[blparent] Having Sleepovers With Sighted Friends

[Roanna Bacchus]

Hi Steve thanks for your message. Both of my parents are sighted as are most of my family members. I have two older sisters, and my parents did not allow them to attend sleepovers. I thought about this incident since it is Summer vacation.   

On Jun 19, 2018 10:15 AM, Steve Jacobson via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>
> Roanna, 
>
> This is not a simple issue without knowing more about the situation.  However, as a blind parent, I remember a couple of times that I did not allow my kids to go to a sleep-over.  I could not put a finger on the problem, I just didn't have a good feeling about it all at the time and did not know the parents.  There were times that they did do sleep-overs when another parent whom I trusted new the family having the sleep-over.  Therefore, it certainly is possible that your parents made the correct decision in your case.  
>
> On the other hand, I don't know anything about your parents.  If they are not blind, or even if they are for that matter, if their decision was based on thinking you might have trouble because of your blindness or if your blindness caused them to be afraid to let you try something independently, then I am not as certain they were correct.  Some parents of blind kids are sometimes overly protective and that is not right, but that is a subjective judgement.  Is there a reason this incident is on your mind just now?  I assume it happened at least ten years ago, or am I incorrect? 
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> Best regards, 
>
> Steve Jacobson 
>
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> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Roanna Bacchus via BlParent 
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> Cc: Roanna Bacchus <rbacchus228 at gmail.com> 
> Subject: [blparent] Having Sleepovers With Sighted Friends 
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> Dear Parents, 
>
> I hope all of you are doing well. The subject of this email stems from an incident that happened to me when I was in sixth grade. One of my sighted friends invited me to a sleepover at her house. When I asked my mom if I could go, she said no. I was upset about it for a long time, and just sat on the couch and cried. At the time I was sad about not being able to attend the sleepover. Looking back now, I can say that my parents did the right thing by not letting me go. They did not know my sighted friend or her parents, so I can't blame them for not allowing me to attend. I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. 
>
> Roanna Bacchus 
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