[blparent] In Over My Head,, toddlers

[Star Gazer]

				Sounds like that group on Facebook wasn't
doing you any favors. I have to wonder if that was what caused the "I wish I
could interact like a sighted person" nonsense. 
We moved recently too. It's very stressful even if the move is a good one. 
Your husband may already be doing this, but make very sure he's viewing his
main job and the instructing job as work, meaning there is no side work and
no main job, it's all work. If either job is taking more time, energy and
money from the family then you or he are comfortable with, something has to
change. Many part-time jobs are way more work then a full time job ever
thought about being and it's easy to get into the mind-set of "It's side
work so I'll put up with it". 
As for "me time" build it into your day. Watch a show or read while you're
doing other things.  In other words, don't "try to get it", actually get it.
You may not complete a book as quickly as you'd like but who cares? The book
certainly doesn't. 


-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo
Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
Sent: Wednesday, June 3, 2015 2:12 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Subject: Re: [blparent] In Over My Head,, toddlers

Lila would get used to not really leaving the house much?  Oh dear!  That's
scary.  Really scary.  I'm not an NFB member, nor am I always big on the
"NFB philosophy," although I will readily say that the NFB has made huge
advances for blind and visually impaired people in equal rights over the
last several decades.  The organization is often too in-your-face for my
liking, to the point of rudeness.  But I have found creative ways to get my
daughter out of the house since her early toddlerhood, and she and I will
continue to "go on adventures," as she puts it, hopefully even after she
grows up.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message-----
From: Jessica Reed via blparent
Sent: Wednesday, June 03, 2015 11:35 AM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Cc: Jessica Reed
Subject: Re: [blparent] In Over My Head,, toddlers

Thanks all for the kind words and advice.  I try hard to create "me" time,
and now that it's summer my husband should be around nights.  (He is a
welding instructor during the school year as well as his main job.  He is
pretty much gone from 4a.m to 8p.m during the school year.  I also neglected
to mention in my last message that we very recently moved into a bigger
home, just handed the keys over to our other house yesterday.  Huge sigh of
relief!  Jon still has some serious unpacking and organizing of his stuff,
but the end is insight.  (He has a ridiculous amount of tools for his job as
an iron worker.)

Thank you again for your support.  A few months back, when we were house
hunting for a bigger house in a very specific location, I reached out to
another blindness group on Facebook.  I was trying to figure out how others
balanced finding a decent sized home without sacrificing independence.  I
pretty much was told that I was dreaming.  We were blind and therefore
trapped and I should know that by now and get over it.  Needless to say, I
was devastated.  I was shocked at how many parents flat out said that Lila
would get used to not really leaving the house much.  I bring all this up,
not to slam the group, but just as a glaring reminder of the strength of the
NFB philosophy.

Thanks Again,
Jessica K. Reed 


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