[blparent] New Parent Introduction

Jo Elizabeth Pinto jopinto at msn.com
Thu Sep 20 06:13:41 UTC 2012 

We are extremely blessed to live in a place and time where childbirth is 
almost always safe for moms and babies.  After my C-section, the doctor told 
my boyfriend that I could have pushed till the end of time, and my baby 
would never have come out with the way her head was turned.  He said a 
hundred years ago, he would have had to look my boyfriend in the eye and ask 
him which one of us to save, me or the baby.  There was no sure way to sew a 
woman up after opening the abdomen and uterus, and the only other options 
were to let the mother push till she died of exhaustion or take the baby out 
in pieces.  It really gets under my skin when people complain that doctors 
in this country are too quick to intervene with C-sections and other 
emergency measures.  Maybe they are, but to me, it seems better than the 
times, even as late as our grandparents' day, when almost every family lost 
at least one baby, often more, and countless women still died in childbirth 
as well.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Erin Rumer
Sent: Wednesday, September 19, 2012 10:57 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] New Parent Introduction

Yes, this is what I did and it worked out great.  A close friend watched my
guide while I was delivering and for nearly an entire day after our son was
born.  Then when I felt ready, my guide came to stay with us in the hospital
and my husband took care of his needs.

I too had hopes like any mother to deliver vaginally and although I had
prepared myself well for anything, I hoped to deliver naturally.  Well, 7.5
hours of natural labor later I decided to get an epidural because I had
preeclampsia during labor, my son was postearier which means he was faced
the wrong way which makes labor much more difficult and painful, his head
was turned and slamming into my pelvis and he was in distress.  I labored
with the epidural for two more hours and since I was dilating slowly and my
son had pooped in the water we decided to go ahead with an emergency
C-Section before anything went wrong.  The doctor put it this way: She said
that after about four more hours of delivering I could have a perfectly
healthy baby after a horrid delivery or I could have a baby with a lot of
medical problems because of all the problems during delivery.  We knew right
then that we weren't going to take our chances and even though she wasn't my
personal OBGYN but instead the one on call, she turned out to be an amazing
surgeon to the point that I didn't even need any narcotics after the surgery
because it didn't hurt bad enough to need them.  Something else that proved
to be a perk from the C-Section is that I used to have quite painful periods
and now that there is scar tissue on my uterus from the surgery I hardly
ever feel anything at all when my period comes on.  Our son was born healthy
and happy and is a handsome and intelligent little pumpkin which is all any
parent could hope and pray for.  Even though my delivery through us for a
loop after a perfect pregnancy, we just feel blessed that we even had the
options that we do in this country to get our son delivered in the way he
was.  It scared me to death at the thought of how I might have died along
with our son if we lived in a third world country and I know this goes for a
lot of us.  We are very blessed to be in America with so many choices and
medical technology.

Erin

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Wednesday, September 19, 2012 7:28 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] New Parent Introduction

The hospital has the right to keep dogs, even service dogs, out of the
operating room if there is a C-section.  Operating rooms aren't open to the
public.  If you do decide to have your dog at the hospital, I would
recommend assigning a person besides your fiance to be responsible for
taking the dog out, watering it, and watching over it if you need surgery.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message-----
From: pegapooh2000
Sent: Wednesday, September 19, 2012 7:00 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] New Parent Introduction

You know your dog and what he/she can handle, I have had three kids and not
on

Congrats on the pregnancy and welcome to the list, I hope you enjoy it here
and get helpful info.

ce have I brought my guides.  My last one, a little shepherd, dog not kid,
wouldn't have done well at all, she gets real nervous away from Mommy and
that's anything over a couple feet, lol.  I just think, as has been said, it
would cause the dog a lot of worry and anxiety.  But you know your dog and
maybe he/she would be okay.  But if a c-section is performed I can tell you
they won't allow her in the oporating rooms.

Also, and I hate to say this, because your spouse is sighted I'll bet you
will have no troubles with HHS.  Oh the stories on here and I feel so bad
for all of you blind parents going through this but ... with my last two
kids ... my partners have been sighted and I've had no problems.  Unfair,
definitely, but true nonetheless.

-----Original Message-----
From: Tracey Turri
Sent: Wednesday, September 19, 2012 12:56 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] New Parent Introduction

Hello Erin,
Your post reasured me on several points.  I did wonder how to do the actual
doggy baby introduction.  I've herd people have the dogs in the room dureing
the birth, but Pria gets nurvis if she thinks I'm in pain, and from what
I've herd it will be quite painfull.  Easier all around I would guess to
wate until after baby arives and I have the energy to do things rite.
Did the hospital give you guys a hard time bringing a service  animal into
the mother baby unit since he was with someone else?  I did put in my birth
plan (yes I do have one all ready) lol that I want Pria to be introduced to
the baby before we leave the hospital.
I did have to laugh about the breast milk, trying to steal a treat sounds
like something my yellow girl mite try. Lol Dawson sounds adorable, I bet
now he's a little older he and Provo are buddies.
If you don't mind, ware did you get Provo from, and did the school help you
with the transition?

On 9/19/12, Erin Rumer <erinrumer at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hello Tracey,
>
> First off I'd like to welcome you to the group and congratulate you on
> your little bundle.  This is a very exciting and wonderful time for
> you and your family.
>
> My name is Erin and my husband David, 22.5 month old son Dawson and
> male black Labrador guide dog Provo and I all reside in San Diego.
> Provo also new that something was different when I was pregnant,
> especially toward my 2nd and 3rd trimesters.  It was so sweet how he'd
> put his head on my stomach and slow his pace for me as I became bigger
> with baby.  Dogs are very in-tune to what's going on and your pup
> should adjust beautifully to your new baby.  We first introduced Provo
> to Dawson's cent by having my husband meet Provo in the hallway of the
> hospital before coming into my room.  My friend who was watching Provo
> held Provo's leash as David let Provo smell Dawson's hat that they
> first put on him after he was born.  Provo first thought that he was
> being offered a treat and tried to eat the hat but that's a Labrador
> for you. GRIN  After Provo got his jollies out in the hallway meeting
> daddy and smelling baby's sent, my husband then brought Provo into the
> room where I was with our son.  Provo was really excited to see me but
> quickly stepped back cautiously once he saw Dawson.  I praised Provo
> for being so gentle and never forced him to come toward Dawson.  I let
> him do everything at his own pace and comfort level.  I had also
> received a C-Section so Provo could tell that I was hurting a bit and
> moving differently so I think that added to the extra level of
> caution.  It took about a day and a half in the hospital for Provo to
> really come up and give Dawson a full once-over.  Before we knew it,
> Provo was licking Dawson all over and giving him loving nudges with
> his nose.  Once I got home I made sure to treat Provo like the big
> brother in a sense.  Any time Provo came over to Dawson I praised him
> and gave him lots of pets and even food rewards at times.  I
> especially used food reward when Dawson cried so that way he wasn't
> overly concerned or upset when the baby wasn't happy about something.
> I actually started the food reward attached to the sound of baby cries
> before Dawson was even born by watching shows on TV with those sounds
> and rewarding Provo that way.  This got Provo used to the sound and he
> quickly associated the noise with a positive thing.  My husband also
> took on an extra role of being Provo's walking buddy for a while as I
> was heeling from my surgery and getting my routine down with our son.
> I took Dawson's nap times as a time to give Provo a few extra minutes
> of just him and mommy which he appreciated a lot.  Provo was very
> interested in my breast milk when my milk started dropping because of
> the sweet smell.  I had to tell him that this treat wasn't for him but
> only baby.  That was probably the only major jealousy he had but the
> new toys and extra treats helped ease the blow.
>
> I hope this all helps and enjoy your months of pregnancy.  It's the
> most amazing feeling as your baby grows inside of you.
>
> Erin and Dawson
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Tracey Turri
> Sent: Wednesday, September 19, 2012 9:59 AM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] New Parent Introduction
>
> Hello parents,
> My name is Tracey, and I am expecting my first child in early Apr of
> next year.  I have very little usable vision, just light, dark,
> cullors and shaddos.  Being a parent has always been the one thing I
> have wanted to acomplish in my life, I feal my purpus in life is to be
> a mom, that said the fact I am blind has, and I am sure will present a
> few more chalenges thrue this jurney than for a sighted mother.  My
> fiancee Ian and I, (Ian is fully sighted by the way) are both very
> excited to become parents and would love to get advice from others who
> have been there.
> One of my first questions is how to introduce baby and your guide dog.
>  My yellow lab Pria I think all ready is guessing something is up with
> mom, she's been more clingy and attentive over the passed few weeks
> (maby the fact I've had morning sickness plays a roal in that?)  Plus
> last week when we had the first altrosound she wasn't quite sure about
> the woosh woosh woosh noise of the babies heart beting coming out of
> the computer, Ian thinks she thought the doctor was hurting me.  We've
> been giving her the usual amount of attention and walkies, work and
> leasure, and trying to keep her ruteen as normal as possible, but I
> would like her to be prepaired once little one comes home.
> I am so greatful that their is a list for blind parents to unite and
> support one another with out worrieing about someone trying to take
> our children away if were having a little bit of a hard time.  In kace
> you couldn't tell, that's something that really worries me, someone
> making an arbitrary judgment that I shouldn't be aloud to parent just
> because of the blindness issue.
> Ok, reading back over this, I find that I am blabbing, so I'll stop
> now, but I am looking forward to learning from and hopefully making
> new friends with you.
> Have a blessed day,
> Tracey
>
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