[Faith-talk] Good Night Message for Thursday, November 22 2012

Fri Nov 23 05:44:03 UTC 2012

Hi,
I am thankful for this message.  It is a really good one!
Thanks
Lauren

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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Paul" <oilofgladness47 at gmail.com>
To: <angelsongs at yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Thursday, November 22, 2012 9:24 PM
Subject: [Faith-talk] Good Night Message for Thursday, November 22 2012

> Hello and good day to you all.  For most of us, we all have a heavy heart 
> concerning three precious souls: Pastor Karolyn Phillips, Curtis Martin 
> and Jacqueline Eberle.  Even though I've not been in the Urgent Prayer 
> Closet on iccsite.com this evening, just know that I've been praying for 
> all three of these loved and valued people along with you.  Might just go 
> into the UPC after I post this message.
>
> For the next several evenings I'm going to post some articles dealing with 
> Thanksgiving, the first of which, written by Nancy Henderson entitled 
> "Giving Thanks: The Benefits of Expressing Gratitude," is rendered as 
> follows:
>
> By the end of 2007, John Kralik had hit the lowest point in his life.  He 
> was going through a second, drawn-out divorce, had gained 40 pounds, and 
> had lost touch with his two sons.  His new girlfriend had just ended their 
> relationship and he was broke, with his law firm operating in the red and 
> about to lose its lease.
>
> "Things looked pretty grim," recalls Kralik, 56, author of "365 Thank 
> You's: the Year of a Simple Act of Gratitude Changed My Life."
>
> Too depressed to enjoy the Tournament of Roses Parade near his Pasadena, 
> Calif., apartment, he set out alone on a hike through the mountains. 
> While he was walking, an inner voice spoke to him: "Until you learn to be 
> grateful for the things you have, you will not receive the things you 
> want."
>
> By the time he stepped off the trail, Kralik had decided to write one 
> personalized thank-you note every day for a year.  He began by thanking 
> his son for the Christmas gift of a coffee maker.  He thanked his parents, 
> his siblings, his friends for sticking with him during tough times, fellow 
> attorneys for sending him clients, his high school English teacher for 
> inspiring him to write, and a doctor for saving his life.
>
> "The exercise took the focus off of me and my problems and put them on the 
> blessings in my life and the things that people were doing for me," Kralik 
> says.
>
> Within a year, something miraculous happened.  He lost weight, turned his 
> law firm around, and reconnected with old friends and estranged relatives. 
> Now, "I have a peace inside because I recognize that whatever my momentary 
> difficulties are, I have a good life," says Kralik, a Los Angeles Superior 
> Court Judge since 2009.
>
> Tis better to give
>
> Gratitude, experts say, is a powerful emotion that makes us feel more 
> connected to the people we love.  It boosts our spirits and helps us 
> maintain a positive outlook.  And as Kralik's experience illustrates, it 
> can transform lives.
>
> "People frequently make the mistake of thinking of gratitude as a one-time 
> event that they need to put on their to-do list.  This leads to the 
> experience of gratitude as an obligation," says Richard Nicastro, 48, a 
> psychologist in Las Cruces, N.M.  "I encourage people to think of 
> gratitude as a mindset, a way of being and a way of viewing the world 
> rather than an isolated event."
>
> But it isn't enough to feel grateful.  You have to show it.
>
> Nate Lambert, 31, a professor of family sciences at Brigham Young 
> University in Provo, Utah, began studying gratitude more than five years 
> ago when he realized that his wife's thankful disposition made a big 
> difference in their marriage.  Unlike most researchers, he focused on how 
> expressing gratitude helps the giver, not the receiver.
>
> In a 2010 research project, Lambert studied 137 college students, 
> instructing some to express grateful thoughts to their partners twice a 
> week.  Four weeks later, those participants showed a higher regard for the 
> other person and were more willing to resolve problems in the relationship 
> than those who simply conjured up grateful thoughts or positive memories.
>
> "Gratitude works because it takes the focus off self," Lambert says.  "All 
> of a sudden you start focusing on what's good about the person and how 
> that works well with you, and suddenly you have a different mindset and a 
> different approach to your relationship." And, he pointed out, "Helping 
> someone else feel valued makes you feel more valued."
>
> The grateful rabbi
> As a religious person, Rabbi Henry Glazer always sensed that something was 
> missing in his personal relationship with God. One day in 1998 while 
> lifting his prayer shawl over his head at a Jewish retreat, he began 
> sobbing uncontrollably.
>
> A few minutes later, "I felt the need to say to God, the world, the 
> universe, Thank you, thank you, thank you," recalls Glazer, 70, of Fort 
> Lee, N.J. "I wanted to say thank you for just being alive."
>
> He dubbed himself "The Grateful Rabbi," launched an online blog about 
> gratitude, and self-published a book titled "I think, Therefore I Am: 
> Gateways to Gratefulness." "I complain much, much less now," Glazer says. 
> "Being more grateful has imposed on my life a greater calm, a greater 
> sense of security and optimism and hopefulness."
>
> Thankfulness, Glazer concedes, can be difficult to muster in a world 
> obsessed with tragic events and negative messages.  "It's much easier to 
> sink into your despair," he says, noting that a cheerful fellow once told 
> him, "I'm really happy I pay taxes."
>
> "I looked at him and said, Are you crazy?" Glazer recalls.  "And he said, 
> Stop and think for a second. If you don't pay taxes, it means you aren't 
> employed. And if you're unemployed, your situation would not be very 
> good."
>
> "Gratitude allows you to say, life is a gift," Glazer says.  "When you 
> feel grateful, you feel worthwhile."
>
> Thanks for everything
>
> As a teen, Leah Dieterich hated when her mom nagged her to write thank-you 
> notes.  But as an adult, she noticed that when she felt grateful, she felt 
> more at peace. So she started scribbling notes of gratitude to inanimate 
> objects--$2 bills, the ocean, a headache--and saving them in a box.
>
> "Dear air," she wrote. "Thank you for smelling like cookies right now." To 
> a lip numbed by Novocaine, she wrote, "Thank you for not looking like what 
> you feel like you look."
>
> In 2009, when her longtime boyfriend moved to New York City, she started a 
> thankfulness blog "as a way to hold onto some little thing that could make 
> me feel good every day."
>
> Thanking a car or burnt toast in gratitude in the purest form, says 
> Dieterich, 31, an advertising copy writer in Los Angeles and author of 
> thxthxthx: Thank Goodness for Everything.
>
> "Sometimes when you write a thank-you note you are thinking about how that 
> person's gonna feel.  It's different when you're thanking an inanimate 
> object, because you know it's not gonna thank you back," she says.
>
> Still, in this era of emails and tweets, nothing compares to a handwritten 
> note once from a real person to a real person. It's not just a sign of 
> good etiquette; it's a way to bond.
>
> "A handwritten note gives you greater focus on the other person," says 
> Kralik, who had penned thank-you letters to more than 700 people during 
> the last four years. "It's almost like a piece of you is in the room with 
> them when they read it."
>
> And there you have it for today.  A bit longer than usual, I'll admit, but 
> hopefully it was a good read.  The beginning of this article reminded me 
> that, when I first was employed, I managed to find the phone number for 
> the lady who taught me medical terminology at a local business college. 
> This was before the days of the Internet.  She was so grateful that one of 
> her students took the time to contact her, and I learned later it was the 
> only thank-you she ever received for her teaching.
>
> And now may the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob just keep us safe, 
> individually and collectively, throughout this night or day and especially 
> in these last days in which we live. Your Christian friend and brother, 
> Paul
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