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Alomi Parikh
alomiparikh24 at gmail.com
Wed May 17 08:33:23 UTC 2017
Thank you so much for these videos Tracy!
I will definitely have a look and I;m sure they'll be of great help!
Thank you,
Alomi Parikh
On Wed, May 17, 2017 at 4:33 AM, tmcgee3917 via BlParent <
blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> Here's another link to a series of blind parenting videos that might
> answer some of your questions.
> https://youtu.be/HweTIwWOIh0
>
> Warmly,
> Tracy Boyd
> "If you dream it you can do it!" Walt Disney
>
> > On May 16, 2017, at 11:18 AM, Alomi Parikh via BlParent <
> blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> >
> > Yes I think I have concluded that as well.
> >
> > I am so glad I reached out and got these responses from all of you, it
> > really widened my views.
> >
> > Thank you!
> >
> > On Tue, May 16, 2017 at 7:01 PM, Judy Jones via BlParent <
> > blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> >
> >> Blind parents just don't do that many things differently, so if you are
> >> looking for that premise, it won't work.
> >>
> >> Judy
> >>
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Alomi
> >> Parikh via BlParent
> >> Sent: Monday, May 15, 2017 9:45 PM
> >> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> >> Cc: Alomi Parikh
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
> >>
> >> Hi
> >>
> >> Thank you for choosing to reply to my questions
> >>
> >> Well I don't do surveys for people usually, but like it or not we do
> things
> >> differently sometimes and sometimes it is related to being blind and
> other
> >> times it is just what we choose to do as people.
> >>
> >> Could you please elaborate on what you do differently based on your
> >> blindness? If you don't mind that is. It would really help me out a lot.
> >>
> >> Thank you
> >>
> >> Alomi Parikh
> >>
> >>
> >> On May 16, 2017 6:01 AM, "DiannaAlley via BlParent" <
> blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >> wrote:
> >>
> >> Well I don't do surveys for people usually, but like it or not we do
> things
> >> differently sometimes and sometimes it is related to being blind and
> other
> >> times it is just what we choose to do as people. I see no harm in the
> >> survey. You either help or you don't. I don't worry about people
> >> stereotyping me as a blind parent because they are going to do what they
> >> want to do. I don't have time to worry about that stuff. I am too busy
> >> just trying to be a parent in general and it ain't easy especially
> being a
> >> single parent and that has nothing to do with my blindness in my
> opinion.
> >>
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Steve
> >> Jacobson via BlParent
> >> Sent: Monday, May 15, 2017 7:22 PM
> >> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List' <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >> Cc: Steve Jacobson <steve.jacobson at visi.com>
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
> >>
> >> I probably should explain that this person did write to mee asking that
> I
> >> forward the original note to the list. I suggested that she or he just
> >> subscribe. I did not expect there would be so many notes, but it
> seemed to
> >> be from our correspondence that there was a genuine interest to learn.
> I
> >> will be honest, I tend not to take most surveys that come my way because
> >> there are so many, but I know that many people don't mind. Therefore, I
> >> feel it is reasonable to let each of you decide. I think there is a
> fine
> >> line between biases and simply not thinking things through rationally.
> For
> >> example, it always winds me up a little when people wonder how we detect
> >> that a child is choking when we can't see the visual effects. It seems
> odd
> >> to me that it never occurs to people that by the time a child exhibits
> >> behavior or starts turning a different color it is because the child has
> >> already been choking for a few seconds. If one is in tune with their
> >> child,
> >> they may well hear their child stop breathing well before visual effects
> >> are
> >> even noticed. People tend to have a perspective that is based upon what
> >> they are familiar with. It doesn't occur to them that there may well be
> >> auditory indications that become apparent before the visual ones. That
> is
> >> not to say that having the ability to see what is happening would not be
> >> useful, but there are other ways to deal with most problems.
> >>
> >> Since I don't know the details of the person's background who is doing
> the
> >> surveying, I think it makes sense to be respectful and participate in
> the
> >> survey if one has the time and the inclination. If this process
> dominates
> >> the list too long, we'll figure something out.
> >>
> >> Best regards,
> >>
> >> Steve Jacobson, List Moderator
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Judy
> >> Jones
> >> via BlParent
> >> Sent: Monday, May 15, 2017 4:26 PM
> >> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List' <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >> Cc: Judy Jones <sonshines59 at gmail.com>
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
> >>
> >> I do question that she is a design student, yet doing this research on
> >> parenting. She did not mention in the original e-mail that she is
> asking
> >> both blind and sighted parents. I guess I'm one of the suckers that
> >> answered her questions, but did it in the interest of, as always,
> debunking
> >> myths and stereotypes about blind persons. (smiles)
> >>
> >> Interesting observations.
> >>
> >> Judy
> >>
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star
> >> Gazer
> >> via BlParent
> >> Sent: Monday, May 15, 2017 3:20 PM
> >> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> >> Cc: Star Gazer
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
> >>
> >> If you are interested in
> >> Sharon's course, why not sign up? You are free to do that as is anybody
> >> else
> >> who is interested.
> >> Is it just me, or do we have a college kid who is trying to take the
> >> "barely
> >> legal" way out of doing an assignment?
> >> Think about it, all she needs to do is copy and paste any responses she
> >> gets
> >> and hand them into her professor. She doesn't even have to hand key the
> >> responses.
> >> I also don't believe for a minute that you asked these same questions of
> >> sighted parents, and that you approached them with the same bias you
> have
> >> approached blind parents. You knew you would get the type of responses
> you
> >> did when you coupled it wht a bias that you may believe, or you may not
> >> believe. Point is, you just got a few nice ladies, and probably a lot of
> >> suckers to do your homework for you.
> >> You do realize that some of your questions apply to women who experience
> >> postpardum depression and/or anxiety, and that sight or lack thereof has
> >> nothing to do with it? You do realize that there are a boat load of
> >> industries that exist to support and assist families with infants. And,
> you
> >> do realize that there are not enough blind people having children to
> >> sustain
> >> these industries, right?
> >> You need to grow up, have some experiences, have children (because
> that's
> >> when you will discover you don't know what you think you know) and come
> >> back
> >> in a few years. Your homework is due soon, so I doubt you will do this.
> >>
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Alomi
> >> Parikh via BlParent
> >> Sent: Monday, May 15, 2017 3:06 PM
> >> To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >> Cc: Alomi Parikh <alomiparikh24 at gmail.com>
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
> >>
> >> Hi Sharon,
> >>
> >> Yes, I came across your course on your website and am extremely
> interested
> >> in knowing what and how you teach in this course. I completely
> understand
> >> if
> >> you cannot disclose details but a brief explanation would be a great
> start!
> >> I will definitely try and work on the perspective aspect that you
> >> mentioned.
> >>
> >> Thank you so much for replying and getting back to me!
> >>
> >> Regards,
> >> Alomi Parikh
> >>
> >> On Mon, May 15, 2017 at 10:55 PM, Sharon Howerton via BlParent <
> >> blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> >>
> >>> Alomi, thank you for your questions. I work for the Hadley Institute
> >>> for the Blind and Visually Impaired and teach a three course parenting
> >>> series. We have students from all over the world, and I have had one
> >>> or two students from India who have taken the parenting courses with
> >>> me. I think the lifestyle in India may be different from what we
> >>> experience in the US where Indian parents may live with extended
> >>> family, for example, and some blind people in India may live
> >>> differently than we do as well. I would encourage you to get a lot
> >>> more information about blind parenting from both the American and
> >>> Indian perspective, for example, but first you might want to learn
> >>> about perceptions of blind individuals as this may be impacted by the
> >>> culture of one's country.
> >>> Good luck.
> >>> Sharon Howerton
> >>>
> >>> -----Original Message-----
> >>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Alomi
> >>> Parikh via BlParent
> >>> Sent: Monday, May 15, 2017 11:06 AM
> >>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> >>> Cc: Alomi Parikh
> >>> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
> >>>
> >>> Hi Judy,
> >>>
> >>> First of all, I'd like to heartily thank you for contacting me.
> >>> Secondly, I am extremely sorry if my assumptions hurt you in any way,
> >>> it was not my intention.
> >>>
> >>> I am also sorry I didn't make this clear, but no, I am not blind. I
> >>> have contacted the list to get a better insight and first hand reports
> >>> that would help me in my project. And yes, I am not a parent.
> >>>
> >>> I spoke to a couple of Blind Parents from India and they indicated
> >>> that they often had the help of their sighted friends and neighbors
> >>> and I made the mistake of generalizing this.
> >>>
> >>> Thank you for the rest of your answers, they were really helpful. But
> >>> I wanted to clarify a few things.
> >>>
> >>> The same set of questions were sent out to both Blind and Sighted
> >> parents.
> >>>
> >>> For example, my intention was not to imply that there is a problem
> >>> providing safety but to inquire if you faced any safety issues
> >>> personally.
> >>> They are multiple safety hazards to infants in general and my aim was
> >>> to find out if there is any major difference between the way Blind
> >>> Parents and Sighted Parents take care of their infants.
> >>>
> >>> As for the question about the most worrisome part of raising an
> >>> infant, I was just aiming at the psychology of the parent and not
> >>> attacking a problem in any way. For example, several sighted parents
> >>> replied with various answers such as Communication Gap, Making sure
> >>> they are healthy, Facing the unknown, Night shifts etc. Hence, it was
> >>> just a question to see how you as a parent (irrespective of being
> >>> Blind or not) felt while raising your kids.
> >>> I am sure you had some anxieties as well and that is what I was hoping
> >>> to understand.
> >>>
> >>> Nonetheless, I am sorry if I hurt your sentiments in anyway by making
> >>> any assumptions. But I am so glad that you replied as now I have a
> >>> more clear picture of my topic. Thank you so much for taking out the
> >>> time to read this long email and patiently reply to all my queries.
> >>>
> >>> I am eagerly waiting for more responses.
> >>>
> >>> To the other readers,
> >>>
> >>> I would like to reiterate to the others that personally I strongly
> >>> believe that Blind Parents are 100% capable to raise their infants. I
> >>> am just reaching out to understand if there are any problems or not
> >>> and want to clear out any assumptions.
> >>>
> >>> The following questions were sent out to both Blind and Sighted
> >>> Parents and in no way are singling out Blind Parents by assuming that
> >>> they will definitely have problems. These questions are to understand
> >>> more about your Psychology as a parent more than anything else.
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>> *3. What are some of the other problems regarding safety that you
> >>> facedwhile raising your infant?4. What are some unconventional methods
> >>> you use to keep your infant safe?5. What is/was the most worrisome
> >>> part of raising an infant?6. What are some solutions you would
> >>> suggest?7. Would you like to say anything apart from the questions?*
> >>>
> >>> Thank you once again for your valuable time.
> >>>
> >>> Alomi Parikh
> >>>
> >>> On Mon, May 15, 2017 at 9:09 PM, Judy Jones via BlParent <
> >>> blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> >>>
> >>>> Hello,
> >>>>
> >>>> Thank you for contacting this list.
> >>>>
> >>>> First of all, are you blind? I also take it that at your age, you
> >>>> are not yet a parent possibly?
> >>>>
> >>>> You are making assumptions too many times that others make, that the
> >>>> blind parents do need some sighted assistance. Not so.
> >>>>
> >>>> My blind husband and I raised two happy and healthy girls, who are
> >>>> now successful adults, and we had no outside sighted assistance. I
> >>>> will qualify that by saying that we have lots of sighted friends.
> >>>> We are very social, and our girls have been also. As a natural part
> >>>> of friendships, we would do things for each other. I would bake
> >>>> cookies, or watch other sighted friends' kids, for instance. The
> >>>> sighted parents might take my kids somewhere, because they could
> >>>> drive. But we also took our kids places on the bus. We did not
> >>>> have sighted help based on our blindness. We would do things for
> >>>> each other as a natural result of being friends and filling a need.
> >>>>
> >>>> We only used a baby sitter, believe it or not, once. Most of the
> >>>> time we hung with other parents who had kids, and we all would
> >>>> congregate in kid-friendly places, because we wanted to. We were
> >>>> very independent with our kids, using either cabs or buses to get
> >>>> them where they needed to go, and we took other sighted parents'
> >>>> kids with us, if their parents did not have the time or ability to
> >>>> drive
> >> them.
> >>>>
> >>>> To address your issues. Child safety is always of concern to
> >>>> parents, not just to blind parents. Providing that safety is not
> >>>> visual, but common sense. Again, you are making some underlying
> >>>> assumptions that are not necessarily true. Blind or sighted, you
> >>>> need to be aware of your environment, your child's environment, and
> >>>> be in tune with your child. We were aware of safety precautions we
> >>>> would need to take, and took them. A child who is choking is not
> >>>> going to just sit there and choke. He will be moving and showing
> >>>> other signs of distress, making some noises, breathing changes.
> >>>> Granted, blind parents cannot see skin pallor, but there are so many
> >>>> other symptoms that go along with what
> >>> is going on with the child.
> >>>> I'm
> >>>> speaking from experience.
> >>>>
> >>>> The answer to your second question is obvious. I would resolve the
> >>>> first-aid situation with steps that need to be taken at the time of
> >>>> the incident. It is good advice for parents to know CPR and take
> >>>> that and first aid classes that are offered in communities.
> >>>>
> >>>> The only unconventional things we did, but I got this idea from
> >>>> seeing a sighted parent do this, is we put bells on our toddlers'
> >>>> shoes so we could hear where they are. Another thing we did, if we
> >>>> called for the child and they did not respond, we would take it on
> >>>> ourselves to go find them. When we did, we would be very
> >>>> matter-of-fact and say something like, Oh, there you are, and not
> >>>> make a
> >> big deal out of it.
> >>>> We took control by finding the child ourselves, and not giving child
> >>>> the control to come to us when they felt like it. A great behavior
> >>>> to practice. By the way, I learned that one at guide dog school
> >>>> years before we had children. (smiles)
> >>>>
> >>>> Your next question, again, assumes there have to be problems in
> >>>> providing safety. There are not. The answer is prevention. There
> >>>> are priorities of providing safety. As a blindparent of a toddler,
> >>>> you cannot just sit in a chair, and tell toddler to come to you.
> >>>> You need to be on your feet with that toddler when he is exploring,
> >>>> when not by your side. That alone will eliminate a lot of safety
> >> issues.
> >>>> Your child is your responsibility, not someone else's.
> >>>>
> >>>> Any successful blind person becomes a problem-solver, and this is
> >>>> true of blind parents as well as sighted parents. We all do what we
> >>>> can to make any hazards nonissues by taking preventative steps in
> >>>> the first place and thinking ahead.
> >>>>
> >>>> Your next question, again you are assuming wrongly, in our case,
> >>>> that it was worrisome raising kids. It was not. It was delightful,
> >>>> lots of hard work, but we enjoyed it.
> >>>>
> >>>> Parenting skills have more to do with parenting, and not the fact
> >>>> that the parents are blind. I can tell you also from my experience
> >>>> of grown sighted kids that they will tell you the same thing.
> >>>>
> >>>> Judy
> >>>>
> >>>>
> >>>>
> >>>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
> >>>> Alomi Parikh via BlParent
> >>>> Sent: Monday, May 15, 2017 7:56 AM
> >>>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> >>>> Cc: Alomi Parikh
> >>>> Subject: [blparent] (no subject)
> >>>>
> >>>> Hello
> >>>>
> >>>> Respected Sir/Madam,
> >>>>
> >>>> I am Alomi Parikh, a 19-year old Design Student from MIT University
> >>>> in Pune, India.
> >>>>
> >>>> I have chosen to work with Parenting without SIght for a college
> >> project.
> >>>>
> >>>> While I strongly believe that Blind Parents are completely and
> >>>> wholly capable of raising their own children, society may think
> >> otherwise.
> >>>> However, I have researched and observed that while they are fully
> >>>> capable, they do rely on their sighted friends or family for certain
> >>>> reasons which curbs their independence slightly. I have also come to
> >>>> realise that raising an infant is the most difficult part and there
> >>>> are
> >>> multiple safety hazards.
> >>>>
> >>>> After extensive research, I have narrowed down the topic I want to
> >>>> work with as the following:
> >>>>
> >>>> Choking hazards are one of the most common safety hazards to infants
> >>>> (0-12 months). The symptoms of suffocation and choking are mainly
> >>>> visual symptoms.
> >>>> A totally blind parent, left alone with their child may find it
> >>>> difficult to diagnose this problem or may require the help of
> >>>> sighted friends and family.
> >>>> I want to work towards making them feel independent enough to
> >>>> realize what is wrong with their child and be able to take the
> >>>> necessary actions, by themselves or just like any other sighted
> parent.
> >>>>
> >>>> I would like to ask you a couple of questions regarding this and
> >>>> sincerely hope you can help and guide me through this.
> >>>>
> >>>> 1. Do you think this is a genuine problem? Is there anything you
> >>>> would like to add about this topic?
> >>>>
> >>>> 2. How would you tackle a situation where your infant is choking or
> >>>> suffocating but you cannot see the symptoms?
> >>>>
> >>>> 3. Would you like to be completely independent in taking care of
> >>>> such a situation? If you already are, I would love to know what kind
> >>>> of solutions or tactics you use.
> >>>>
> >>>> 3. What are some of the other problems regarding safety that you
> >>>> faced while raising your infant?
> >>>>
> >>>> 4. What are some unconventional methods you use to keep your infant
> >> safe?
> >>>>
> >>>> 5. What is/was the most worrisome part of raising an infant?
> >>>>
> >>>> 6. What are some solutions you would suggest?
> >>>>
> >>>> 7. Would you like to say anything apart from the questions?
> >>>>
> >>>> I am looking forward to a constructive and positive interaction.
> >>>>
> >>>> Thank you for your valuable time and help.
> >>>>
> >>>> Alomi Parikh
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