[blparent] Herding cats and children?

Sat Oct 10 16:32:04 UTC 2015

Hello Judy,

Speaking of getting your hand caught in the cookie jar reminds me of the story my daughter wants told.

Someone asked her if it was hard to have a blind mom. She answered yes it is, I can try to sneak a cookie from the cookie jar but my mom will hear me no matter where she is in the house. She described holding the cookie jar on her lap and trying to quietly remove the lid but I would always hear it. She also described how I could hear whether she was taking olives 
 or cherries from the jar in the refrigerator by the sound of the container. She said that if I could see, she wouldn't have these problems.

JODY 🐺
thunderwalker321 at gmail.com

"There's no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes."  DOCTOR WHO (Tom Baker)

> On Oct 9, 2015, at 11:55 PM, Judy Jones via blparent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
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> How about, quotes, Mom!!!!!!  You oughta know better than that! And keep it light.  I can't get speech with the right inflection, but would be like that of catching someone's hand in the cookie jar.
> 
> Would that work?
> 
> Judy
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> -----Original Message----- From: Allison via blparent
> Sent: Friday, October 9, 2015 9:15 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Cc: Allison
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Herding cats and children?
> 
> Hi Everyone,
> 
> First off just let me say thank you for all your responses to this thread.
> You are an amazingly supportive group of thoughtful and encouraging folks
> who I rreally appreciate.
> 
> So I admit it. The crazy in-laws referred to in this thread are my own
> parents. Darrell is my fabulous fiancé and father of our baby girl who will
> be born in January. The escape artist cat, Chaos,  is also mine. He's a
> stray Darrell and I adopted over a year ago. I told my mom about the cat
> fiasco casually over text after it happened one Sunday night. I told her the
> story mostly cuz I found it kinda funny. I wasn’t worried or stressed about
> it, it was amusing how our normally mellow homebody cat randomly decided he
> wanted to explore our new neighborhood. If I had any idea my parents would
> turn that story into a commentary about Darrell and my ability to parent, I
> wouldn't have said a word. But who knew it would turn into that? And I guess
> that was a good lesson for me about how when you are a blind parent, every
> day stories can suddenly be turned into reflections about your inability to
> effectively take care of your child. Which is totally frustrating but at
> least I'm getting prepared for the future I suppose.
> 
> Parents live 45 minutes away which doesn't feel nearly far enough some days.
> LOL. But I'm an only child and parents are aging, so living sorta close
> feels important for now cuz I'll be the one looking out for them as they
> age. The crazy thing is that my parents have been around the NFB for years
> and actually know some terrific blind parents. They absolutely know better,
> and even so I can't figure out where they get their misconceptions some
> days. Ironically, if anyone outside of our family implied that Darrell and I
> could not take care of our kid, my parents would be livid and rush to our
> defense.
> That wild inconsistency blows my mind sometimes, but I'm not sure there's
> much we can do about it except not to take it too seriously.
> 
> My question to you all is this... how do you not let the doubts from sighted
> people get inside your head much? Cuz I've mostly learned to tune out my
> parents, but Darrell hasn't quite yet, and it's not just them who think that
> 2 blind people having a kid is crazy. I feel like I encounter this sort of
> thinkingmore often than not. I feel like I rarely have room to ever *not*
> know something because then people will assume it's because of blindness
> that I don't know and that that means I am incapable of doing it. But
> sometimes, we don't have a solution for everything. Cuz no one does right?
> 
> Just curious to hear others' perspectives. And thanks again for all the
> encouraging posts we got on this topic.
> 
> Best,
> Allison, Darrell, Baby Girl Pending, and Chaos the Escape Cat.
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo
> Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
> Sent: Thursday, October 1, 2015 1:23 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto <jopinto at msn.com>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Herding cats and children?
> 
> This is a little bit ahead of the game, since it's used for outside spaces
> like parks and shopping malls.  But I purchased a fairly inexpensive child
> locator at this link:
> 
> http://www.amazon.com/Mommy-Im-Here-cl-103br-Locator/dp/B0009PLRXK/ref=sr_1_
> fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1443730372&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=Mommy+WhereAm+I+child+l
> ocator
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> It served my daughter well for several years, and then I passed it along to
> another blind mom when I felt my kid was old enough to answer whenever I
> called.  I never had to push the button on my end, but it gave me great
> peace of mind to have her wearing it, not only for if she got lost, but also
> for the very slim but horrible possibility that someone might have tried to
> snatch her.  I held a button that was like a keychain, and she had a teddy
> bear part that had a plastic loop on the back of it.  I would have liked it
> better if it had a clip I could have fastened to her clothes, but it didn't,
> so I slid a big safety pin through the loop on the bear and pinned that to
> the waistband of her pants or to her jacket or shirt.  She liked the bear
> and called him her traveling friend.  The bear didn't have a button she
> could push, so I wasn't worried she would set off the alarm by accident, but
> I could push the button on the keychain if I needed to know where my
> daughter was, or if I ever felt she was in danger and I wanted to attract
> attention to her in a big hurry.  The locator made a very loud beeping
> noise.
> 
> Jo Elizabeth
> 
> "The Bright Side of Darkness"
> is my newly published novel,
> available on Kindle and in paperback at Amazon.com.
> Audio coming very soon!
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Tammy via blparent
> Sent: Thursday, October 01, 2015 7:25 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Tammy
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Herding cats and children?
> 
>           Hi,
> 
> First of all, a cat is a lot different then a child, although sometimes
> children can be just as sneaky as cats are.  There are squeaky shoes you can
> get for your child, as well as child locater beacons and you can always
> attach bells when they're little and won't take them off.  I taught my
> children at a very young age, like as soon as they could understand and
> talk, that they needed to answer me when I called them, just to let me know
> where they were.  This has resulted in us having to go home from parks
> because one didn't answer or come when I called a second time.  My son Remus
> likes to run sometimes and although he doesn't do it much anymore, he's not
> very popular with the others if he's the reason we have to cut a trip short.
> I would definitely say you're jumping the gun a little, but we've all been
> where you are now, and it's a scarey time.  Family often doesn't help at all
> when questioning our abilities, especially when they're mean about it like
> your in-laws seem to be.  It's one thing to say hey how will you do such and
> such, but to compare your new child to a cat is ridiculous!  I've never
> heard a child who doesn't make a little noise when trying to go somewhere
> they shouldn't be, and most sound like a herd of elephants especially  when
> they're trying to be quiet.  Ever played hide and seek with a 2 year old?
> lol
> 
> I hope this helps a little.  Try to ignore your in-laws.  Your little one
> won't come out walking right away.  You'll have time to get used to him or
> her before then, and parenting is a lot of trying something and seeing what
> works best for you and your partner and child.
> 
> Tammy
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Darrell Shandrow via blparent
> Sent: Wednesday, September 30, 2015 9:01 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Cc: Darrell Shandrow
> Subject: [blparent] Herding cats and children?
> 
> Hello Everyone,
> 
> Our cat got out again a few nights ago. Every time this happens, my in-laws
> question our ability to keep track of our new child once she is able to
> walk.
> 
> It's all very discouraging... If I can't keep a cat in the house, how am I
> going to make sure our little girl doesn't run outside and get hit by a car?
> 
> I have some ideas, and I know we'll figure it out in due time. But,
> seriously, what alternative techniques do you employ as a blind person to
> effectively keep track of your child at all times?
> 
> I think we need the Find My Cat, and Find My Kid, apps. :-)
> 
> Regards,
> 
> Darrell
> 
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