[Faith-talk] Relationship Issues
Linda Mentink
mentink at frontiernet.net
Mon May 15 02:45:47 UTC 2017
Hi All,
I have read with interest all the posts. Quite a few things
crossed my mind as I read.
Firstly, Bill, as has been said, you're too eager, and will turn
women off with this eagerness or pushiness. A man tried that
with me once. I wasn't interested in marriage, but I gave him a
chance. He was a sighted man who played Bass Viol in the
orchestra which accompanied a community choral group with which I
sang for many years. He was very oppressive, and was so full of
himself, that I told him that there was no room for me, or anyone
else in his life. He asked me how to attract a woman. I told
him a few things!
Secoddly, to Erica's point about "shacking up," this one really
bothers me. I don't know who made the rule in the Social
Security Administration that people living on SSI lose income
when they marry, encouraging even Christians to disobey God's
Word the Bible. God never said to forget marriage if you
wouldn't have as much mone coming in. I believe that this is a
serious sin, and that God will not bless those relationships, and
the people in them, as much as He will those who live their lives
in obedience to Him. Those who do this are defiling the marriage
bed, and committing adultery. Shame on the American leadership
for putting this rule forward and enforcing it!
Thirdly, anyone desiring to be married should study the passages
on this in the Bible, especially if they are Christians. We are
not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, so fellowship with
those of like precious faith. The blind Christian needs to
handle himself or herself appropriately, and must be confident,
not helpless and dependent on others. Marriage is a partnership,
and a sighted person is not going to even want to enter into a
marriage relationship with a blind person who can't take care of
themselves. As to how far you should go, keep your clothes on.
And, if you're a man, and you can't support a woman, get a job.
God commands mothers to be keepers at home, which society has
disobeyed. The man is to be the head of the home, as Christ is
the head of the Church, and its up to him to provide for his
family. The woman should stay at home and raise the children.
That's the Biblical plan. Some have worked it out so that the
woman goes to work and the man stays home, in the case of some
blind friends I know. And in some cases, both work. It's tough
to figure this all out, but it should be done prayerfully.
I am 61, and have remained single and a virgin. I have had
relationships over the years, but they didn't work out. I am
very content as a single woman. Paul encourages us to be as he
is, thereby being able to serve the Lord more fully. Because I
don't have to divide my time between taking care of a husband and
family and serving my Lord, I can be single-minded inservice to
Him. I know many who serve the Lord together as couples, and
most couples I know and fellowship with are happy, well-adjusted
people raising their children in the church.
If we are willing to obey God's precepts, we will save ourselves
from a lot of heartache. Commit your way to the Lord, and He
will give you the desires of your heart.
I hope this makes sense!
Blessings,
Linda
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