[blparent] My Daughter

Tue May 12 00:59:00 UTC 2015

FYI: I just found out why My x-wife won't let Brean come up here. she is 
afraid I won't bring her back. As much as I would like to do that, I would 
never do that. I told Breann to have a lawyer (if need be) write something 
up stating that I am to bring her back after a visit. I will sign the 
documentg if I need to.

Rob Kaiser
email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
-----Original Message----- 
From: Jessica Reed via blparent
Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 5:53 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Cc: Jessica Reed
Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

Wow! I think you are incredibly cruel! He was reaching out to the list for 
help and advice.

Sent from my iPhone

> On May 11, 2015, at 4:37 PM, Star Gazer via blparent <blparent at nfbnet.org> 
> wrote:
>
>                You had the resources to move halfway across
> the country, find a fiance and be active in activities you care about.
> Realize that as a parent, you may and probably will find love after a
> divorce, but you can't just move all over the place and live wherever. If
> you're sick, you need to find a way to be sick while still caring for your
> family. That means talking with the teacher a lot, not "after a long 
> time".
> It means interacting with your children so that you know what's going on
> with them. It means spending time with them. My point is that you've found
> plenty of resources for what you care about, your fiance and your church.
> You haven't cared enough about this child to call up a few family 
> attourneys
> and talk with them. You didn't keep this child's best interests at heart
> with a custody agreement. Your ex didn't either which is too bad.
> There is way more going on here then blindness. You are just a 
> self-centered
> human being who uses medical words so people will believe your sob story 
> and
> who happens to be blind. You also speak of this child as an object. You
> didn't "inherit" her, that word choice is telling. Blindness isn't your 
> only
> problem.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob 
> Kaiser
> via blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 3:53 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Rob Kaiser
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> oops: I went back to Chicago to get away from a care bad care giver. I 
> came
> back after nine months to sing for a memorial service. My mom wanted me to
> come back right away, but it was a while before I had the leg surgery. 
> AFter
> that, I decided to stay out here in Socal. Thank goodness I did, because 
> the
> last 2 Winters have been BRUTAL.!!!!! They say your blood thins out when 
> you
> are in warm weather for a long time. I belive believe it, because the 
> Winter
> I was in Chicago, the Winter was relatively mild, and I couldn't take even
> that cold.
>
>
>
>
>
> Rob Kaiser
> email;
> rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Dianna via blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:40 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Cc: Dianna
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> He can ask the child questions without "grilling"  that is what caring
> parents do.  I did not know you left Chicago either.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tammy via
> blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 2:37 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Tammy
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> Hi,
>
> No offense meant here, but I don't think grilling your daughter is the way
> to go here.  You really need legal help.  If your daughter is in danger, 
> you
> will be able to legally find that out and a legal agreement can be drawn 
> up
> by the court.  You said you're her guardian?  Are you her biodad as well?
>
> Tammy
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 3:20 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Rob Kaiser
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> Pat has custody, but in the divorce, Breann didn't come up because my
> Divorce attorney told me that I wasn't oblligated to pay Breann Child
> Support. Pat & I worked it out ourselves. When I came back from Chicago 
> and
> decided to stay out here, and when I moved from Pat's house over to the
> Extended stay hotel, I started taking Breann on the weekends. this also
> allowed me to take her to church with me on Sundays so Breann could attend
> Sunday School. When Sarah got into the picture, everything changed. Last
> year, I was in Orange where Pat lived. Sarah & I wanted to take Breann out
> for icecfream. Pat said "no." At the same time, Pat & Breann were facing
> eviction. I offered to take Breann up with me and Sarah in case the 
> eviction
> happened. that way, Breann would be in a safe place with a roof over her
> hhead and properly fed and clothed. Again, Pat said "No" to this. She will
> not tell me why she won't let me take Breann with me for a few days. I 
> have
> assured her that I will bring Breann back to her mom. I said that because 
> I
> thought Pat was thinking that I was going to keep Breann with me
> permanantly. That was the furthest thing on my mind. Now, I feel that I
> might need to get Breann out and away from her mom. There was an incident 
> a
> year and a half ago when Pat (she is diabetic) and her sugar went very 
> low.
> Breann told me that her mom could hardly speek. I qasked Breann if she 
> knew
> about calling 911. She said she did, but she told me that her mom wouldn't
> let her call them. I told Breann that when her mom gets to that state, she
> needs immediate medical attention. I told Breann to call 911 first, and
> then, call me so that I could get there to make sure that Breann was going
> to be safe while her mom went to the hospital for attention. Pat (which
> complicates things even more) now has a full blown ulcer. She told me at
> Christmas, that she is barely eating anything. That could put her diabetes
> in more jepardy in my oppinion. I'm going to have to ask Breann some key
> questions so that I can get an idea what is really going on there.
>
> Again, tghanks for the suggestions.
>
>
>
>
>
> Rob Kaiser
> email;
> rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:05 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> Legal guardians is one thing, but visitation rights is another.  What does
> your custody agreement say about where Brianne lives, and who has her for
> what percentage of the time?
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
> kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
> evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:57 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Rob Kaiser
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> Thanks for the informatio. When I spoke to Breann the other day, she was
> really pushing for me to come and get her, but she keeps saying her mom
> won't let her come up here. I might be talking to Breann later today, and 
> I
> will do what you suggested.
>
> Thanks.
>
>
>
>
>
> Rob Kaiser
> email;
> rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 10:37 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> Michael is right.  We would need to know more about your custody 
> agreement.
> Busting in there with the police is not usually a great way to go about
> things, if the police would even oblige you.  What you need to do is take
> your custody agreement to someone who deals in family law and go from 
> there.
> Maybe you can find a legal practice that works on a sliding scale, if
> finances are a problem.  Have you spoken to Brianne about this, asked her 
> if
> she has an unfair burden of household chores?  If not, talk to her, but
> don't put that idea in her head before she tells you about it.  Let her 
> tell
> you how she feels, what she would want her summer to look like as far as a
> time split between you and her mom.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
> kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
> evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Michael Baldwin via blparent
> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 8:52 AM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Cc: Michael Baldwin
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> What legal rights for Brianne does your X have? If you and her both have
> legal custody of Brianne, with no set rules about who gets her when, I 
> doubt
> the police would do anything.
> If you have sole custody of your daughter, then I think you're a fool for
> letting her down there, away from you.
>
> Michael
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob 
> Kaiser
> via blparent
> Sent: Saturday, May 09, 2015 9:24 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Rob Kaiser
> Subject: [blparent] My Daughter
>
> Hello all:
>
> This email may be quite long, and I appologize for this:
>
> As many of you know, I have a guardian daughter, Breann. At this time, she
> is staying with her mom in Orange. I am currently living in Moreno Valley,
> CA. Over a week ago, I spoke with Breann's teacher for the first time ina
> long time. I was told that her grades are really slipping from As & Bs to 
> Cs
> and Ds. There has also been behavioral problems with Breann. I told my
> X-wife that I would like to bring Breann up to Moreno Valley on a weeken.
> for some reason My X-wife Pat, doesn't want to let me do that. She told me
> that if I want to see Breann, I can come down to her house in Orange.
> Because of the poor atransportation (public, pera and Metro link) on the
> week ends, and that would be the best time for me to spend quality time 
> with
> Breann, it is next to impossible for me to get down there on the weekends
> unless my fiance, Sarah is available to drive me down there. I have every
> right to have Breann. I am still her legal Guardian. I am tempted to give
> Pat an altimadum, and tell her that I can come down on a Friday and get 
> her
> and bring her up here until Sunday evening or very early Monday morning on
> the train. If she won't comply, I am thinking about comeing down there 
> with
> the police and a coppy of the guardian ship papers. I don't want to get 
> the
> police involed, but I might not have a choice in this. Has anyone else had 
> a
> situation like this?
>
> I also feel that Pat (with her poor health) and with my step son, Jesse 
> who
> use to do everything for Pat (get Pats' meds, clean the house go to the
> grocery store ETC.) Now, I have a feeling that Breann (who just turned 11)
> is now going to have to do all of these things. Breann (as I just wrote) 
> is
> only 11 years old. I'm afraid that she (like Jesse) will not have a normal
> child hood. I really want to get Breann out of there amicably, but I don't
> think that will happen. I really could use some sugestions on this matter.
>
> Thankss to anyone who can help me on this.
>
>
> Rob Kaiser
> email;
> rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/mbaldwin%40gpcom.net
>
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/jopinto%40msn.com
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/rcubfank%40sbcglobal.n
> et
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/jopinto%40msn.com
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/rcubfank%40sbcglobal.n
> et
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/tcl189%40rogers.com
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/dianna24%40earthlink.n
> et
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/rcubfank%40sbcglobal.n
> et
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/pickrellrebecca%40gmai
> l.com
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for 
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/jessicac.kostiw%40gmail.com

_______________________________________________
blparent mailing list
blparent at nfbnet.org
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for 
blparent:
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/rcubfank%40sbcglobal.net 