[blparent] Tips on parenting a toddler and a newborn.

Judy Jones sonshines59 at gmail.com
Tue Jun 21 03:28:02 UTC 2016 

We went places alone all the time, but our 3-year-old was able to use a seat 
belt then, and the baby had her car seat.

Judy


-----Original Message----- 
From: Shelby Young via BlParent
Sent: Monday, June 20, 2016 8:45 PM
To: Blind
Cc: Shelby Young
Subject: Re: [blparent] Tips on parenting a toddler and a newborn.

Wow!  I really think she was asking for some general advice.  Some people 
can be so rude!

Get a box of books, puzzles and toys that your toddler might like.  Pull 
this box out when its time to feed baby and than put away.  Maybe you could 
call it her special toys or something.  I also like the idea about giving 
her a doll.  Make sure you have a room that is baby proof like Brandi said. 
You could have your toddler “help” you.  Could you please hand me a diaper, 
that pack of wipes?
We always let my son touch the baby.  I say things like please be soft or 
gentle.  The only times I tell him not to touch is if the baby is super 
fussy or has just gone to sleep.  I recommend getting a baby carrier.  I 
really like the Lillebaby.  You can use it newborn through toddlerhood.  My 
son loves to fall asleep in it.
I don’t know of a good double stroller because I’m not a big fan of the one 
we have.  I just use the baby carrier and pull my toddler in the wagon. 
Taking two car seats is so hard alone.  In fact I don’t like going places 
alone if I have to take a taxi.  U walk or get a ride if I know of someone 
else going.  We don’t have good transit here so its walking or taxi.
Try to get them on a similar schedule.  Rest as much as possible.  I hope 
all this helped.  Sorry its so jumbled, its been a long day.
> On Jun 20, 2016, at 9:22 PM, Jennifer Bose via BlParent 
> <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>
> Congratulations, Tara.
>
> I liked Judy's advice. Also, something that's true for blind and sighted 
> parents alike is that if you can get any support from others you trust who 
> can watch one of the children while you're giving attention to the other 
> one, that can be really helpful. Another tip: Be as flexible about things 
> as possible, especially time. Take it easy getting everyone ready to do 
> something. Having just said that, see if you can get on a basic schedule 
> so that you have some idea of everyone's energy levels. It was a challenge 
> for me when I was parenting my new baby and my 2.5-year-old, and I suspect 
> it's challenging even for the most thorough planners among us. But 
> sometimes, if you time things just right, you can have some wonderful 
> experiences. One of my favorites was finding some time in the late morning 
> when my older daughter was ready to do something fun and my baby daughter 
> was changed, fed and ready for a nap. I put the baby in my front carrier, 
> brought the diaper bag, and we all walked over to see a puppet show that I 
> knew my older daughter would like.
>
> I can't emphasize the importance of help with this enough, though, because 
> it's rare that both kids will be having a nap, and taking care of them 
> both will be exhausting.
>
> All the best to you.
>
> Jen
>
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
>> On Jun 20, 2016, at 9:34 PM, Tara Wiseman via BlParent 
>> <blparent at nfbnet.org <mailto:blparent at nfbnet.org>> wrote:
>>
>> Brilliant idea! Thank you so much! I have wondered about how to make 
>> Marie still feel special and a part of things.
>>
>> Sent from my iPhone
>>
>>> On Jun 20, 2016, at 7:01 PM, Judy Jones via BlParent 
>>> <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>>
>>> One thing we used to do.  You will find the new baby will be demanding 
>>> of course, but the older one will want your attention.
>>>
>>> In a situation where New Baby starts to cry, if you know nothing 
>>> immediate is needed and you can let the baby cry for a couple minutes, 
>>> if you are doing something with your older one, say something like, 
>>> "Just a second, New Baby, I'm with Older Daughter right now, I'll be 
>>> there in a minute.
>>>
>>> What this REALLY does is lets your older daughter know that although 
>>> newborn is high priority, there are times when it is okay for your older 
>>> daughter to claim some attention ahead of the newborn.
>>>
>>> Again, this is a situation you have to think about before it actually 
>>> happens, is a setup in a way, and works when you know the newborn is 
>>> okay and safe and can cry for a couple of minutes, no more.  Just enough 
>>> to get your point across to your older daughter.
>>>
>>> I hope I've made sense with this explanation.
>>>
>>> Judy
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message----- From: Wendy Meuse via BlParent
>>> Sent: Monday, June 20, 2016 6:44 PM
>>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Cc: Wendy Meuse
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Tips on parenting a toddler and a newborn.
>>>
>>> Hi Tara:  I wish I could advise you from my own experience.  I only  had 
>>> one baby though.  But I have had a couple of blind friends
>>> who had more then one baby.  They talked a lot about the new baby to the 
>>> toddler and it helped to let the big brother or sister help
>>> with new baby's care as well.   I just want to congratulate you though, 
>>> and I will be looking forward to hearing about how things
>>> work out.  I know they will.  I think a lot of thingthat work  for 
>>> sighted parents will work with us though.
>>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Tara Wiseman via BlParent" 
>>> <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> To: "Star Gazer" <pickrellrebecca at gmail.com>
>>> Cc: "Tara Wiseman" <thflute at gmail.com>; "Blind Parents Mailing List" 
>>> <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Monday, June 20, 2016 12:00 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Tips on parenting a toddler and a newborn.
>>>
>>>
>>> Hi, I am confused by your answer. It is my understanding that the blind 
>>> parent list is a networking list of people who are parents
>>> who are blind. On this list, we come up with  ideas and solutions for 
>>> how we can successfully parent without site. In addition, we
>>> try and support each other. Obviously, I thought things through before I 
>>> became pregnant. However, I was hoping to find blind
>>> parents who have had a similar situation and could help me with some 
>>> things that worked  for them.   This list has been extremely
>>> helpful in the past. I want to thank  anyone who sends me some ideas or 
>>> advice for what has worked for them.
>>> Tara
>>>
>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>
>>>> On Jun 20, 2016, at 11:14 AM, Star Gazer <pickrellrebecca at gmail.com> 
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>             Little late to worry about that now isn't
>>>> it? I truly do not understand this question. If you were worried about
>>>> "making this work" you should have thought of that before you got 
>>>> pregnant.
>>>> This is not to be confused with having faith that it will work. The 
>>>> latter
>>>> makes sense given your short runway.
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tara
>>>> Wiseman via BlParent
>>>> Sent: Monday, June 20, 2016 1:00 PM
>>>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>>>> Cc: Tara Wiseman <thflute at gmail.com>
>>>> Subject: [blparent] Tips on parenting a toddler and a newborn.
>>>>
>>>> Hi all, I am expecting my second baby on June 29. My daughter is 23 
>>>> months
>>>> old. But he has vice you could pass along about how to make this work?
>>>> Thanks!
>>>>
>>>> Tara
>>>>
>>>> Sent from my iPhone
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