[blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

[Tammy]

Hi,

Rebecca, this is none of your business, and how dare you judge her!  This 
decision is probably one of the hardest decision she's ever had to make and 
you sit up there on your high horse and pretend you even have a clue what 
you're talking about here?  You don't know what kind of hell she's going 
through right now, and I'm thankful that you don't, but then how can you 
judge?  Do you know how hard it is to have a nursery all set up for your 
baby to come home to  and have them not able to sleep, eat and play there 
because some organization says you're not good enough?  Do you know how hard 
it is to have to see your child at appointed hours in someone else's house 
and have your child look to someone else for necessities when you know that 
should be you?  Do you know the constantt pressure that's put on parents of 
children in foster care to give up their children and how hard it is for 
those parents to fight to get their children back?  Finally, do you know the 
pain of giving up your children to that same system knowing that you, as a 
parent will never be the same again?    I'm not saying you have to support a 
decision like this one, but then why not just not say anything?  Sorry all, 
but I'm sickened by the below!!!

Tammy

-----Original Message----- 
From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 9:56 AM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

Yes, this also made me very sad.
And, what about your daughter's father? He does have a say as this article 
will demonstrate.
http://gma.yahoo.com/sgt-reunited-baby-given-adoption-181449034--abc-news-topstories.html

Also, do you have anybody in your corner? 16 months is a rough age for many 
parents because your kid has the needs of a baby, but the mobility of a big 
kid. Combine these two with absolutely no impulse control and you can have 
moments that make you wonder why you ever thought a child was a good idea. 
These moments should pass though.
Have you spent enough time to know that you can care for your daughter 
compitently?  Have you gotten your mental health checked? You've been on 
this road for awhile, and you are giving up your rights at a difficult time 
of year and at a difficult time in your child's development.  At 16 months, 
my daughter hadn't yet called me mommy. At 16 months, I was convinced she 
was part cat, she only wanted me for food and when she wanted something, not 
at all when I wanted to interact with her. By about 2, that turned around. 
She was calling me Mommy. She began to share interests with me. By 3, she 
was introducing me to her own interests.  Yesterday we went to a museum that 
bored me to tears as a kid. We had a wonderful time together.
You didn't ask, so I don't know why I'm sharing my oppinion.  It just seems 
to be a short-sited decision with incomplete information. Also, you didn't 
mention the father, and I had just seen the article I posted.  You can do 
what you want, know that he also has the same right. If he hasn't been given 
the oppertunity to make his wishes known, this ain't over yet.


-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gabe Vega 
Via Iphone4S
Sent: Sunday, January 27, 2013 11:26 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Cc: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee


Wow, I'll be honest. I've almost been to this point. When I fought for my 
daughter, the fight was overwhelming. I do understand, but I don't think it 
would take something like this to ever make me reach a point. I support your 
decision, and maybe it was a losing battle to begin with. I'm sorry, I 
really am sorry.
Gabe Vega
Sent from my iPhone
(623) 565-9357

On Jan 27, 2013, at 9:05 AM, Jess  <ashleejessandmark2012 at gmail.com> wrote:

> Ashlee is now almost. Sixteen months. She crawling. She recently just 
> started walking.  She's already showing interest in potty-training. I've 
> made the decision to surrender my parental rights because I know that 
> she's safe with the foster family. And,I just want all the court stuff to 
> be done.
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