[MusicTlk] Desperetly could use some gentle, but canded advice/input

[Linda]

Hi Christopher,

I have a multifaceted response. You might want to join our faith talk list and discuss this with us more thoroughly, or feel free to contact me off list.

First, as a blind person, the person in charge should give you plenty of time to learn the music thoroughly. Second, you and the worship team members should be allowed input, and should be respected when you are being led of the Lord to be uncomfortable with whatever the song is. Third, You use the words "boss" and "perform," which tells me that the emphasis is on  a job and performance, rather than oversight and ministry. The person in charge should be concerned about what song the Lord wants. You're correct to minister using songs the family requests at funerals and weddings.

I could go into much more detail, but it's hard to do in an email on a list which is mainly for discussing mussic, and not spiritual matters. I'm happy to discuss this with you further, even on the phone, if I can be of any more help or encouragement to you. And, again, there's always the faith talk list.

Blessings to you,

LindaOn Jul 12, 2022 6:46 AM, Christopher Gilland via MusicTlk <musictlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>
> Please be gentle here with your responses. I'd be greatful for anyone 
> whosoever to respond to this, however, if you have ever lead worship in 
> a church not just once or twice a year, or every few months sang on the 
> praise team, but I mean, like literally for an ongoing period of time 
> consistently played on a worship team, more specifically led the team as 
> a leader, not a member, then I even more so want to hear from you guys 
> on this. Again though anyone is welcome to respond regardless. That 
> would be an added bonus though. 
>
>
> So, I just started recently going into my roll of being a worship 
> leader. I'm at a tough spot though because my boss doesn't really get 
> this no matter how much I try telling him... 
>
>
> What do you do when members of your congrigation ask you to consider a 
> particular song, and your boss even agrees you need to do it, but you're 
> only given a week to learn the song, learn the words, teach it to the 
> rest of your worship team, rehurse it, and even get the accompaniment 
> music multi-tracked as needed that one week prior to the service, but 
> the issue is, number 1, you don't, putting it bluntly, feel it's where 
> God is leading you and the rest of the team, but 2, despite that fact, 
> you try and try and try and try to get the song polished and down pat, 
> but try as you may, it's just! not, working, yet you tell your boss 
> this, and they keep saying, you need to do the song. 
>
>
> It's like, dad gummit? Do you not get it? We tried. It's just not happening. 
>
>
> I don't wanna be rude to anyone here at my worship group/church, but 
> regardless a church setting or not, for most of you who don't just do 
> music for fun, but actually do this as a full professional setting, at 
> what criteria do you all determine, like it or not, people are just 
> gonna have to get over it. This is just not gonna work. It may later in 
> the future, but for right now, you are not ready to perform X song, end 
> of discussion, this is not open for debating. 
>
>
> In other words, when do you cross the line between, maybe I just need to 
> practice and work more through this, vs when do you say, I've given this 
> my absolute best shot, but even after putting in the effort to try, it's 
> still just not coming, therefore we need to do something else. 
>
>
> I don't wanna make people mad, but myself and the rest of my team feels 
> like we are just not ready to perform this song which was asked. I 
> understand there are times when ready or not, you just get through it. 
> For example, if a family of someone deceased wants a song done at the 
> funeral, obviously, at all cause, that needs to be honored out of 
> respect to the family, and the loved one, but when it's just a normal 
> day performance, that's another thing altogether. 
>
>
> Has anyone been put in a similar situation to this, and if so, how did 
> you handle saying, no means no. You've tried, but even after initially 
> saying I don't feel comfortable performing this, others just keep 
> pushing and pushing and pushing putting more pressure on you, to the 
> point you're about ready to scream. 
>
>
> Chris. 
>
>
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