[blparent] New blind parents

Thu Jun 28 21:55:49 UTC 2018

What? 22 steps for changing a diper? Never thought it had so many
steps. Once a nurse showed me when my daughter was born and that was
it. I never had 22 steps to think about.

On 6/28/18, Jo Elizabeth Pinto via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> There may be twenty-two steps, but you'll get where you can almost change
> diapers in your sleep, without conscious thought.
>
>
> Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: BlParent <blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Tony Malykh via
> BlParent
> Sent: Thursday, June 28, 2018 11:42 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Cc: Tony Malykh <anton.malykh at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] New blind parents
>
> Thanks everyone!
> At this stage, it is very comforting to hear that we can do it naturally. It
> is also good to know that we have a step by step “manual”
> to follow to change diapers (even there are 22 steps <grin>).
> We are looking forward to our new journey!
> Lisa & Tony
>
>
>
> On 6/26/2018 2:22 PM, Amanda F via BlParent wrote:
>> Hello, I have an eight month old daughter. I had no prior experience with
>> children. However, a lot of things just come naturally. Honestly. I don’t
>> even think about me not being able to see or anything like that. I just do
>> what I need to do. If you use bottles, I recommend getting a talking scale
>> and doing it that way. A lot and everything that you need to do, you can
>> do. As long as you believe in yourself. It might seem nerve-racking at
>> first because we are blind, however, it is really simple. Good luck!
>> Amanda
>>
>> Sent from my iPhone
>>
>>> On Jun 25, 2018, at 3:01 PM, Jo Elizabeth Pinto via BlParent
>>> <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>>
>>> When my daughter was in the first grade, she had experienced some
>>> teasing, so I did a class presentation. I was hoping it would make the
>>> kids more comfortable about blindness so they wouldn't tease her anymore.
>>> (It turned out they teased her because she and I walked lots of places
>>> instead of me driving her everywhere, not directly because I was blind,
>>> and that slowed down but didn't stop once kids met my guide dog.)
>>>
>>> Anyway, at the end of the presentation, the teacher, in a somewhat
>>> rehearsed question, asked my daughter what it was like having a blind
>>> mom.
>>>
>>> My daughter, in a completely unrehearsed answer, said, "Oh, it's just
>>> like having a regular mom, except Daddy doesn't let her drive his car."
>>>
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>
>>> "The Bright Side of Darkness"
>>> Is my award-winning novel,
>>> Available in Kindle, audio, and paperback formats.
>>> http://www.amazon.com/author/jepinto
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: BlParent <blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Michael Bullis
>>> via BlParent
>>> Sent: Monday, June 25, 2018 7:31 AM
>>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List' <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Cc: Michael Bullis <bullis.michael at gmail.com>
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] New blind parents
>>>
>>> My daughter was born in 2002.  The only advice I can give is that when
>>> you think that something requires sight, there is usually a way to do it
>>> without sight.  People around you will have their opinions and as with
>>> most things, they're trying to be helpful but have no real information
>>> about the alternative ways blind people do things.  It doesn't usually
>>> pay to fight about it at the moment but just wait until they go home and
>>> figure it out yourself.  I think it helped that I'd been a farmer and had
>>> pretty much found solutions as I went along, so, having a daughter was
>>> just another problem solving opportunity.  When my daughter was three
>>> years old I decided I should tell her I was blind.  She asked what that
>>> meant and I explained that my eyes didn't work.  She thought about that
>>> for a couple of days and came back to say, "You're not blind."  When I
>>> asked her why, she said, "Because you do everything for me that mama
>>> does."  Although I might wonder at that early age why she had already
>>> decided that not seeing was a disadvantage, I chose to take it as a
>>> compliment, because my goal had been to do everything for our daughter
>>> that my sighted wife did and I had apparently succeeded.
>>> All in all it was a fun experience, finding new ways to do things I had
>>> never done.
>>> Kids are wonderful.  Enjoy the experience.  They'll only be kids once and
>>> the time goes very quickly, but, you're setting the pattern for their
>>> life and how they will regard you.  I never asked my daughter to be my
>>> eyes for anything when she was done.  Probably carried it a bit far, but,
>>> I didn't want her to feel like she had that role.
>>> Enjoy!
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tony
>>> Malykh via BlParent
>>> Sent: Sunday, June 24, 2018 4:31 PM
>>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Cc: Tony Malykh <anton.malykh at gmail.com>
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] New blind parents
>>>
>>> Thank you all for your replies! It's so nice to see so much support
>>> here.
>>> Probably we will have a lot of concrete questions a few months later. But
>>> in the mean time, me and my wife are going to study all these materials
>>> that you guys recommended.
>>>
>>> Tony
>>>
>>>> On 6/23/18, Tony Malykh <anton.malykh at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> Hi all,
>>>>
>>>> Both me and my wife are visually impaired and we have a baby on the
>>>> way.
>>>> We don't have any experience, but we'd like to learn how to do it
>>>> right.
>>>> I don't have any specific questions at this moment, but I am wondering
>>>> if you guys have any advice on how to be a blind parent in general? Is
>>>> there any tutorial on how to be a blind parent?
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Thanks
>>>>
>>>> Tony
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
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