[humanser] Question about Group and Couples Therapy

[Sarah Meyer]

Hi all,
Thank you for your helpful feedback.
Justin, I think I know what you're talking about, and I do this with
individual clients and have them clarify their posture and movements
for me sometimes.
Sheryl, thanks for your contribution regarding the forgiveness technique.

Michael, I took the training at Ball State University. I think we are
looking in to obtaining the Level Two training DVD's as well. That's
so encouraging to hear how you have used the Gottman method! Do you
use the pulse oximeters to measure the heart rate and breathing rates
to determine flooding as the Gottmans do? If so, is there an
accessible way to do this? Also, I know there are quite a few
assessments. Are these and the outcome reports accessible?

Thanks so much for your feedback and encouragement!

Sarah

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> Date: Sat, 3 Feb 2018 10:50:30 -0700
> From: "Michael Abell" <bigdog4744 at gmail.com>
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> Hello Sarah,
> 	That is exciting that you are studying the Gottman method. Where are
> you taking the course?
> 	I have used the method with several couples that I have seen. I
> particularly like the Turning away, turning towards, and turning against
> discussions that they utilize. The work is envigorating if you can learn it
> and then develop your own way of working with it in practice.
> 	I used it with a couple that was expecting their first child
> together. The couple was experiencing some disturbance that left them both
> attacking each other (turning against". At the end of each session I had
> them say one thing positive to each other about something that they admired
> or appreciated about the other. One of the elements that they had a mutual
> concern for was the impact of their trouble on their unborn child.
> 	One session I ended the usual way. I had them both sit facing each
> other and hold hands as they expressed to each other the things that they
> appreciated about each other. I then had each of them place their hands on
> the mother's belly and tell their unborn child what they appreciated about
> her (we later found out). The session was particular moving and became a
> turning point in the therapy.
> 	Instead of lookin for what you are not able to implement with this
> method. Look for what you do see. There are many individuals that tell me
> that they did not see what I had heard. I am sure that you are a very
> talented and empathic listener. Keep us posted on your progress!
>
> Warmly,
>
> Rev. Michael ?Big Dog? Abell
> MSPC
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> Subject: [humanser] Question about Group and Couples Therapy
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> Hi all,
> I am currently in Level One training for the Gottman Method for
> Couples/Partner Therapy. I'm curious if anyone else has used this modality
> in treating couples, and if so, what modifications/adaptations you may have
> used/made?
> Even if not, I am curious about people's experiences doing couples and
> group
> work. As a counselor in training, I have only worked with individuals thus
> far and am still learning how to handle and interpret the nonverbal
> information from one person, so I'm a bit concerned or uncertain about
> possibly missing certain nonverbal cues between partners or even group
> members in a group. How do other clinicians navigate these types of
> challenges? I'm sure there are other auditory cues that could give away
> people's attitudes towards one another and so forth, but there may be other
> important details that would be important to catch and comment on in the
> moment. I would appreciate any thoughts or suggestions.
>
> All the best,
>
> Sarah
>
>