[blparent] My Daughter

Wed May 13 15:23:10 UTC 2015

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers please keep us posted as to how it goes

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> On May 11, 2015, at 7:38 PM, Rob Kaiser via blparent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> NOTE: I just posted a message on this list serve. I was angry at the person who made statements to me, and I said some things I progbabyh shouldn't have said. like saying I would take Breann out of school and abou possible Amber alert. Yes, I need to get to the bottom olf this, but I have to do it in a calm and collected way. I have also already tried to look into possible tutors in the Summer for Breann being that the school she goes to does not have Summer School.
> 
> Thanks for all of your suggestions.
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> Rob Kaiser
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> -----Original Message----- From: Dianna via blparent
> Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 4:29 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Cc: Dianna
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
> 
> I don't, but so what that does not mean you deserved to be judged.
> 
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob Kaiser
> via blparent
> Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 6:25 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Rob Kaiser
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
> 
> I thought most people out there knew my entire situation.
> 
> sorry for the mmssunderstanding.
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> Rob Kaiser
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: Dianna via blparent
> Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 1:24 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Cc: Dianna
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
> 
> Well it says a lot about you in that you just judged him an you don't even
> know him.  Unfortunately that is what most people do now is judge without
> knowing people.
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob Kaiser
> via blparent
> Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 3:04 PM
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> Cc: Rob Kaiser
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
> 
> I was having additional health issues and needed medical help (IV
> antibiotics ETC.) Sarah is my fiance.
> 
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> 
> Rob Kaiser
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: Star Gazer via blparent
> Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 12:58 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Cc: Star Gazer
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
> 
> What?
> Something doesn't make sense here. A bad caregiver? You're an adult, why do
> you need a caregiver? Maybe this is why your ex doesn't want the child with
> you? Who is Sarah and why do we care?
> My point is that if you are going to want adult responsibilities and
> privileges, then act like an adult. You shouldn't need a caregiver, and if
> you do for some reason, you shouldn't have had to move thousands of miles
> away to get out of a bad situation. Sarah, whoever she is shouldn't factor
> in at all, remember you're an adult and you don't need a woman in your life
> to have a meaningingful relationship with the child.
> I'm also amazed that you didn't spell this out in the divorce, we're talking
> about a human being, not a pet. The fact that you didn't put more energy
> into this makes me wonder about you.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob Kaiser
> via blparent
> Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 1:31 PM
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> Cc: Rob Kaiser
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
> 
> As I wrote yesterday, Pat & I inherrited her when she was two weeks old. At
> the time of the divorce, Pat & I made an agreement that I could see and have
> Breann whenever I wanted to. Then, because of my bad caregiver, I went to
> Chicago for 9 months. I came back here and stayed with Pat for a while, ad
> then moved to Extended Stay Hotel where I lived until Last year (2014)
> jANUARY. tHAT IS WHEN I WEENT WITH sARAH. Since then, Pat will not let me
> take Breann with me. I have to go there.
> 
> 
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> 
> Rob Kaiser
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> rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Dena Wainwright via blparent
> Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 6:25 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Dena Wainwright
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
> 
> As a mother, I cannot imagine having a divorce were my child custody
> arrangement did not come up. This seems absolutely incredible to me. Are you
> her biological father? What rights do you have over her? There seems like
> there is a lot more to the situation then we know.
> 
> Sent from my iPhone
> 
>> On May 10, 2015, at 2:20 PM, Rob Kaiser via blparent
>> <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> wrote:
>> 
>> Pat has custody, but in the divorce, Breann didn't come up because my
>> Divorce attorney told me that I wasn't oblligated to pay Breann Child
>> Support. Pat & I worked it out ourselves. When I came back from
>> Chicago and decided to stay out here, and when I moved from Pat's
>> house over to the Extended stay hotel, I started taking Breann on the
>> weekends. this also allowed me to take her to church with me on
>> Sundays so Breann could attend Sunday School. When Sarah got into the
> picture, everything changed.
>> Last year, I was in Orange where Pat lived. Sarah & I wanted to take
>> Breann out for icecfream. Pat said "no." At the same time, Pat &
>> Breann were facing eviction. I offered to take Breann up with me and
>> Sarah in case the eviction happened. that way, Breann would be in a
>> safe place with a roof over her hhead and properly fed and clothed.
>> Again,
> Pat said "No"
>> to this. She will not tell me why she won't let me take Breann with me
>> for a few days. I have assured her that I will bring Breann back to
>> her mom. I said that because I thought Pat was thinking that I was
>> going to keep Breann with me permanantly. That was the furthest thing
>> on my mind. Now, I feel that I might need to get Breann out and away
>> from her mom. There was an incident a year and a half ago when Pat
>> (she is diabetic) and her sugar went very low. Breann told me that her
>> mom could hardly speek. I qasked Breann if she knew about calling 911.
>> She said she did, but she told me that her mom wouldn't let her call
>> them. I told Breann that when her mom gets to that state, she needs
>> immediate medical attention. I told Breann to call 911 first, and
>> then, call me so that I could get there to make sure that Breann was
>> going to be safe while her mom went to the hospital for attention. Pat
>> (which complicates things even more) now has a full blown ulcer. She
>> told
> me at Christmas, that she is barely eating anything.
>> That could put her diabetes in more jepardy in my oppinion. I'm going
>> to have to ask Breann some key questions so that I can get an idea
>> what is really going on there.
>> 
>> Again, tghanks for the suggestions.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> Rob Kaiser
>> email;
>> rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
>> -----Original Message----- From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
>> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:05 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>> 
>> Legal guardians is one thing, but visitation rights is another.  What
>> does your custody agreement say about where Brianne lives, and who has
>> her for what percentage of the time?
>> 
>> Jo Elizabeth
>> 
>> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you
>> may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and
>> full at evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
>> -----Original Message----- From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
>> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:57 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: Rob Kaiser
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>> 
>> Thanks for the informatio. When I spoke to Breann the other day, she
>> was really pushing for me to come and get her, but she keeps saying
>> her mom won't let her come up here. I might be talking to Breann later
>> today, and I will do what you suggested.
>> 
>> Thanks.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> Rob Kaiser
>> email;
>> rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
>> -----Original Message----- From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
>> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 10:37 AM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>> 
>> Michael is right.  We would need to know more about your custody
>> agreement.
>> Busting in there with the police is not usually a great way to go
>> about things, if the police would even oblige you.  What you need to
>> do is take your custody agreement to someone who deals in family law
>> and go from there.
>> Maybe you can find a legal practice that works on a sliding scale, if
>> finances are a problem.  Have you spoken to Brianne about this, asked
>> her if she has an unfair burden of household chores?  If not, talk to
>> her, but don't put that idea in her head before she tells you about
>> it.  Let her tell you how she feels, what she would want her summer to
>> look like as far as a time split between you and her mom.
>> 
>> Jo Elizabeth
>> 
>> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you
>> may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and
>> full at evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
>> -----Original Message----- From: Michael Baldwin via blparent
>> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 8:52 AM
>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Cc: Michael Baldwin
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>> 
>> What legal rights for Brianne does your X have? If you and her both
>> have legal custody of Brianne, with no set rules about who gets her
>> when, I doubt the police would do anything.
>> If you have sole custody of your daughter, then I think you're a fool
>> for letting her down there, away from you.
>> 
>> Michael
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob
>> Kaiser via blparent
>> Sent: Saturday, May 09, 2015 9:24 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: Rob Kaiser
>> Subject: [blparent] My Daughter
>> 
>> Hello all:
>> 
>> This email may be quite long, and I appologize for this:
>> 
>> As many of you know, I have a guardian daughter, Breann. At this time,
>> she is staying with her mom in Orange. I am currently living in Moreno
>> Valley, CA. Over a week ago, I spoke with Breann's teacher for the
>> first time ina long time. I was told that her grades are really
>> slipping from As & Bs to Cs and Ds. There has also been behavioral
>> problems with Breann. I told my X-wife that I would like to bring
>> Breann up to Moreno Valley on a weeken.
>> for some reason My X-wife Pat, doesn't want to let me do that. She
>> told me that if I want to see Breann, I can come down to her house in
> Orange.
>> Because of the poor atransportation (public, pera and Metro link) on
>> the week ends, and that would be the best time for me to spend quality
>> time with Breann, it is next to impossible for me to get down there on
>> the weekends unless my fiance, Sarah is available to drive me down
>> there. I have every right to have Breann. I am still her legal
>> Guardian. I am tempted to give Pat an altimadum, and tell her that I
>> can come down on a Friday and get her and bring her up here until
>> Sunday evening or very early Monday morning on the train. If she won't
>> comply, I am thinking about comeing down there with the police and a
>> coppy of the guardian ship papers. I don't want to get the police
>> involed, but I might not have a choice in this. Has anyone else had a
>> situation like this?
>> 
>> I also feel that Pat (with her poor health) and with my step son,
>> Jesse who use to do everything for Pat (get Pats' meds, clean the
>> house go to the grocery store ETC.) Now, I have a feeling that Breann
>> (who just turned 11) is now going to have to do all of these things.
>> Breann (as I just wrote) is only 11 years old. I'm afraid that she
>> (like Jesse) will not have a normal child hood. I really want to get
>> Breann out of there amicably, but I don't think that will happen. I
>> really could use some sugestions on this matter.
>> 
>> Thankss to anyone who can help me on this.
>> 
>> 
>> Rob Kaiser
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