[Faith-talk] How to give advice.

[Poppa Bear]

Good advice Mustafa.
Blessings
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From: "Mostafa" <mostafa.almahdy at gmail.com>
To: <Undisclosed-Recipient:;>
Sent: Saturday, February 22, 2014 8:44 AM
Subject: [Faith-talk] How to give advice.


> How to give advice to others.
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> Dear all, peace be with you.
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> One of the most difficult moments in our lives in general are when we give 
> advice to people.
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> Sometimes we just could not recognize how sensitive it is to give advice 
> to others.
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> As human beings, we are skeptic of being criticized by nature.
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> Some of us are quite rough when they  give advice to others.
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> They approximately insult their intelligence which is quite offensive to 
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> In the section below, I am going to list some chronological tips on giving 
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> What we should stick to, and what we should not do when we give advice.
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> 1; Transgression prevention.
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> If you are going to give  advice to someone you do not have an intimate 
> relationship with, it is not a good idea to go beyond your boundaries, do 
> not attempt to personalize the subject, just stick to the limits of your 
> relationship with that individual.
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>  2; Be lenient and kind.
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> The task of giving advice is tuff by its nature.
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> Thus, it demands further graciousness so it is to avoid destructive 
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> 3; Outrage prevention.
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> This point is quite important.
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> When you are giving advice, you should never speak to someone in public, 
> and particularly, if the one who is being advised is older than you.
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> You ought to critically respect his age or his position, that is if you 
> give advice to your senior at work, for instance.
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> You have to adhere the principles of courtesy when advising someone ilder.
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> Giving advice in public is enormously mortifying to the one who is being 
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> That is quite offensive, and it humiliatingly denigrates the human 
> dignity.
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>    If you are assigned to give advice to someone, you ought to eminently 
> dignify his personal magnetism.
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> 4; vicious cycle prevention.
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> As you are giving advice, and particularly if you are a parent or a 
> teacher, please avoid the defect of verbiage repetition.
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> Do not repeat what you have said over and over, that is just tedious and 
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> I myself I am still troubled with that part when I talk to others, I often 
> repeat what I said before.
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>    I have to resolve that problem within myself when I give advice.
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> 5; Encouragement implementation.
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> Some people may feel insignificant or low self-esteem.
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> Thus, it is primarily your duty to constantly encourage them.
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> Let them feel confident about themselves, optimize their positive 
> characteristics to develop their affirmitive temperament.
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>   It is the major factor to master the mission of giving advice, and that 
> is to turn negative values into positive ones.
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> Do not mock someone when giving advice, that is disrespectful.
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> Avail their adequacy and retain their self-confidence.
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> Help them  setting their sequential priorities.
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> Help them identifying their goals.
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> Help them  planning for gaining much accomplishments if they already have 
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> Avoid any type of criticism, and turn excuses into more chances.
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> Fill the emty part of the glass.
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> I hope that was useful.
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> Please feel free to share these tips with whom they might be beneficial 
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> No strings attached.
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> Peace be with you.
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