[blparent] Kids losing your things for you

Tue Dec 5 19:59:59 UTC 2017

				I was thinking that both cards would have your picture on them. Maybe she just wanted a picture of Mommy or to look at one? 
Either way, I'd not leave your purse on the bed (mostly because that would give my bed negative associations, at least it would for me) and also to teach her that she doesn't belong in there. 
And, if nobody on here has tried it, the Be My Eyes app is awesome! Your id and club house pass shouldn't have sensitive info on it, so maybe try using that app?

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Subject: Re: [blparent] Kids losing your things for you

Hi, Tara.

I agree. Michael's point about three-year-olds just being curious and not trying to make your life difficult is what I've noticed too. And JoElizabeth's points about leaving your purse in a designated place out of reach and telling her it's your space also makes sense to me.
Although I'd sometimes forget, usually I would keep my purse in one of a few designated places I was likely to be in with my daughters: On a high shelf by the door, on my desk next to me or on the kitchen counter near me. I could almost always catch one of them getting into it and let them know they shouldn't. I wouldn't recommend the strategy of hiding your daughter's favorite toy, but I might try a very quick mention of it: "How would you feel if I hid your toy?" You might try making up a bedtime story about a child losing a favorite toy and looking everywhere for it before finally finding it. That might not get her thinking about people and their things in a positive way.

Jen

On 11/29/17, Michael Bullis via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> I use to put everything of value up and out of reach.  Kids are very 
> curious and often don't disobey in their own minds, they're just playing with stuff.
> I truly did put things up in high closets that I didn't want to be 
> drooled on, moved, chewed or lost.
> When I was teaching my daughter lessons, I taught her with things 
> which weren't important but were object lessons.  Still she 
> occasionally took them, chewed on them, etc. but, at least I could 
> time her out or something and I really didn't lose anything.
>
>
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> ianuzzi via BlParent
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> I wonder if your daughter would learn by example. Perhaps if you were 
> to hide her favorite toy and then ask her to get it she would 
> understand the frustration of not being able to find something that 
> she really likes. Then you could find it in its new location and 
> explain to her that when she hides your things you feel upset to
>
> JODY
>
> thunderwalker321 at gmail.com
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> "What's within you is stronger than what's in your way."  NO BARRIERS  
> Erik Weihenmayer
>
>> On Nov 29, 2017, at 8:00 AM, Star Gazer via BlParent 
>> <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> wrote:
>>
>>            Just lay down the law that she is not to go into your 
>> purse *ever*. If she knows not to play with the victor stream then 
>> she can learn not to play with your purse.
>> Keep your purse in a place she doesn't go like on a coat hook or 
>> whatever works for you.
>> Also, the world wouldn't have ended if the gate pass was missing for 
>> the party. The condo management is responsible for replacing it, 
>> maybe at a cost to you, maybe not, but either way, it is part of 
>> their job description to issue passes.
>>
>>
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>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tara 
>> Briggs via BlParent
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>> Cc: Tara Briggs <thflute at gmail.com>
>> Subject: [blparent] Kids losing your things for you
>>
>> Dear fellow parents! I have come across a major problem and I don’t know.
>> My oldest is three and she is the sweetest most adorable and kindest kid!
>> One of things I love about her if she is so cute and generous with a 
>> one-year-old sister. There is one thing that she does that is driving 
>> me up the wall and I don’t know how to deal with it. She could send 
>> my things and loses them. The most recent example of this which is 
>> still a problem, and she took my purse off my bed got into it and 
>> know my state ID and key card to my condo clubhouse is missing. I 
>> hope and assume they are somewhere in my home. But as you all know, 
>> one of the problems with missing things as a blind person is if it’s 
>> not under your hand you don’t know where it is. What do I do about 
>> this problem? I have tried childproof locks on things and that is 
>> helpful to a certain extent. I have also tried talking to about it to 
>> her and telling her what her problem is. But when you’re three don’t 
>> always grasp long-term consequences and cause-and-effect. For 
>> example, I am hosting my family‘s parties for Christmas this Sunday 
>> at my clubhouse. If I had discovered this missing key card next 
>> Sunday afternoon would’ve been a huge problem. Fortunately, I have a 
>> friend in our complex and she’s going to lend me her club card. I 
>> really need to find a way to get a handle on this problem because is 
>> driving me up the wall! Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. There 
>> are some things in my life but Maria has just learned from an early age because I’ve been really firm about it that she doesn’t get to play with.
>> For example she doesn’t play with my braille note or victor stream. 
>> And I think she realized after dropping my iPhone in the bathtub 
>> that’s off-limits to. But I can’t do it for everything in my life! I 
>> have told her over and over again that I need her to ask. And there 
>> are some things in my life I let her play with and enjoy and other 
>> things the answer is no OK, I think I’m starting to ramble. Hopefully 
>> you all get the point and some advice or commiseration would be more 
>> than welcome! When you guys had three-year-olds did they do this kind of thing? Kids really are amazing!
>> She’s got plenty of toys! But apparently as human beings from an 
>> early age we love the charm of the off-limits.
>> Tara
>>
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