[blparent] My Daughter

Mon May 11 20:46:25 UTC 2015

Sounds like to me you have a problem because you judge people.  That is why
I do not deal with most blind people these days.  For the most part blind
people tear each other down.  I don't think he wanted to be judged when he
asked his questions.  If I were running this list your post would not be
still up.  There is no call for your comments towards him in my opinion.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star Gazer
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Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 3:38 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

				You had the resources to move halfway across
the country, find a fiance and be active in activities you care about. 
Realize that as a parent, you may and probably will find love after a
divorce, but you can't just move all over the place and live wherever. If
you're sick, you need to find a way to be sick while still caring for your
family. That means talking with the teacher a lot, not "after a long time".
It means interacting with your children so that you know what's going on
with them. It means spending time with them. My point is that you've found
plenty of resources for what you care about, your fiance and your church.
You haven't cared enough about this child to call up a few family attourneys
and talk with them. You didn't keep this child's best interests at heart
with a custody agreement. Your ex didn't either which is too bad. 
There is way more going on here then blindness. You are just a self-centered
human being who uses medical words so people will believe your sob story and
who happens to be blind. You also speak of this child as an object. You
didn't "inherit" her, that word choice is telling. Blindness isn't your only
problem. 

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob Kaiser
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Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 3:53 PM
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oops: I went back to Chicago to get away from a care bad care giver. I came
back after nine months to sing for a memorial service. My mom wanted me to
come back right away, but it was a while before I had the leg surgery. AFter
that, I decided to stay out here in Socal. Thank goodness I did, because the
last 2 Winters have been BRUTAL.!!!!! They say your blood thins out when you
are in warm weather for a long time. I belive believe it, because the Winter
I was in Chicago, the Winter was relatively mild, and I couldn't take even
that cold.

Rob Kaiser
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rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
-----Original Message-----
From: Dianna via blparent
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He can ask the child questions without "grilling"  that is what caring
parents do.  I did not know you left Chicago either.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tammy via
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Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 2:37 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Hi,

No offense meant here, but I don't think grilling your daughter is the way
to go here.  You really need legal help.  If your daughter is in danger, you
will be able to legally find that out and a legal agreement can be drawn up
by the court.  You said you're her guardian?  Are you her biodad as well?

Tammy

-----Original Message-----
From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 3:20 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Pat has custody, but in the divorce, Breann didn't come up because my
Divorce attorney told me that I wasn't oblligated to pay Breann Child
Support. Pat & I worked it out ourselves. When I came back from Chicago and
decided to stay out here, and when I moved from Pat's house over to the
Extended stay hotel, I started taking Breann on the weekends. this also
allowed me to take her to church with me on Sundays so Breann could attend
Sunday School. When Sarah got into the picture, everything changed. Last
year, I was in Orange where Pat lived. Sarah & I wanted to take Breann out
for icecfream. Pat said "no." At the same time, Pat & Breann were facing
eviction. I offered to take Breann up with me and Sarah in case the eviction
happened. that way, Breann would be in a safe place with a roof over her
hhead and properly fed and clothed. Again, Pat said "No" to this. She will
not tell me why she won't let me take Breann with me for a few days. I have
assured her that I will bring Breann back to her mom. I said that because I
thought Pat was thinking that I was going to keep Breann with me
permanantly. That was the furthest thing on my mind. Now, I feel that I
might need to get Breann out and away from her mom. There was an incident a
year and a half ago when Pat (she is diabetic) and her sugar went very low.
Breann told me that her mom could hardly speek. I qasked Breann if she knew
about calling 911. She said she did, but she told me that her mom wouldn't
let her call them. I told Breann that when her mom gets to that state, she
needs immediate medical attention. I told Breann to call 911 first, and
then, call me so that I could get there to make sure that Breann was going
to be safe while her mom went to the hospital for attention. Pat (which
complicates things even more) now has a full blown ulcer. She told me at
Christmas, that she is barely eating anything. That could put her diabetes
in more jepardy in my oppinion. I'm going to have to ask Breann some key
questions so that I can get an idea what is really going on there.

Again, tghanks for the suggestions.

Rob Kaiser
email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
-----Original Message-----
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:05 PM
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Legal guardians is one thing, but visitation rights is another.  What does
your custody agreement say about where Brianne lives, and who has her for
what percentage of the time?

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message-----
From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:57 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Thanks for the informatio. When I spoke to Breann the other day, she was
really pushing for me to come and get her, but she keeps saying her mom
won't let her come up here. I might be talking to Breann later today, and I
will do what you suggested.

Thanks.

Rob Kaiser
email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
-----Original Message-----
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 10:37 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Michael is right.  We would need to know more about your custody agreement.
Busting in there with the police is not usually a great way to go about
things, if the police would even oblige you.  What you need to do is take
your custody agreement to someone who deals in family law and go from there.
Maybe you can find a legal practice that works on a sliding scale, if
finances are a problem.  Have you spoken to Brianne about this, asked her if
she has an unfair burden of household chores?  If not, talk to her, but
don't put that idea in her head before she tells you about it.  Let her tell
you how she feels, what she would want her summer to look like as far as a
time split between you and her mom.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message-----
From: Michael Baldwin via blparent
Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 8:52 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

What legal rights for Brianne does your X have? If you and her both have
legal custody of Brianne, with no set rules about who gets her when, I doubt
the police would do anything.
If you have sole custody of your daughter, then I think you're a fool for
letting her down there, away from you.

Michael

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob Kaiser
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Sent: Saturday, May 09, 2015 9:24 PM
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Subject: [blparent] My Daughter

Hello all:

This email may be quite long, and I appologize for this:

As many of you know, I have a guardian daughter, Breann. At this time, she
is staying with her mom in Orange. I am currently living in Moreno Valley,
CA. Over a week ago, I spoke with Breann's teacher for the first time ina
long time. I was told that her grades are really slipping from As & Bs to Cs
and Ds. There has also been behavioral problems with Breann. I told my
X-wife that I would like to bring Breann up to Moreno Valley on a weeken.
for some reason My X-wife Pat, doesn't want to let me do that. She told me
that if I want to see Breann, I can come down to her house in Orange.
Because of the poor atransportation (public, pera and Metro link) on the
week ends, and that would be the best time for me to spend quality time with
Breann, it is next to impossible for me to get down there on the weekends
unless my fiance, Sarah is available to drive me down there. I have every
right to have Breann. I am still her legal Guardian. I am tempted to give
Pat an altimadum, and tell her that I can come down on a Friday and get her
and bring her up here until Sunday evening or very early Monday morning on
the train. If she won't comply, I am thinking about comeing down there with
the police and a coppy of the guardian ship papers. I don't want to get the
police involed, but I might not have a choice in this. Has anyone else had a
situation like this?

I also feel that Pat (with her poor health) and with my step son, Jesse who
use to do everything for Pat (get Pats' meds, clean the house go to the
grocery store ETC.) Now, I have a feeling that Breann (who just turned 11)
is now going to have to do all of these things. Breann (as I just wrote) is
only 11 years old. I'm afraid that she (like Jesse) will not have a normal
child hood. I really want to get Breann out of there amicably, but I don't
think that will happen. I really could use some sugestions on this matter.

Thankss to anyone who can help me on this.

Rob Kaiser
email;
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