[blparent] spanking and physical punishments

[Dianna]

Well I ain't worried about the powers at because if I wish to spank my child I will, but I find other ways just because I have an issue when it is ok to hit children in the name of spanking but if you hit an adult you go to jail.  These are little people but yet it is ok to hit them.  I don't understand that theory myself.


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Subject: Re: [blparent] spanking and physical punishments

Very well said Julie! One thing to consider is the question of what are we teaching kids about conflict and problem-solving by spanking? We're teaching them that violence is the way to solve problems. I work with teens and many of them choose to solve problems with violence because of their backgrounds and trying to explain that this is not a viable option is very hard when that is all they have experienced.

Michelle


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Subject: [blparent] spanking and physical punishments

I’ve noticed that a lot of the recent messages are pretty pushy about spanking and other physical punishments.  I’m not judging, parent however you see fit.  The thing is though that the repercussions for spanking and the like these days are very, very different than from the 70’s when a lot of us were growing up.

Now if your kid tells his teacher his parents spank, the teacher will be reporting this to the powers that be.  If you spank your kid in the grocery store, you could very well end up explaining your action to the police.   If your child has a mark on him, even if it’s from a tumble off his bike, you are going to be answering a lot of questions from people in positions to make your life very, very miserable.  Add in the fact that every one of us is blind and like it or not there is already  some preconceived ideas at least by some professionals.  Start with doubt, add in your child’s rendition of what happened, stir in a healthy dose of societal implications of spanking and what you have is a recipe for misery.

I’ve been teaching parenting classes for  6 years or so now.  I’ve worked with parents from abusive homes, parents who left abusive spouses, parents with kids with diagnosed behavior problems, parents with kids in the criminal justice system and your regular Ozzy and Harriet type of parents.   There are effective alternatives to spanking.  Alternatives that won’t create more problems for you.  Also if you want the support of teachers, social workers, family doctor and mental health professionals you are going to have to pick a strategy that doesn’t involve physical punishments because no professional these days is going to promote that approach.

As has been said before, spanking is considered abuse in some places.  It’s also common for parents who have divorced or separated because of a adult abuse situation to have a court order that no physical punishment can be used with the children.

I have no idea what the situation is with the original poster.  I do absolutely know that spanking, although it may very well work, is not an easy answer to a difficult situation.  I would hope that people would be supportive of all  parents no matter what their parenting approach or life situation.

Julie
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