[blparent] playgrounds and climbing structures

Wed Sep 19 03:52:47 UTC 2012

Hi.  The great thing about this list is you can take the advice that works 
for you, use it, and leave the rest.

I would worry about a leash getting tangled around parts of the structure or 
around other children.  A retractible leash might be safer than just a long 
one that doesn't retract.  Until your son is more steady on his feet, could 
you maybe find parks that have sandboxes to play in, or structures that are 
safer?  One suggestion might be a place like McDonald's or Chick FilA.  All 
of the edges on those indoor structures are fenced off, probably to prevent 
falls and lawsuits.  There are usually indoor playgrounds at malls as well. 
Another idea to consider is taking a slightly older child with you to the 
park, if you have a niece or nephew or a family friend.  The children could 
play together, but you could give the older child some responsibility, which 
many kids love, for keeping an eye on your son to make sure he doesn't get 
close to the edges of the structures.  Kids love to help, and of course, 
you'd be right there because you couldn't depend on a child one hundred 
percent, but still, it might be a way to bridge the gap from being there 
every step of the way to letting your son have more independence.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Ronit Ovadia Mazzoni
Sent: Tuesday, September 18, 2012 9:01 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] playgrounds and climbing structures

Hi everyone,
Thanks for your responses. I guess I described the structure incurrectly
because there were several places with drop-offs from high locations.
Toddlers were playing on it but maybe it was not meant for toddlers. There
were only rails on certain parts of the structure, not all parts. That is
why I was nervous. My son is cautious, it's true, but he doesn't know when
not to go off a ledge or down a stair. There were many stairs and he doesn't
know how to go down stairs and he doesn't realize that he doesn't know how,
so that was also a worry of mine.

The suggestion of using my telescoping cane folded up is a good idea. I will
try that next time. I also have a leash and have started using it with him
just around our complex. I never thought of using it on the playground or
structures. I will have to try this to see if it would be a good solution, I
wouldn't want the leash part to get tangled while he was playing.

Thanks for your thoughts. I don't feel comfortable just walking alongside
this type of structure with all the openings yet, but maybe as he gets more
stable and older, I will.
Thanks.
Ronit

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Bernadetta Pracon
Sent: Tuesday, September 18, 2012 6:50 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: Re: [blparent] playgrounds and climbing structures

Ronit,
Could you possibly walk alongside the structure on one side? If this is a
toddler structure, I can't imagine that it's very tall, nor that it's not
secured with rails on either side, or something similar. It's a tough call
with newly walking toddlers, because though you want them to explore their
environment and have experiences appropriate to their age, you also want to
watch out for their safety.
I think you should stay close by and walk alongside or even around the
structure as your son explores it,  and ask an available person who might be
willing to just keep an eye on him from time to time and let you know if
anything's wrong. Climing up into the structure, while it might help you
feel at ease regarding your son's safety, it will frustrate him, like you
said, and might prohibit him from being able to establish friendships and
connections with other kids at the park.
Because, as you said, other mothers aren't in the structure with their kids,
so he might feel a little too singled out--the other kids might see that as
well. True, you have to approach things differently, and as a mother of a
small child, I completely understand your apprehension for his safety. But
sometimes, you just have to let things happen.
Blind or sighted, if parents let their kids explore and play, injuries are
bound to occur. Kids are kids. they have accidents. Yes, you might be
scrutinized more heavily as a blind parent by onlookers and such, but the
kids of sighted parents get into trouble at playgrounds too.
It's really a question of how much you are willing to let him explore and
how you'll deal with the potential of him getting injured--even slightly.
My uncle took my two year old cousin to a playground a few years ago.
He's a sighted, responsible parent. She went down a slide just a foot away
from where he stood and her arm happened to be angled a certain way, so that
while she slid down, her arm broke in two places. He wasn't really able to
do anything about preventing it short of not allowing her to go down the
slide, or personally taking her down it.
Sometimes, we just have to allow our kids a little bit of freedom, even if
they're as small as toddlers. It's important for a child's independents to
be able to explore in a presumed safe setting. I'm not saying we should
allow  or kids to roam the streets alone or take bike rides at ten o'clock
at night, but if you're at a playground and you're supervising your kid,
there's only so much you can do. Let him go and explore a little.
If you need a piece of mind, perhaps you can go to the park when there
aren't any kids around, or at least not on that particular structure, and
have someone sighted explain it to you in thorough detail. You can even go
inside of it to explore it on your own and commit it to memory, so that you
can better gauge whether  this is safe for your son to go it alone.
That's an idea.
Hope it helps.

Bernadetta

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