[blparent] Kids losing your things for you

Wed Nov 29 21:22:22 UTC 2017

Hi, Tara.

I agree. Michael's point about three-year-olds just being curious and
not trying to make your life difficult is what I've noticed too. And
JoElizabeth's points about leaving your purse in a designated place
out of reach and telling her it's your space also makes sense to me.
Although I'd sometimes forget, usually I would keep my purse in one of
a few designated places I was likely to be in with my daughters: On a
high shelf by the door, on my desk next to me or on the kitchen
counter near me. I could almost always catch one of them getting into
it and let them know they shouldn't. I wouldn't recommend the strategy
of hiding your daughter's favorite toy, but I might try a very quick
mention of it: "How would you feel if I hid your toy?" You might try
making up a bedtime story about a child losing a favorite toy and
looking everywhere for it before finally finding it. That might not
get her thinking about people and their things in a positive way.

Jen

On 11/29/17, Michael Bullis via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> I use to put everything of value up and out of reach.  Kids are very curious
> and often don't disobey in their own minds, they're just playing with stuff.
> I truly did put things up in high closets that I didn't want to be drooled
> on, moved, chewed or lost.
> When I was teaching my daughter lessons, I taught her with things which
> weren't important but were object lessons.  Still she occasionally took
> them, chewed on them, etc. but, at least I could time her out or something
> and I really didn't lose anything.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jody
> ianuzzi via BlParent
> Sent: Wednesday, November 29, 2017 1:20 PM
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> Cc: Jody ianuzzi <thunderwalker321 at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Kids losing your things for you
>
> I wonder if your daughter would learn by example. Perhaps if you were to
> hide her favorite toy and then ask her to get it she would understand the
> frustration of not being able to find something that she really likes. Then
> you could find it in its new location and explain to her that when she hides
> your things you feel upset to
>
> JODY
>
> thunderwalker321 at gmail.com
>
> "What's within you is stronger than what's in your way."  NO BARRIERS  Erik
> Weihenmayer
>
>> On Nov 29, 2017, at 8:00 AM, Star Gazer via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> wrote:
>>
>>            Just lay down the law that she is not to go into your purse
>> *ever*. If she knows not to play with the victor stream then she can learn
>> not to play with your purse.
>> Keep your purse in a place she doesn't go like on a coat hook or whatever
>> works for you.
>> Also, the world wouldn't have ended if the gate pass was missing for the
>> party. The condo management is responsible for replacing it, maybe at a
>> cost to you, maybe not, but either way, it is part of their job
>> description to issue passes.
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tara
>> Briggs via BlParent
>> Sent: Wednesday, November 29, 2017 5:07 AM
>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Cc: Tara Briggs <thflute at gmail.com>
>> Subject: [blparent] Kids losing your things for you
>>
>> Dear fellow parents! I have come across a major problem and I don’t know.
>> My oldest is three and she is the sweetest most adorable and kindest kid!
>> One of things I love about her if she is so cute and generous with a
>> one-year-old sister. There is one thing that she does that is driving me
>> up the wall and I don’t know how to deal with it. She could send my things
>> and loses them. The most recent example of this which is still a problem,
>> and she took my purse off my bed got into it and know my state ID and key
>> card to my condo clubhouse is missing. I hope and assume they are
>> somewhere in my home. But as you all know, one of the problems with
>> missing things as a blind person is if it’s not under your hand you don’t
>> know where it is. What do I do about this problem? I have tried childproof
>> locks on things and that is helpful to a certain extent. I have also tried
>> talking to about it to her and telling her what her problem is. But when
>> you’re three don’t always grasp long-term consequences and
>> cause-and-effect. For example, I am hosting my family‘s parties for
>> Christmas this Sunday at my clubhouse. If I had discovered this missing
>> key card next Sunday afternoon would’ve been a huge problem. Fortunately,
>> I have a friend in our complex and she’s going to lend me her club card. I
>> really need to find a way to get a handle on this problem because is
>> driving me up the wall! Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. There are
>> some things in my life but Maria has just learned from an early age
>> because I’ve been really firm about it that she doesn’t get to play with.
>> For example she doesn’t play with my braille note or victor stream. And I
>> think she realized after dropping my iPhone in the bathtub that’s
>> off-limits to. But I can’t do it for everything in my life! I have told
>> her over and over again that I need her to ask. And there are some things
>> in my life I let her play with and enjoy and other things the answer is no
>> OK, I think I’m starting to ramble. Hopefully you all get the point and
>> some advice or commiseration would be more than welcome! When you guys had
>> three-year-olds did they do this kind of thing? Kids really are amazing!
>> She’s got plenty of toys! But apparently as human beings from an early age
>> we love the charm of the off-limits.
>> Tara
>>
>>
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