[blparent] child support

Fri Jan 10 03:28:19 UTC 2014

Feel free to share here, though with the caveat that anything you put on
line is really not very private anymore. So, do not write anything that you
would not want a screen shot of being used in court or whatever. :)

I can promise you that many of us have shared some less than stellar things
about ourselves and our families here. I doubt you can surprise us, but we
are often quite blunt in sharing our responses.

Jennifer
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Kimsan
Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 6:00 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: [blparent] child support

I am not sure if one will view this as me being selfish or what the
perception might be but here it is...
My x-wife, when she left, her words were "I don't need a man, I don't need
your money, I will do it all on my own."  However, things changed after the
divorce was finalized, and she was ordered to pay me child support.  She
told me, I will not send you the required monthly payment and I will only
send money when the kids needed something.  With her new found love and
life, I thought I was in the clear and I began rebuilding and now I am
finally up to speed and the girls are emotionally stable.  It was a tough
road but we gotter done.
		I am entitled child support, but instead of dealing with her
excuses, I thought the hell with it and I will hussle to make the money
myself, which I have not had any issues for several months now.  Some
excuses were,"if I have to pay $200 a month based on what I am making, I
will not be able to support myself, or have money to go see the girls." 
This is not me bashing, but my x is a mess, and with me living right across
the street from her parents, great people by the way, but let's just say
that the apple does not fall far from the tree.  A new development just
occurred, and I have a new possible battle coming up within 24-hours.  I
will not disclose the details, unless people want to know, and hey, based on
the circumstances, the possible solutions might be helpful.  I'm real
nervous right now...

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jennifer
Stewart Jackson
Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 2:57 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand

I agree with Rebecca on this child support issue. There are things you will
not be able to pay for otherwise and that is true of any parent. Believe me
it was a big help when my kids Dad came up with the $500 we plopped down at
the beginning of this wrestling season, and wrestling is one of the cheaper
activities. Gymnastics or dance will run about $100 a month per kid and
musical instruments are not cheap. . Your daughters are going to have more
expenses as they age and their mother owes them these opportunities.

I do not want to pry into your family business, so please just consider what
I am about to ad and do not feel you have to share details with us. I know
that sometimes a parent gives up pursuing child support to protect a child
or children from a bad situation with the other parent. Perhaps involving
drugs or some other abuse. That is completely different and obviously more
important than the reasons I gave for pursuing child support.

Jennifer

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star Gazer
Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 4:01 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand

Really, I'd get child support (unless you are trying to avoid paying it??)
as it's to bennifit your children. You're legally entitled to it and unless
all you'd be getting $10 a month or so, it would help your budget.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Kimsan
Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 2:42 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand

Yes, we have the city bus, the door-to-door service, but they are not the
greatest as they have gotten me to appointments late more than once.
The cab, there is a 15 dollar boarding fee and I can't remember how much it
would've been per-mile.  In short, nothing I could've make fit in my budget.
I'm trying to stay away from child support as that will open up a whole new
can of worms lol, and I hate worms..

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo
Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 11:34 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand

Do you have paratransit?  How expensive are cabs, just for rainy days?

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message-----
From: Kimsan
Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 12:07 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand

No worries. I didn't think you were trying to betlittle me.
I should've chosen my words carefully, what I tried to say was that I am not
the only blind person experiencing what I went through and am currently
going through.
As I write this, I am in the process in making calls to see about what "good
survices" there are here for the blind. Public transportation sucks and with
my busy schedule, I need to figure out how to make things happen.
My main issue is transportation and the ability to get from one place to
another in a timely manner.  Yes, we can debate about taking the buss, but
time isn't in my favor lol.
For example, I get off of work at 2:30, dr appointment is at 3:20, it takes
me about 30-minutes to walk from my job to their school, then another
20-minutes to 30-minutes to get to the doctor's office.  Plus, mother nature
is not in a good mood today, but I will make it happen! I was single before
and made it lol.

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