[blparent] "Just trust me"

[Joanne Zucker]

The following is a little story about my husband, more than our children....but, one of our children was present and the others also observe how I function and "survive" in a sighted world....  

My husband, whom I love very much, has a famous line that he says....."just trust me". I really don't mind that he says this.  However, (I bet I know that you knew that this was coming...)
 
However, as my vision has deteriorated some over the last 10+ years, "just trust me" doesn't cut it when it comes to safety issues....a little communication would be best, especially when there is a potential for danger and there is time to say something/be a little more descriptive. I think he is just being lazy.  

Here was the situation... My 12 year old son was taking dinner out of the oven, that he had made, and my husband was handing me a hot pad for the table.  I couldn't see what he was holding and he was not forth coming with details as to what was transpiring, as I did not have any clues as to what he was getting at.  I asked what he wanted and he said, "Here, take this." I asked him what he needed. His reply, "Just trust me."  I was approaching him to find out...I still was unable to see what he wanted until he was getting short with me and I was finally able to see what my son was doing.  

I explained to him that all he needed to say was, "Put the hot pad on the table."  I tried to explained how my vision impairs my ability to pick up on the visual clues of what is going on.  He still replied with, Just trust me."  He just did not understand my point of view.

I left furious and offended that he didn't get it.  His little quote is just not acceptable at times.....I can understand when it is a serious safety....life/death concern....not when there was time to say 4 more words than his blanket statement.

Anyways, just a little bit about me.....I was born legally blind due to congenital rubella, with a visually acuity fluctuating between 20/200-20/800.  And, now my visual acuity ranges between 20/2000 and20/2400.  I don't quite understand the significance/severity of the change because it was so gradual....but I do notice the difference when viewing things close up....It is definitely worse.....maybe the example above is showing me how my distance is getting worse....and how I need to share/explain this to my husband.

I am open to suggestions....

Thank you.

Joanne

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