[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
Marla Wertman
mwertman72 at gmail.com
Sat Sep 8 02:59:36 UTC 2012
Maybe people should just stop replying to him and ignore him completely.
Sounds to me like he just wants attention.
On Fri, 7 Sep 2012 18:17:00 -0600
"Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
> *I'm* done? You're thankful *I'm* done? You condescending, arrogant,
> self-righteous piece of work! You called me names, referred to all of us on
> this list as 'blindies' even though you had been told it was offensive, made
> assumptions about how we all deal with, or don't deal with, confrontation in
> our personal lives, and now you're saying you're thankful I'm done! You
> have some damn nerve. You are the most abrasive, self-important, unpleasant
> person I've ever had the displeasure of meeting. This is a wonderful list
> full of intelligent, articulate, insightful parents, and except for you,
> I've really enjoyed my time here. But you take every post you can and put
> it in the worst possible light, then add your rude remarks at every turn.
> And when you're finished spewing out your venom, you move on, and act like
> whoever replies after your interest has expired is needlessly rehashing old
> stuff.
>
> Sorry for the blow-up, everybody, but I've had a gutful. If I get kicked
> off the list for my comments, please know it's been a good run! I'll miss
> most of you very much.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's
> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived and
> died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Gabe Vega
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 5:43 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>
> Well I'm thankful you are done. now, lets move on shell we?
> Gabe Vega - Sent from my MacbookAir
> Blog: http://thebt.net
> iMessage/Email: theblindtech at gmail.com
> Phone: (623) 565-9357
>
> On Sep 7, 2012, at 4:24 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
>
> > I'm not quite over "big barny tough girl" or "cowers from confrontation"
> > yet. Sorry. If you insist on personally attacking fellow list members,
> > you have to realize it will take time for the hard feelings to wear off.
> > Veronica was asking for common courtesy, which never goes out of style.
> > I've said all I'm going to.
> >
> > Jo Elizabeth
> >
> > I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's
> > brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived
> > and died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
> > -----Original Message----- From: Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
> > Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 4:59 PM
> > To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> > Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
> > Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
> >
> > Seriously? Joe Elizabeth? You want to start again? You really can't leave
> > it alone? Must you get the last word?
> >
> > Gabe Vega
> > Sent from my iPhone
> > (623) 565-9357
> >
> > On Sep 7, 2012, at 3:44 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
> >
> >> Frankly, her remarks are still very applicable. Thank you, Veronica.
> >>
> >> Jo Elizabeth
> >>
> >> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's
> >> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived
> >> and died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
> >> -----Original Message----- From: Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
> >> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 4:05 PM
> >> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> >> Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
> >>
> >> Veronica, you are responding to seven day old messages. You are
> >> responding to old messages that are over and done with. Please check the
> >> date of the messages you're responding to, I think you're thinking I sent
> >> is recently but these were sent a week ago
> >>
> >> Gabe Vega
> >> Sent from my iPhone
> >> (623) 565-9357
> >>
> >> On Sep 7, 2012, at 2:39 PM, "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> >> wrote:
> >>
> >>> Gabe, there you go again being hateful. Keep those unkind remarks to
> >>> yourself and stick with the topic. I, for one, do not think it is off
> >>> topic as we are talking parenting here. And if I recall correctly, we
> >>> all are blind parents. Right?
> >>>
> >>> -----Original Message-----
> >>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> >>> On Behalf Of Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
> >>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 10:12 PM
> >>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> >>> Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
> >>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
> >>>
> >>> grandmas house, grandmas rules. dont like it, dont go back. simple as
> >>> that. and its still off topic. and blindies only get mistreated if they
> >>> allow it. its funny how joe thinks she is a big barny tough girl on
> >>> list, but in real life, she just like the rest who use this act. and
> >>> cowars from confrontation because it on an email list and partially
> >>> annonymous. :-)
> >>>
> >>> Gabe Vega
> >>> Sent from my iPhone
> >>> (623) 565-9357
> >>>
> >>> On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:55 PM, "Angie Matney" <angie.matney at gmail.com>
> >>> wrote:
> >>>
> >>>> Actually, Gabe's text is at the bottom of the post. He said that
> >>>> grandma's rules should apply.
> >>>>
> >>>> Sorry, no one but me gets to decide what my kid eats, unless I'm not
> >>>> around and that person has responsibility for my child. It was very
> >>>> disrespectful of this woman to try to interpose herself in the
> >>>> parent-child relationship.
> >>>>
> >>>> And I do think this is blindness-related, because people tend to
> >>>> infantilize blind adults. I wonder if this woman would have done the
> >>>> same thing to a sighted parent.
> >>>>
> >>>> As for what you can do now, you could calmly explain to her that you
> >>>> make the rules for Sarah, and if she can respect that, then her
> >>>> informal grandmother-type relationship can continue.
> >>>>
> >>>> Best of luck.
> >>>>
> >>>>
> >>>>
> >>>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Kate McEachern"
> >>>> <kflsouth at gmail.com>
> >>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >>>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:37 PM
> >>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
> >>>>
> >>>>
> >>>>> Gabe nothing is written here.
> >>>>> Katie
> >>>>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S"
> >>>>> <theblindtech at gmail.com>
> >>>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >>>>> Cc: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >>>>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:31 PM
> >>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
> >>>>>
> >>>>>
> >>>>>>
> >>>>>>
> >>>>>> Gabe Vega
> >>>>>> Sent from my iPhone
> >>>>>> (623) 565-9357
> >>>>>>
> >>>>>> On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:14 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
> >>>>>> wrote:
> >>>>>>
> >>>>>>> I know this may not sound blindness related, but it kind of is in a
> >>>>>>> way because my daughters adopted Nanna tends to take over a lot
> >>>>>>> instead of letting me be the mom. Shes been there all of my
> >>>>>>> daughters life, knitted her a blanket, kept her overnight, all the
> >>>>>>> things a grandma loves to do. I love her dearly. But, frankly, shes
> >>>>>>> pushy.
> >>>>>>>
> >>>>>>> There was a situation that happened today while we were at her house
> >>>>>>> for a barbecue. A bunch of us from church had contributed food.My
> >>>>>>> daughter had eaten a fairly balanced meal, so I wasnt worried about
> >>>>>>> her nutrition. When it came time for dessert, she chose to have a
> >>>>>>> piece of carrot cake, which she promptly ate the frosting off of and
> >>>>>>> then lost interest in. Par for the course. Then she asked Nanna
> >>>>>>> for some lemon cake. Lots of us were just having little smidges of
> >>>>>>> each kind, so I was surprised when Nanna said no, there was still
> >>>>>>> cake on her plate. I could see it if she hadnt eaten dinner first,
> >>>>>>> but she had, so I thought that was ridiculous. Trying to keep the
> >>>>>>> mood light, I reached over and took the cake off my daughters dish,
> >>>>>>> then said, Okay, tell Nanna your plates clean. Nanna still
> >>>>>>> refused to give her the lemon cake. My daughter started to pitch a
> >>>>>>> fit in true four-year-old fashion, screeching and waving her arms
> >>>>>>> around. Nanna told her to go sit on the stairs till she was ready
> >>>>>>> to be fit company. I said no, shes my daughter and Im in charge
> >>>>>>> here. Nanna told me, raising her voice, that we were in her house,
> >>>>>>> so her rules came first. I said I didnt appreciate her yelling at
> >>>>>>> me, and that if she wouldnt serve my daughter a slice of lemon
> >>>>>>> cake, I would do it myself. I guess Nannas husband had gotten his
> >>>>>>> fill by that time because he cut my daughter a slice of cake and
> >>>>>>> gave it to her without saying anything.
> >>>>>>>
> >>>>>>> I know that situation should ideally not have happened in front of
> >>>>>>> my daughter, but it did. Im not looking for anybody to get on my
> >>>>>>> case, but Im interested in some answers from other blind parents.
> >>>>>>> Whose rules should have taken precedence? Is there anything I can
> >>>>>>> do about it now?
> >>>>>>>
> >>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
> >>>>>>>
> >>>>>>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of
> >>>>>>> Einstein's brain than in the near certainty that people of equal
> >>>>>>> talent have lived and died in cotton fields and
> >>>>>>> sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
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> >>>>>>> Grandma's house, grandma's rules. Yes I know she's your daughter,
> >>>>>>> and if this was another strangers house your rules would stand. But
> >>>>>>> in a normal house, with a grandma parent relationship grandmas house
> >>>>>>> trumps all. It is her house, her roles, sorry you feel that way. Now
> >>>>>>> you may always choose never to return to grandmas house, if you
> >>>>>>> don't like the way grandma runs her house. But again, that is up to
> >>>>>>> you. But this situation is all about respect, her grandma issued her
> >>>>>>> decree, and you chose to try and overcome per. This is very
> >>>>>>> disrespectful no matter what culture you're in, this will not stand
> >>>>>>> in my house, and my daughters grandma would always overcut me as a
> >>>>>>> sign of respect. Right or wrong. So please, take it for what it is
> >>>>>>> take your losses and make a decision, you either like the other
> >>>>>>> situations you have been with grandma, and this is a small think you
> >>>>>>> could get over. Or you could choose to not like it, her, or any
> >>>>>>> future situation, and just never return to her house. Very simple,
> >>>>>>> if you ask me.
> >>>>>>
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