he eats.
It's interesting to listen to what these women have to say.


-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jeri Milton
Sent: Tuesday, November 13, 2012 7:41 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] People holding my child

Unfortunately this reminds me of something one of my husband's aunts asked
me at a family gathering when Dylan was about four months old. We were
standing there with his aunt when one of his sister in-laws walked up and
asked to hold Dylan. We told her sure, then she proceeded to walk off with
him. I didn't like it, but I knew he was in good hands. So, the aunt was
telling me how cute she thought Dylan was and then she asks me...do you ever
hold him? Yes, she asked me if I ever hold my son! When the  aunt walked
away, I asked my husband what the heck was wrong with his family?

Jeri

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Veronica
Smith
Sent: Monday, November 12, 2012 5:09 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] People holding my child

Shelby, instead of telling your parents, tell the lady. Just say something
like this, you know I really don't mind if you hold him, but I don't like
when you take him.
It's not okay with me and he is my child.
I never liked when peeps did that either.  Not even my aunts or good
friends.  I need to know where my child is and since I cannot see im, it
makes me uneasy.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Shelby
Young
Sent: Monday, November 12, 2012 12:39 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] People holding my child

Hello,

About a month ago, I was at church with my parents, sisters and son.  I went
to the bench where my family was sitting.  My mom says, "let me see Jaxcen."
I handed him to her, no big deal.  She had said this lady wanted to look at
him and she was down by my mom.  This lady took him from my mom and walked
off to go sit clear across the room.  I got angry.  My parents kept telling
me it was ok because they new where he was.  It upset me so bad.  I was
almost crying.  Fanilly after about ten minutes my mom went to get him.  I
tried explaining how it made me feel but was told its ok she did that
because she really likes me and him.  I don't care if she really likes us,
its not ok with her taking my son.  A few weeks ago, I was nice and let this
same lady hold Jaxcen with me right by her.  She takes off down the hall
with him.  He was crying because he didn't want her.  He's a big mama's boy.
I followed her as she kept walking away with my son.  She kept saying you
don't need your mama, you don't need your mama.  I felt the same anger boil
up inside me.  I tried explaining to my parents again how it made me feel,
but they said the same thing.  How can I tell people no without being rood
and feeling bad?  Did I over react by getting so upset?

Shelby
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