[Diabetes-talk] A Daughter's Story
dmgina
dmgina at qwest.net
Fri Nov 28 22:58:03 UTC 2008
It is interesting to me,
because I took care of my first husband even to is last breath.
Because his family shared they didn't want to do it.
They were pleased he was married.
I am pleased I was able to do this.
I had a doctor at the time who believed in me.
I said if he would write in an email what all his medicines were, I would
write them down.
We worked together, and I was pleased.
I didn't have anyone coming to give me a brake, but I got threw it and I
feel so very blessed.
My mother has been gone for years now, but this was another story.
I did get her to sign herself into a nursing home so that my brothers
wouldn't fight on behalf who was going to take care of her.
I was in Colorado at the time, and she in Indiana.
We talked until I couldn't understand her any more.
There were and still are three brothers in Indiana who didn't want to take
care of her.
I thought this was sad.
It is interesting what families will do.
--Dar
www.mypowermall.com/biz/home/5779
Every saint has a past
every sinner has a future
----- Original Message -----
From: "Ed Bryant" <ebryant at socket.net>
To: "Diabetes Talk" <diabetes-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, November 25, 2008 3:11 PM
Subject: [Diabetes-talk] A Daughter's Story
> Hi Folks,
> You may know we are working on past Voice editions which are not yet on
> our website. The following article is from Vol. 9 no. 4, Fall 1994.
> I wonder how many of us can relate to this story?
>
> Regards,
> Ed Bryant
>
> A daughter's story
>
>
>
> Many people have known the agony of watching a family member waste away
> from an incurable disease such as cancer. Many times all even the doctors
> can do is try to make the sufferer comfortable. Everyone tries to help.
> The family draws together in this time of pain.
> What happens when it is one of your own stricken, and you are blind? When
> your own family hasn't learned that blindness is not synonymous with
> inability? We know education is critical, and stories like the following
> remind us why. Olivia Ostergaard,
> Treasurer of the National Federation of the Blind of California Diabetics
> Chapter, lived through such a situation. Although she had been living
> independently for years, her own family, believing that "a blind person
> couldn't handle it anyway," would not allow her to help care for her
> diabetic mother, w
> hose cancer had become terminal.
> There is no good reason to bar any capable person from caring for a
> stricken loved one. In a time of such agony, the expression of ancient
> prejudices about the blind compounds the pain. "Imagine not being
> allowed to cook a simple soup, because someone was afraid you'd burn it!
> Imagine total strangers invading your territory, when you should be able
> to take charge of the situation..." says Ostergaard.
> When Olivia's younger (sighted) brother was given power of attorney over
> their mother's affairs, Olivia felt left out and abandoned. As she
> states: "When we went with mother to the doctor,
> my brother asked if she was terminal. The doctor denied it, and orde
> red more tests. I privately protested, because my brother wasn't seeing
> what I was seeing. He was still living in his fantasy that our mother was
> going to be all right. I knew better. I knew just by the way she was
> acting. Her thinking wasn't clear, sometimes. My brother wouldn't listen
> to me. I was his blind sister, "who didn't know anything".
> Four months later Olivia and her brother lost their mother to terminal
> cancer. Their agony needs no reinforcement here--but a simple point needs
> making: Blind folks can handle adversity! In such a situation, the
> burden can be eased by allowing ALL family members to carry their share of
> it. Knowledge is power.
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