[blparent] Please help me snap out of my pity-party

[Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)]

        Yes, this is exactly what I do.
Also Jennifer, you'll learn how to tell real quick if your kid is being honest when you check them or if they are screwing with you. This is a useful skill to know because you will be in situations where you have no way to varify the events that happened. This has way more to do with your kid being older then with blindness.


-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
Sent: Friday, October 26, 2012 10:40 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] Please help me snap out of my pity-party

I know this is an old post, but I couldn't resist in replying.
I used to worry that I was missing out with Gab and all the sighted things
we could be doing.
So I invested in raised line coloring books and for the most part, she was
intrigued by them for a week.  We colored together and then she brought out
her regular ones and said I colored nicer here.  I just got a crayon and
colored round and round in a tiny corner and she was delighted with this. No
frills, really at 3, though my child was also very very bright, coloring in
the lines or out wasn't a big deal to her.
As for playing with water, in a place where she souldn't, it's wter and
cleans right up.  I stressed that water should only be in the kitchen or
outdoors and I always kept cups for lids.  Glue was only kept up high and if
we wanted to work with it, it had to be when mommy had time.
We also got blank paper and colored on it, creating as we went.  It's your
turn, now mine. Actually that was more fun than the coloring books in her
opinion.
It is more difficult for you because you have 2, but you know the 3 of you
can play games.
The Twin vision books are marvelous, best of both worlds

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jennifer
Bose
Sent: Thursday, October 25, 2012 1:23 PM
To: blparent
Subject: [blparent] Please help me snap out of my pity-party

Hi, parents.

Overall, I tend to think of blindness as just inconvenient. But sometimes,
blindness and parenthood together get me started on thinking of blindness as
a real pain. I guess there are always issues that will present challenges
for anyone, and mine aren't all that big, I realize. But here they are:

My two daughters are three years old and six months old. While I'm paying
attention to my baby and I'm alone with both of them, I find it tough to
track what my three-year-old is doing. If I'm well-rested, this isn't such a
big deal. But if I'm tired, it's more than frustrating. She's very bright
and independent and often surprises me with all the things she can now do on
her own. But there are times when I'll discover that she's playing with
water or glue in a place where she shouldn't, and then I've thought to
myself: Well, if I'd seen her with that water glass, this never would have
happened!

And then, there's this whole world of visual media that I wish I could share
with her. All the picture books, DVDs, coloring books--I feel like they're
off limits to me and that I miss out on all the fun she has going through
them with other people. Not that she should necessarily learn everything
from me, but she and I don't get to engage each other through any of that.

Ugh! I'm making myself really depressed and a little nauseated here. I guess
this is when I should start being grateful for what I have.
Please, have any of you ever felt these frustrations? What do you say to
yourself, or what do you do, to get your positive attitude back?

Thanks for reading this rant. I know it will survive in cyberspace forever.
Oh, well ...

Good times. Starting to laugh already!
Jen

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