[blparent] My Daughter

Sun May 10 19:49:42 UTC 2015

No. We inherited her when she was 2 weeks old. The baby's mother is my 
x-wife's x sister-in-law. The baby's mom is in LA on the street probably 
still doing drugs. We got Guardian ship when Breann was 2 years old.

Thank you for the suggestion.

Rob Kaiser
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rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
-----Original Message----- 
From: Tammy via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:36 PM
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Hi,

No offense meant here, but I don't think grilling your daughter is the way
to go here.  You really need legal help.  If your daughter is in danger, you
will be able to legally find that out and a legal agreement can be drawn up
by the court.  You said you're her guardian?  Are you her biodad as well?

Tammy

-----Original Message----- 
From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 3:20 PM
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Pat has custody, but in the divorce, Breann didn't come up because my
Divorce attorney told me that I wasn't oblligated to pay Breann Child
Support. Pat & I worked it out ourselves. When I came back from Chicago and
decided to stay out here, and when I moved from Pat's house over to the
Extended stay hotel, I started taking Breann on the weekends. this also
allowed me to take her to church with me on Sundays so Breann could attend
Sunday School. When Sarah got into the picture, everything changed. Last
year, I was in Orange where Pat lived. Sarah & I wanted to take Breann out
for icecfream. Pat said "no." At the same time, Pat & Breann were facing
eviction. I offered to take Breann up with me and Sarah in case the eviction
happened. that way, Breann would be in a safe place with a roof over her
hhead and properly fed and clothed. Again, Pat said "No" to this. She will
not tell me why she won't let me take Breann with me for a few days. I have
assured her that I will bring Breann back to her mom. I said that because I
thought Pat was thinking that I was going to keep Breann with me
permanantly. That was the furthest thing on my mind. Now, I feel that I
might need to get Breann out and away from her mom. There was an incident a
year and a half ago when Pat (she is diabetic) and her sugar went very low.
Breann told me that her mom could hardly speek. I qasked Breann if she knew
about calling 911. She said she did, but she told me that her mom wouldn't
let her call them. I told Breann that when her mom gets to that state, she
needs immediate medical attention. I told Breann to call 911 first, and
then, call me so that I could get there to make sure that Breann was going
to be safe while her mom went to the hospital for attention. Pat (which
complicates things even more) now has a full blown ulcer. She told me at
Christmas, that she is barely eating anything. That could put her diabetes
in more jepardy in my oppinion. I'm going to have to ask Breann some key
questions so that I can get an idea what is really going on there.

Again, tghanks for the suggestions.

Rob Kaiser
email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
-----Original Message----- 
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:05 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Legal guardians is one thing, but visitation rights is another.  What does
your custody agreement say about where Brianne lives, and who has her for
what percentage of the time?

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:57 PM
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Cc: Rob Kaiser
Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Thanks for the informatio. When I spoke to Breann the other day, she was
really pushing for me to come and get her, but she keeps saying her mom
won't let her come up here. I might be talking to Breann later today, and I
will do what you suggested.

Thanks.

Rob Kaiser
email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
-----Original Message----- 
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 10:37 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Michael is right.  We would need to know more about your custody agreement.
Busting in there with the police is not usually a great way to go about
things, if the police would even oblige you.  What you need to do is take
your custody agreement to someone who deals in family law and go from there.
Maybe you can find a legal practice that works on a sliding scale, if
finances are a problem.  Have you spoken to Brianne about this, asked her if
she has an unfair burden of household chores?  If not, talk to her, but
don't put that idea in her head before she tells you about it.  Let her tell
you how she feels, what she would want her summer to look like as far as a
time split between you and her mom.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Michael Baldwin via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 8:52 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

What legal rights for Brianne does your X have? If you and her both have
legal custody of Brianne, with no set rules about who gets her when, I doubt
the police would do anything.
If you have sole custody of your daughter, then I think you're a fool for
letting her down there, away from you.

Michael

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob Kaiser
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Sent: Saturday, May 09, 2015 9:24 PM
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Subject: [blparent] My Daughter

Hello all:

This email may be quite long, and I appologize for this:

As many of you know, I have a guardian daughter, Breann. At this time, she
is staying with her mom in Orange. I am currently living in Moreno Valley,
CA. Over a week ago, I spoke with Breann's teacher for the first time ina
long time. I was told that her grades are really slipping from As & Bs to Cs
and Ds. There has also been behavioral problems with Breann. I told my
X-wife that I would like to bring Breann up to Moreno Valley on a weeken.
for some reason My X-wife Pat, doesn't want to let me do that. She told me
that if I want to see Breann, I can come down to her house in Orange.
Because of the poor atransportation (public, pera and Metro link) on the
week ends, and that would be the best time for me to spend quality time with
Breann, it is next to impossible for me to get down there on the weekends
unless my fiance, Sarah is available to drive me down there. I have every
right to have Breann. I am still her legal Guardian. I am tempted to give
Pat an altimadum, and tell her that I can come down on a Friday and get her
and bring her up here until Sunday evening or very early Monday morning on
the train. If she won't comply, I am thinking about comeing down there with
the police and a coppy of the guardian ship papers. I don't want to get the
police involed, but I might not have a choice in this. Has anyone else had a
situation like this?

I also feel that Pat (with her poor health) and with my step son, Jesse who
use to do everything for Pat (get Pats' meds, clean the house go to the
grocery store ETC.) Now, I have a feeling that Breann (who just turned 11)
is now going to have to do all of these things. Breann (as I just wrote) is
only 11 years old. I'm afraid that she (like Jesse) will not have a normal
child hood. I really want to get Breann out of there amicably, but I don't
think that will happen. I really could use some sugestions on this matter.

Thankss to anyone who can help me on this.

Rob Kaiser
email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
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