[blparent] How do you start to explain people'sunfoundedfears toyour children?

[Judy Jones]

Oh bboy, takes all kinds to make the world go round, doesn't it.

Maybe of the mom's perspective of persons with disabilities, has negatively 
colored her perspective.

You always make so much sense on this list through all your e-mails, I'll 
bet you will lay her fears to rest with one visit.

Judy


-----Original Message----- 
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
Sent: Sunday, March 15, 2015 2:40 PM
To: Star Gazer ; Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] How do you start to explain people'sunfoundedfears 
toyour children?

The boy is a neighborhood friend my daughter often plays with, and he is
well-behaved and obedient, or I wouldn't have agreed to take him in the
first place.  There are children in the neighborhood I would never agree to
take anywhere, believe me, because they are undisciplined monsters.

Good point about the mother and the children with disabilities she sees in
her job.  I had wondered why her interactions with me always seemed to be a
bit--what's the word I'm looking for--condescending.  Not enough to really
be offensive, but just enough for me to notice.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Star Gazer via blparent
Sent: Sunday, March 15, 2015 8:11 AM
To: 'Judy Jones' ; 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] How do you start to explain people's unfoundedfears
toyour children?

That was my take too. He may not be as manageable as you'd think.
Does the dad know you? If not and your kids are friends, I'd start there.
Also, it's not as odd as you think given the mom's job. Very likely, she's
never encountered an adult with whatever disability she works with, so all
she sees, all she's capable of seeing are children who need more then the
average bear.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Judy Jones
via blparent
Sent: Saturday, March 14, 2015 10:27 PM
To: Jo Elizabeth Pinto; Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] How do you start to explain people's unfounded fears
toyour children?

Hi again from Judy.

Another aspect I thought about.  Is this little boy manageable in a public
situation.  For instance, if you and your girl are at the park, will he be
as obedient as she is, or is he one of those kids who is harder to manage
because of lack of discipline?

Judy


-----Original Message-----
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
Sent: Saturday, March 14, 2015 6:14 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] How do you start to explain people's unfounded fears
toyour children?

My sighted daughter just turned seven years old a few weeks ago.  Hard to
believe.  Anyway, we’re having one of the first really beautiful sunny
spring days, so she asked me to take her to a nearby park.  She invited a
neighbor boy her age to come.  His parents said no, there had to be an adult
along.  She told his parents her mom would be taking them.  The dad said no,
he meant an adult who could see.  She came home really confused, of course.
She said we go to the park all the time, which we do.  So I tried to explain
that some parents don’t feel that their kids will be safe supervised by a
blind adult.  Her next natural question was why.  I told her some parents
worry that their kids will get hurt if no one is watching them.  Her answer
was that we’ve been to the park millions of times and she hasn’t gotten
hurt.  Also true.  She’s a smart girl.  I told her some parents haven’t ben
around blind people much.  The odd thing is, the neighbor boy’s mom is one
of the higher-ups in the special ed department with the local school
district.  So I’m just wondering, is there anything in particular you have
said to your kids that has helped make sense of nonsense?

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
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