[Faith-talk] updates on my current living situation

Wed Mar 2 05:32:37 UTC 2016

I do hope the best.

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From: Faith-talk [mailto:faith-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Beth Taurasi via Faith-talk
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We're independent. Assisted living? Yeah, really. We know how hard it is. But the big problem is that he was thrown away by his own mother. We have almost no choice. Those who know me on a personal level are simply blaming me for rushing. There's nothing I can do now. We swore we wouldn't be without each other. We want validation and protection. But weddings and licenses are not affordable or obtainable at this time. I have serious personal and family conflict I'm dealing with which will not be posted on this list. If there is anyone willing to actually support or help us, then by God's grace we will accept. But we will not accept separation until marriage because of the personal situation I'm going through, and he prefers me for reasons nobody does understand.

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On 3/1/2016 9:52 PM, Poppa Bear via Faith-talk wrote:
> I agree about not cutting off your family on FB, as an adult we all have to go through things with our family members and after a lot of years I have found that after all of the loves, romances, boyfriends, girlfriends that it is family who is there to help pick up the pieces and help pick up back off of the ground. If everybody who knows you on a personal level is telling you the same thing then you should really think about what you're doing. I am not sure if you realize how difficult it is to get back into housing and assistive living homes once you willingly leave.
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> From: Faith-talk [mailto:faith-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of 
> Abdullah Ibrahim Olivares via Faith-talk
> Sent: Tuesday, March 01, 2016 7:46 PM
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> Cc: Abdullah Ibrahim Olivares
> Subject: Re: [Faith-talk] updates on my current living situation
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> Beth,
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> I don’t want to be harsh, but I’m seeing several things that are red flags for me.
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> (1) I don’t think it’s appropriate to air your boyfriend’s mother’s dirty laundry here on a public list. I know sometimes we need to vent, but perhaps doing so with a close friend, or even a counselor, might be more productive. I think asking for help is perfectly within your rights of course, but giving unnecessary details just comes across as gossip to me.
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> (2) Just my personal suggestion, I wouldn’t block your family on Facebook. No matter how much of a pain they are, they are still your family. I discourage either of you cutting family ties, because the love you show them now might come back to bless you later.
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> Talk to your family about why they are opposing it, and try to explain the situation. If they see you are being responsible and trying to do the best thing, they might support you more. Don’t push them away.
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> (3) You said:
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>>> We want to be a couple. We will not be separated.
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> Pray for God’s will. His will is always perfect. Often our hardships have a message in them, so pray about that as well.
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> (4) If you are so serious about this relationship, perhaps consider getting married. No one needs an expensive wedding. If you’re going to choose to live together, just take the final step and make it official. You want all the blessings you can get, and insha’Allah God will bless you much more if you are living together and married.
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> I will insha’Allah pray that God helps both of you to have the appropriate housing and to reconcile with your families if possible.
>
> Abdullah
>
>
>> On Mar 1, 2016, at 10:59 PM, Beth Taurasi via Faith-talk <faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
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>> Dear List,
>> It has been confirmed. My boyfriend's not so dear mother said in an SMS message that she wishes him never to contact her again. Well, obviously, he's been used as an ATM machine. This young man is 31 years old, shows potential skill as a drummer, and I enjoy playing with him. We did a couple songs and just jammed out on the keys and voice and drums. We really do come together, the chemistry is there, but alas, either family is saying we're "rushing it". Well, we could have waited if not for the boyfriend's mom messing things up. I was flatly accused of interfering with this man's family. He seriously wasn't interfered with, and I had nothing to do with it. My dad does not see the present me. In his mind, I'm still the girl who repeats behaviors of the past, and I'm so sick of this pattern. My boyfriend says he won't leave me, but will he not? I hope no. But seriously, I'm sick of this crap. We haven't had one bickering fight over stuff, and I kind of would like to see how he handles some bickering. But still, he has been able to put up with me for a while. But my parents are tracking stuff on FB. I'm considering blocking them. All of my family except my cousin Crystal will be blocked. That's one thing, but ... I'm seeing no support for us. But while we have no family support, we don't know what churches will support an unmarried blind couple where the female has mental issues. I was considering a lot of options. I don't want to lose this guy, and he swears he won't lose me. We want to get out of this hell hole, this building, in less than thirty days, less than fourteen if we can help it. We must. HUD rules. And we are trying to get a hold of case management orgs like Catholic Charities. But does anyone truly care! We know that God is there. But what interpretation of God's word is there? The mother abandoned him, and she got smart with him, and yet my father says she will take him back. Bull! She does, and I won't have someone to talk to again. Ever.
>> Prayers are needed, folks. I'm just ranting here because I just feel completely alone with him in this fight to get recognized as valid. Our relationship is valid, we love each other. But He came to me first. He knew I would love him, so he came to me. He ran from home too early, we get that, but we're serious. We want housing. What will happen if we have to go to a homeless shelter? I can't have things stolen from me, especially his jambay drum which is worth more money than we can afford to spend!
>> We regret bothering you all, but please I ask God's protection on us during this time of need. We want to be a couple. We will not be separated.
>> Beth
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