[humanser] Seeking tips working problems with couples

[JD TOWNSEND]

Hi Gerardo:

I have taken many classes after graduating with my MSW degree some decades 
ago - I see that as a positive as graduate school's 65 hours didn't answer 
enough of my questions.

About couple and families:  Don't worry about the much fluted "non-verbal" 
language out there.  I have frequently had families and multiple family 
groups play "feelings charades" a game where one has to guess the non-verbal 
signs acted out by a chosen player from the other team.  Lots of time the 
team cannot guess the feelings being displayed accurately.  In therapy words 
are most important, our use of words and our patient's use of their words. 
Frequently I look at the process of therapy as the patient learning the 
power of her/his words.

You will find that rolling eyes, raised eyebrows, grimaces and snarls can be 
listened to or for and that moving these expressions into expressive words 
really works at clarifying, explaining and healing.

As a blind therapist I find that in a dyad or group that one will frequently 
tell me that the other is giving them "the eye" but it is usually not new 
news to me.  We can develop an ability to read the signs -- just to listen 
for the silences and for the reactions of the other and to make it 
comfortable for the patients to communicate to me.

My most frequent suggestion for everyone new to our field is to take your 
time.  We frequently feel a need to formulate answers before the client has 
properly posed them and, remember,  answering questions is not our role in 
the first place.


JD Townsend, LCSW
Daytona Beach, Florida, Earth, Sol System
Helping the light dependent to see.

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Gerardo Corripio" <gera1027 at gmail.com>
To: "humanser list" <humanser at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, April 26, 2010 8:47 PM
Subject: [humanser] Seeking tips working problems with couples


> Hi guys: Hopefully I won't be made fun of because I graduated from
> university and am still taking courses, thus I should know what I'm about 
> to
> ask but don't, thus appreciate your help.
> When in university I didn't have any blind psychologyst role models to ask
> questions, thus I wasn't oriented right in alternative techniques and the
> like so hope it's not too late to ask.
> What alternative techniques do you guys recommend for working with 
> patients
> whose problem is the husband or wife? Especially when both go to the
> appointment because the body language is sometimes essencial to understand
> where the problem lies. Please don't think I didn't study or that I passed
> and graduated just because of my blindness but I have no where else to ask
> these questions, thus hoping any ideas from you more experts in the field.
> Thanks in advanced for any ideas.
> Gerardo
>
>
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