[DSM-Iowa] Expressing My Feelings.

Thu Aug 6 18:02:42 UTC 2020

Mary:

 I’m sorry you are experiencing these feelings.    I think it is really important to assume good intent. Every now and then, I don’t hear people who are talking to me, and I am sometimes lost in thought. Other times, I have earbuds in my ears and do not hear them. Just because someone doesn’t respond doesn’t mean they have any ill will toward you. As I have told you before, it is always nice to have you participating in the chapter meetings. You are always welcome. 

Tai Tomasi, J.D., M.P.A.
Email: tai.tomasi8 at gmail.com
Sent from my iPhone. Please excuse my brevity and any grammatical errors.

> On Aug 6, 2020, at 12:51 PM, Don Shepherd via DSM-Iowa <dsm-iowa at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> 
> Sorry, I don’t hear that well either and am often lost in thought.  It is not wise to worry too much about what other people think of you. Just do your best and let the chips fall where they will.
>  
> From: DSM-Iowa <dsm-iowa-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Mary McGee via DSM-Iowa
> Sent: Thursday, August 6, 2020 12:43 PM
> To: 'Des Moines Chapter List, NFB of Iowa' <dsm-iowa at nfbnet.org>
> Cc: Mary McGee <mmcatitude at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [DSM-Iowa] Expressing My Feelings.
>  
> I’ll just reply by saying that I’ve seen you twice, spoken to you, and you’ve looked straight at me without acknowledging my speaking.  Once was by the mailboxes and once was by the gate on the West side of the Locust Building.  I said, “Hi, Don.”  And you just kept walking.  I wondered what the hall did I do to him? 
>  
> From: DSM-Iowa [mailto:dsm-iowa-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Don Shepherd via DSM-Iowa
> Sent: Thursday, August 6, 2020 12:35 PM
> To: 'Des Moines Chapter List, NFB of Iowa' <dsm-iowa at nfbnet.org>
> Cc: donaldshepherd7 at aol.com
> Subject: Re: [DSM-Iowa] Expressing My Feelings.
>  
> Mary, I have not seen you for a long time even though we live in the same complex. Sorry to hear you had covid. At my age and health I have been trying very hard to avoid it. It has made having social events or anything besides zoom meetings next to impossible for the chapter. There was an attempt to have a few folks get together for the NFB convention virtual banquet, but I was afraid to go and it turned out I had something else that needed doing anyway. As a board member, I can assure you that you are welcome. I enjoyed it when you were an active participant in the chapter.
>  
> From: DSM-Iowa <dsm-iowa-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Mary McGee via DSM-Iowa
> Sent: Thursday, August 6, 2020 12:11 PM
> To: dsm-iowa at nfbnet.org
> Cc: Mary McGee <mmcatitude at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [DSM-Iowa] Expressing My Feelings.
>  
> Dear Des Moines Chapter,
>               The experts say the only way we can succeed in life is to acknowledge and express our feelings, then move forward.  Therefore, I’ll express how I feel since joining the Des Moines Chapter and I’ll wait for the reaction because the same will tell me in which direction to move, whether than be toward the chapter or away from It. 
>               First, I’ll provide a little history.  I’ve been blind all my life, but I’ve struggled with it because I have some vision and Vinton taught me early that I was “partial” rather than blind.  I attended public school the last two years of high school and college without any accommodation because that was before IDEA or the Rehab Act.  I attended the Orientation Center.  I went to Drake University and practice law for over 25 years.  I participated in the Des Moines Chapter actively a few years ago, felt I contributed to it, and enjoyed the activities and the people.  I made a bad mistake when I supported Richard Sorey as Director of IDB and I acknowledge that and have apologized for same. 
>               Now I’m working for Wells Fargo and I feel shunned by the chapter, even though several fine people have told me there are no hard feelings from the past.  I’ve had mental health issues and those people have told me they don’t matter, that I’m OK.  I have changed my schedule since catching COVID so that I can be available to attend meetings in future, but I don’t know whether I’m welcome or not.  There are many who will welcome me, but I wonder about the elected officers because they’re the ones who have apparently ignored me as a new or re-joining member.  I have received NO introductory materials from the National Office, the State Affiliate, or the chapter.  I receive a few emails, but nothing I would call an official welcome or briefing on what’s available for me to use or add to the organization.  There have been NO social activities.
>               Isn’t there a Membership Committee?  Isn’t there a Fundraising Committee?  Does Des Moines do anything aside from play Presidential Releases, and, while these are important, I would think a local group would want to act on them in some way rather than merely sit and listen. 
>               I have some vision and I’ve had a mental breakdown and COVID.  I have made mistakes.  If the Des Moines Chapter wants my membership, I’ll be glad to return and participate.  If not, I will oblige.  But I’m calling out the officers and Board Members because this lack of communication will lead to the end of the chapter as members grow older.  Mail starts with “Dear Federation Family”.  What family?  I feel like the odd person out. 
>               I’ll freely admit I don’t answer the phone when I’m working forty hours a week.  But I’ve been home since July 15th.  I DO read emails and I know there are chapter members who have my contact information. 
>               I also have discovered through my own investigation that the Chapter President lives in the same apartment complex as I.  Come on, Mr. Pres., are you so overworked that you couldn’t contact me at all?  What about the Vice-President?  What about the Secretary or the Board?  I don’t remember the chapter being like this when I was active; we had social events for new or returning members where they were given copies of the constitution, contact information, convention information, and recording of significant speeches, etc.  What happened?
>               There you have it—my feelings converted to words.  Thank you for your attention.
> Sincerely,
> Mary L. McGee
>  
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