[Faith-talk] Relationship Issues

[Kevin LaRose]

My wife and I have, for practical reasons, pretty much reversed the traditional roles of marriage. Due to several health issues, I will probably never be able to work a regular 40-hour job again. I was able to do this for many years in the past, however, and my Social Security and civil service pension bring in a fairly decent income. So, I do the lion's share of the regular housework, such as cooking and cleaning. Sarah is currently working toward her doctorate in ministry, and as her husband I want and need to support her in each and every way I can, and dealing with the housework frees her up to concentrate on her class work. Oh yes, and she also is teaching online Hebrew classes at our local university, so there's that as well. :) God has given her many, many gifts, and anything I can do to help her utilize those gifts to their maximum abilities is a win/win for our marriage. Our marriage is a true partnership, and we both feel extremely blessed by God.

Kevin LaRose
Anderson, IN
Email: kl1964 at icloud.com

On May 14, 2017, at 10:45 PM, Linda Mentink via Faith-Talk <faith-talk at nfbnet.org> wrote:

Hi All,

I have read with interest all the posts.  Quite a few things crossed my mind as I read.

Firstly, Bill, as has been said, you're too eager, and will turn women off with this eagerness or pushiness.  A man tried that with me once.  I wasn't interested in marriage, but I gave him a chance.  He was a sighted man who played Bass Viol in the orchestra which accompanied a community choral group with which I sang for many years.  He was very oppressive, and was so full of himself, that I told him that there was no room for me, or anyone else in his life.  He asked me how to attract a woman.  I told him a few things!

Secoddly, to Erica's point about "shacking up," this one really bothers me.  I don't know who made the rule in the Social Security Administration that people living on SSI lose income when they marry, encouraging even Christians to disobey God's Word the Bible.  God never said to forget marriage if you wouldn't have as much mone coming in.  I believe that this is a serious sin, and that God will not bless those relationships, and the people in them, as much as He will those who live their lives in obedience to Him.  Those who do this are defiling the marriage bed, and committing adultery.  Shame on the American leadership for putting this rule forward and enforcing it!

Thirdly, anyone desiring to be married should study the passages on this in the Bible, especially if they are Christians.  We are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, so fellowship with those of like precious faith.  The blind Christian needs to handle himself or herself appropriately, and must be confident, not helpless and dependent on others.  Marriage is a partnership, and a sighted person is not going to even want to enter into a marriage relationship with a blind person who can't take care of themselves.  As to how far you should go, keep your clothes on.  And, if you're a man, and you can't support a woman, get a job.  God commands mothers to be keepers at home, which society has disobeyed.  The man is to be the head of the home, as Christ is the head of the Church, and its up to him to provide for his family.  The woman should stay at home and raise the children.  That's the Biblical plan.  Some have worked it out so that the woman goes to work and the man stays home, in the case of some blind friends I know.  And in some cases, both work.  It's tough to figure this all out, but it should be done prayerfully.

I am 61, and have remained single and a virgin.  I have had relationships over the years, but they didn't work out.  I am very content as a single woman.  Paul encourages us to be as he is, thereby being able to serve the Lord more fully.  Because I don't have to divide my time between taking care of a husband and family and serving my Lord, I can be single-minded inservice to Him.  I know many who serve the Lord together as couples, and most couples I know and fellowship with are happy, well-adjusted people raising their children in the church.

If we are willing to obey God's precepts, we will save ourselves from a lot of heartache.  Commit your way to the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.

I hope this makes sense!

Blessings,

Linda

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