[Faith-talk] asking for prayer

Sat Nov 15 02:46:41 UTC 2008

Well, to get you started, I'd contact someone in your town who can
work with autistic or special needs kids and horses at the same time.
I know that narrows it down a lot, but I'd start with an academy or
stable.  Maybe there's someone who's amazing enough to work with Paul
and Jesse and get them out there and get them physically active.
Equestrianism is a good sport for kids who can't throw the ball.  When
I rode horses, someone stood beside me and just gave me clock
positions to turn my horse's head towards.  But for now, Paul and
Jessehave gotta start doing certain things like verbalizing and
perhaps not screaming so much.  And, if Paul likes music so much, let
him get into it as much as he can.  Can he sing?  I've heard of blind
people who have amazing powers over the gift of music.  I don't want
you to think that your twin boys are savants or anything because
savantism means they would have to be cared for for the rest of their
lives.  Not that I hate savants or anything, but I've watched a news
clip about them, and it amazes me what they can do, but i awes me to
tears what they cannot do.  I'm sure your boys will be able to cope
with their disorders/challenges.  My aunt has a son with Asperger's
syndrome, and he's on medications and a special diet and vitamins and
stuff.  He does superbly well in school and altar serves for his
church.
Beth

On 11/14/08, Barbara Hammel <poetlori8 at msn.com> wrote:
> Paul loves music and knows the words to over 100 songs.  I'd love to try
> horseback riding but haven't had the nerve or opportunity to try it yet.
> Barbara
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Beth" <thebluesisloose at gmail.com>
> Sent: Friday, November 14, 2008 5:47 PM
> To: "tribble" <lauraeaves at yahoo.com>; "Faith-talk,for the discussion of
> faith and religion" <faith-talk at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] asking for prayer
>
>> Music is a good way to get through to autistic children.  Horseback
>> therapy is also a good way to get through to them as well.
>> Beth
>>
>> On 11/14/08, tribble <lauraeaves at yahoo.com> wrote:
>>> Wow Barbara -- that is a challenge you have taken on, and I am sure the
>>> Lord
>>> will bless your efforts even if it seems impossible at times. Autism is a
>>> difficult problem to handle.  I'll remember you in my prayers and hope
>>> that
>>> little bit can help.
>>> --le
>>>
>>>
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Barbara Hammel" <poetlori8 at msn.com>
>>> To: "Faith-talk,for the discussion of faith and religion"
>>> <faith-talk at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Friday, November 14, 2008 9:47 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] asking for prayer
>>>
>>>
>>> On the contrary, they don't want their blind themselves.  I know, some
>>> parents do keep them, but many don't.
>>> In fact, I'll tell you the whole story.
>>>
>>> We waited for a year to adopt domestically but because of my being blind
>>> and
>>> my husband being much older than me, we were never chosen by a birth
>>> mother--or our portfolio was never shown.  That's neither here nor there
>>> now
>>> because it's the past.  Only the workers know for sure and maybe they'll
>>> have to answer one day.
>>>
>>> So September of 04 I called to check on our status and they asked if we'd
>>> thought about going international.  (Of course, blind parents would make
>>> excellent parents for a blind child.)  We said yes we could do that.
>>> They
>>> told us about a little boy in Hong Kong who was four years old.  We saw
>>> video and decided that autism just might be more than we could handle so
>>> said no to him.  While we were waiting to hear about another
>>> four-year-old
>>> boy in the Phillipines, a family wanted one of the ladies to go with them
>>>
>>> to
>>> China to help them through the process.
>>>
>>> While she was there, in November, she asked the Chinese lady if there
>>> were
>>> any blind children.  You see, there is a list of children of promise that
>>> some Asian countries list their special needs children on.  China does
>>> not
>>> put blind children on this list because they figure no one will want
>>> them.
>>>
>>> The lady checked and very shortly reported to the American that they did
>>> have two two-year-olds.  And, yes, they were twins.  I had always wanted
>>> twins.
>>>
>>> We got all our paperwork done by the first of January and miraculously
>>> the
>>> twins were okayed for just us.  If they'd gone on the regular list they'd
>>> have been there for anyone.
>>>
>>> Our dossier got to China, after taking only three weeks to translate it,
>>> and
>>> arrived just before the New Year which is a fifteen day holiday.  At the
>>> end
>>> of April we finally heard that we'd been approved.
>>>
>>> On our seventh anniversary we walked in to the adoption center in Kunming
>>>
>>> to
>>> receive our children.
>>>
>>> And as you saw in an earlier post, ironically, the thing I didn't want I
>>> ended up with double.
>>>
>>> I know God does not give us more than we can handle but for the past
>>> three
>>> years this family has barely been able to keep our noses out of the
>>> water.
>>> I just keep praying that one day we'll look back on these days and not
>>> believe how awful they were.  And maybe they just seem that way because
>>> for
>>> the first few months all both did was scream.  Then this past January
>>> Jesse
>>> screamed nonstop for six months because it took that long to find the
>>> hernias.  Praise be for their teacher who discovered one.  Then two
>>> months
>>> later Paul started screaming and hurting anyone who came near him.
>>>
>>> This time I think God gave us a bite that was too big to swallow.  But He
>>> knows what He's doing and no matter how little or much I teach them, as
>>> long
>>> as we try our best to love them the best way we know how, God will work
>>> His
>>> plan with them.  I just wish He would enlighten me.
>>>
>>> Barbara
>>>
>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>> From: "Beth" <thebluesisloose at gmail.com>
>>> Sent: Friday, November 14, 2008 9:12 AM
>>> To: "Faith-talk,for the discussion of faith and religion"
>>> <faith-talk at nfbnet.org>
>>> Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] asking for prayer
>>>
>>>> Well, I'll pray for them.  That's nice you've adopted twtin boys from
>>>> China who are blind.  You would think the Chinese wouldn't allow that
>>>> to happenh because they don't want their blind outside of China or
>>>> they don't want their blind to see the world.  Anyway, I'd like to
>>>> adopt special needs children myself if I get married.  Good luck.
>>>> Beth
>>>>
>>>> On 11/14/08, Barbara Hammel <poetlori8 at msn.com> wrote:
>>>>> Since I am new to this list, most of you may not know that my husband
>>>>> and
>>>>> I
>>>>> adopted twin boys from China three years ago.  They are blind and on
>>>>> the
>>>>> autism spectrum of disorders.
>>>>> Well, constipation has been an ongoing occurrence with both of them.
>>>>> Jesse
>>>>> did have double hernias that were taken care of in late summer.  But
>>>>> now
>>>>> Paul spent last weekend in the hospital to clear him out but he is not
>>>>> back
>>>>> to normal.
>>>>> The request is that we and the doctors would have wisdom as to how to
>>>>> help
>>>>> this child get back to his bright sunny self.  He has missed quite a
>>>>> bit
>>>>> of
>>>>> school in the last few weeks.
>>>>> And yes, should anyone suggest, they are already on Miralax which is a
>>>>> natural stool softener.
>>>>> Barbara
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