[blparent] language use concern

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

At this point, with all of the defiance happening, I would let it go.  If 
your daughter finds out the bad language is another way to push your 
buttons, she'll jump on it.  The reasons why one word is okay and another 
isn't are pretty difficult to explain to a preschooler.

If she were older and not having behavioral issues, my advice might be 
different.  When my daughter came home with the f-bomb from school and asked 
me if she could say it one time to see what would happen, I told her to go 
ahead.  She said it and was surprised to find that absolutely nothing 
happened.  I told her she could say it if she wanted to, but she had to go 
to her room and shut the door so it wouldn't bother anybody else.  Over the 
next two or three days, I heard her going to her room and closing the door a 
few times, and I knew what she was up to.  But the novelty wore off, and the 
word lost its appeal.  If I had freaked out, she'd still be throwing f-bombs 
today.  Last night aside, it has never come up again, and I think it came up 
this time because we were in the unfortunate company of some unruly teenage 
house guests of my boyfriend's ex wife over Easter weekend.  She'll figure 
out over the next few weeks that disrespecting her mother doesn't pay off.

Jo Elizabeth

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-----Original Message----- 
From: Jodie and Kahlan via BlParent
Sent: Wednesday, March 30, 2016 4:44 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Cc: Jodie and Kahlan
Subject: Re: [blparent] language use concern

We have a neighbor who throws  F bombs frequently in regular
conversation, and today he used one with Kahlan. Kahlan hasn't
indicated that she's going to start using it, or even that she heard or
understood it. Should Chris and I talk to her about it, or just leave
it alone unless she actually starts using it? Chris didn't hear it
because he'd gone to the store to pick something up for me. I asked the
neighbor not to use it and he did apologize, but he's done it
frequently in normal conversations where she and all the other kids can
hear, including his own, and his kids can be pretty disrespectfrul.
Should we bring it up with Kahlan, or leave it alone? Chris and I have
already decided she's not allowed to play at their house anymore.

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