[blparent] curious.

Sun Feb 21 05:05:34 UTC 2016

oh, yes, another humorous thing my husband used to say when the kids were little and getting whiny. "Would you like some cheese with your whine?" I don't know where he came up with that, but it always seemed to lighten the moment."

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From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via BlParent  <blparent at nfbnet.org>
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Date: Saturday, February 20, 2016 7:38 pm
Subject: Re: [blparent] curious.

>
>
> I think my daughter developed her verbal skills earlier than other children 
> her age did, since whining and pointing didn't get her what she wanted.  She 
> has also developed a good sense of direction when we are out and about, and 
> the ability to notice landmarks.  Kids tend to exercise and sharpen the set 
> of skills they practice and use in their daily lives.
> 
> I'm not really sure how much the eye contact thing affected my daughter when 
> she was a baby.  "Lack of proper eye contact and the fact that my facial 
> expressions are "not always appropriate for the situation at hand" were two 
> of the reasons my brother gave when he decided to take my baby away from me. 
> But he didn't take her and she hasn't seemed to be negatively influenced by 
> either of those two issues as she has grown up.
> 
> The only important thing I've really noticed about eye contact is that now, 
> as my daughter has gotten older and TV and electronic devices have entered 
> her life, I need to make sure I have her full attention when I'm talking to 
> her.  That goes for the other people in my household as well.  We started 
> having communication problems for a while because I would say something and 
> get no answer, so I would say it again, and then my daughter or stepson, or 
> sometimes their dad, would get irritated with me for repeating it.  I would 
> tell them I repeated it because I'd gotten no answer, and if they didn't 
> want me to repeat what I said, they could have given me some indication 
> they'd heard me the first time.  Or sometimes I would say something and it 
> didn't get heard because apparently nobody knew who I was talking to.  I 
> guess it was a sighted thing-I hadn't looked at anybody and directed the 
> conversation to that person in particular-but I still sometimes think it 
> was more of a selective hearing thing because nobody wanted to take 
> responsibility for what I had been saying; usually something about Mom not 
> being the maid or the like.  Anyway, over time, we developed a system where 
> I would say, "Are you listening to me" and use the person's name, and get a 
> "yes" answer, and then go on.  Sort of the verbal equivalent of eye contact. 
> It has at least reaffirmed my confidence in the fact that I'm speaking the 
> same language as the other people in my household.  I used to wonder if I 
> were thinking in English, but speaking some obscure Martian language every 
> time I opened my mouth, since nothing I said seemed to be heard or 
> understood.
> 
> Jo Elizabeth
> 
> "The Bright Side of Darkness"
> is my newly published novel,
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> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Tara Wiseman via BlParent
> Sent: Saturday, February 20, 2016 5:36 PM
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] curious.
> 
> Do you guys think the children of blind parents are more verbal? I know my 
> little 18-month-old daughter is extremely verbal. My pediatrician was very 
> impressed with the way that Marie makes eye contact and said it was very 
> unusual for her age. I read a study of children of blind moms. The children 
> of blind mothers made iContact better thanor at the same level as their 
> peers who were children of cited mothers. The theory was that because 
> children were being taken care of by their blind moms and then presumably 
> other sighted family members and friends it was very natural to them to make 
> a switch between auditory and visual worlds.  Anyway just interested in what 
> everyone thinks.
> Tara
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> On Feb 20, 2016, at 12:42 PM, Judy Jones via BlParent 
> <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>
> Very cute.  Then she probably goes on to describe it.  I know our girls 
> were both and still are nonstop talkers.
>
> Judy
>
> -----Original Message----- From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via BlParent
> Sent: Saturday, February 20, 2016 11:57 AM
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> Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Subject: Re: [blparent] curious.
>
> My daughter is almost eight years old, and she still half believes I have 
> a
> pair of working eyes hiding somewhere under the hair in the back of my 
> head.
> Sometimes she'll draw a picture or bring a really good paper home from
> school or something, and she'll be really excited and say, "Look, look!"
> I'll remind her I can't see it, and she'll say, "Mom!  Look with your back
> eyes!"
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "The Bright Side of Darkness"
> is my newly published novel,
> available in Kindle, audio, and paperback formats at Amazon.com.
> -----Original Message----- From: Judy Jones via BlParent
> Sent: Saturday, February 20, 2016 11:07 AM
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] curious.
>
> When raising my girls, my husband and I used to say, the eyes in the front
> of the head may not ork, but the ones in the back do.  We'd joke about it,
> and the girls knew what we meant.
>
> Judy
>
> -----Original Message----- From: Elizabeth Bowden via BlParent
> Sent: Friday, February 19, 2016 7:59 PM
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> Cc: Elizabeth Bowden
> Subject: Re: [blparent] curious.
>
> What an interesting topic:
> For my part, I have many nieces and nephews but never had that difficulty.
> I am a to look like I am looking at them enough so that they don't notice
> anything till they are about 4 or 5.  Then they wonder why I keep my eyes
> closed sometimeso.  I just tell them I don't need my eyes like they do.
>
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>> On Feb 19, 2016, at 8:18 PM, Wendy Meuse via BlParent 
>> <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>
>> i know that our own kids get used to the way we do things.  Eeven when my 
>> daughter was quite a small baby, my husband told me that
>> she could tel that  I was not looking at her. of course I was talking to 
>> her as any mother does, and I had my face turned towards
>> her, but of course our eyes did  not meet.  My daughter took this in 
>> stride.  Whenn I was watching other children though it took
>> them a little while to get used to me not  looking at them. i wondered 
>> iff any of you noticed this and did it take say, yourr
>> nabor's children or your  friend's children long to get used to this 
>> situation?  When I started worrking at daycare, it took some of
>> the kids a while to get used to it.  I had to work harder to win their 
>> confidence.  i thought this would be an  interesting topic
>> and I wondered what you guys thhink?
>> today is a brand new day with no mistakes in it.  let go of the past and 
>> move forward.
>>
>>
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