[blparent] update on our lives

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

You're husband will be in my thoughts and prayers as well, Tammy.




Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Tammy
Sent: Saturday, February 02, 2013 9:15 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] update on our lives

Hi,

Quick advice, let him do it in his own time, but talk to your doctor just in
case something is off.  I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time,
and that you're sick alot of it.  I am on the other side of the fence from
you, my husband just started Chemo but we've been battling this illness now
for over a year and it's a challenge even at the best of times.  Add to that
a child who won't go to the bathroom on his own and I think I might lose my
mind.  Keep the faith, it will give you strength, and know that things will
get better.  I'll pray for you and your family.

hth

Tammy
-----Original Message----- 
From: Shannan Zinck
Sent: Saturday, February 02, 2013 5:53 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] update on our lives

Meh He would refuse sometimes and not others, just depends on his mood.

Today I was talking about this to some very close friends and their
suggestion was to plant him on the toilet until he goes and hold him there.
It turned my stomach to think about doing that. They say it worked for
them. They basically shot down the thought that there might be something
holding him back. Not sure how to feel about that. When I mentioned that he
doesn't even bat an eye or make any indication when he poops they just said
he was too distracted to notice. When I say things on list with you guys
I'm not overly daunted by negative remarks but, from them it's
discouraging. My son is a person with feelings and not an ox to be goaded,
or in this case man handled into submission. I know kids need discipline
but, how far should that really go I mean I of all people should know how
my son feels, I wet the bed til I was twelve and my parents never bothered
to get me checked, so I got teased by not only my peers but, also my
family. I can't put him through that if there is something preventing him
he has the right to time and help if needed right? We live in a network
where if I get outside help it will be royally frowned upon and we are
already being ribbed because of my health issues, we get teased almost
daily and my husband never hears the end of questions like "are you allowed
to come out and play? Or will your wife let you?" I get sick a lot always
have which makes things difficult for all of us let alone our peers
constantly at us besides. Now the late potty thing is just another thing to
pick at. If I try to go with the fact that he's a bit under developed I
just get flack and if I try to involve a doc I'll get the whole thing of
lack of faith. (for those that are not christians ignore this part, unless
you've been there you wouldn't get it and by no means does this reflect on
who God is it's just how some humans perceive God sees us. pleas do not
blame him.") Back on track, Is it even right to force your child to sit for
endless amounts of time on the toilet making him wait to poop and who truly
has the time for that anyway. I'd be there for hours at a time I'm sure,
when I said that they just said that's the way it goes basically.
GRRRRRRR!!! I'm so frustrated. Can my child truly rule me just because I
let him take his time to train. MAN my head hurts.

-- 
Shannan Zinck
Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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