[nabs-l] New THOUGHT PROVOKER #152- The Cursed

Mon Dec 21 00:09:40 UTC 2009

why is it that people expect for us who are blind to date other people who 
are blind? everytime i am telling someone about my boyfriend they ask me if 
he is blind too. I have not yet dated anyone else who couldnt see but i 
wouldnt let vision be a deciding factor. plus i have been turned down by a 
guy who was sighted that a friend was hooking me up with and i told him i 
was blind...havent talked to him since...

            -Teal
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Alberto Arreola" <alberto.2500 at gmail.com>
To: "'National Association of Blind Students mailing list'" 
<nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, December 20, 2009 2:59 PM
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] New THOUGHT PROVOKER #152- The Cursed

>I agree with you, and I have dated plenty of sighted girls no blind girls
> yet, but I wouldn't mind marrying either.  That is sad what some religions
> believe, but like I said before it is a fact of life.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> Behalf
> Of Beth
> Sent: Sunday, December 20, 2009 10:43 AM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] New THOUGHT PROVOKER #152- The Cursed
>
> Wow.  This is just weird, but I see where the father of a Muslim woman
> would lead her to believe that the blind men are cursed.  I would
> marry a blind man even though I am blind myself.  My family, being
> Catholic, does notoppose the marriage between a blind person and other
> people whether sighted or blind.  But the Muslim religion should not
> forbid the blind from marrying the daughters of their family.  And the
> father of this daughter is truly cursed if he thinks Robert in the
> provoker is cursed.  This has been and always will be an interesting
> provoker.
> Beth
>
> On 12/20/09, Robert Leslie Newman <newmanrl at cox.net> wrote:
>> NABS
>> RE:  The Cursed
>>
>> Here is my #152nd THOUGHT PROVOKER. It is a study in how various 
>> religious
>> factions will view the blind; from near sainthood to being cursed. If you
>> have not read the PROVOKER, it follows.  Recall that I collect responses
> and
>> post them upon my web site for all the WWW to read and learn from and 
>> that
>> URL is- Http://thoughtprovoker.info <http://thoughtprovoker.info/>   If
> you
>> wish to receive THOUGHT PROVOKERS sent directly to you, just write me and
>> ask, at-  newmanrl at cox.net
>>
>>
>>
>> THOUGHT PROVOKER 152
>> The Cursed
>>
>> "Hi, I'm Robert. Your accent, if I am reading it correctly, places you
> from
>> somewhere in the Middle East?"
>>
>> The attractive dusky-skinned, dark-haired woman looked quizzically at the
>> guy approaching. He was about her age, nice looking, using a long white
>> cane. She had first noticed him upon her arrival in the hotel lobby, and
>> later in the registration line and reception area for those attending the
>> two-day conference. He had impressed her with his poise as he maneuvered
>> about independently, responding charmingly as he dealt with the awkward
>> reception his presence sometimes elicited. Without hesitation, she spoke
> up,
>> "Hello, and, yes. To put a finger or two on the map, Cairo originally, 
>> but
>> most recently, right here in Philly. My name is Dara --- I'm the only one
>> sitting in this row." A realization was blossoming within her; this guy's
>> disability didn't make her feel uncomfortable.
>>
>> Anticipation fueling his every stride, Robert moved into the row. He
> hadn't
>> expected such a provocative seatmate at a conference where he knew there
>> wouldn't be anyone he'd know. Her voice is so beautiful, he thought.
>> Feeling at ease and maybe too much so, he couldn't believe his next 
>> words,
>> "Well, guess I'll sit by you and fill up the row so it's just ours."
>>
>> They didn't have the entire row to themselves. Yet throughout the
> morning's
>> presentations, they indulged in periodic soft-spoken exchanges.  Some
>> concerning the information being presented, some purely personal, and
>> sometimes, sharing some stifled laughter.
>>
>> At the end of the morning session, they decided to have lunch together.
>> Later, they had dinner, then the next morning, breakfast, and then lunch
>> again. The conference was over at 4:00 PM.
>>
>> "I've got to see you again. How about tomorrow lunch or dinner 
>> somewhere?"
>> Robert asked.
>>
>> "Yes, me too. Ah --- how about you come over to my apartment and I make
>> dinner --- you bring a refreshment."
>>
>> "Yes!"
>>
>> The night of their date, dinner finished, with more wine, soft music, and
> a
>> deep lingering kiss, Dara said, "I once heard that it was very
> disconcerting
>> to look into a blind person's eyes. But ah --- being this close and
> looking
>> --- I'm not sure I know what they are referring to."
>>
>> "Well I'm told --- good art work on non-scratch plastic like I have, can
>> work miracles."
>>
>> "Ha! Oh Robert my dear man," Dara snuggled closer, "you are so full of
>> surprises and delights. I must tell you that I feel that I am falling in
>> love with you. "Fingertips caressing his cheek,  "Before we get more
>> serious, we must go to my father. He must meet and pass his judgment on 
>> my
>> choice."
>>
>> "Woo, You mean we have to get your father's permission to fall in love?"
>>
>> "No, it's not that way. I have my own heart and feelings. I respect you
> for
>> who you are, my dear. Just that, my father is the --- head of the family.
> It
>> is the way within my culture. The man oversees the affairs of the family.
>> You will like him. He is a generous, loving, and God fearing man. And his
>> being judgmental; well --- it goes along with the position "
>>
>> The day came for their trip to Dara's family home and her introduction of
>> Robert to her father came. Her mother served them tea and sweets. They
>> talked, drank tea, talked some more, and though her family were very
> polite,
>> they were nevertheless very curious about how this blind man lived.
>>
>> After dinner, in her father's study, Dara and Robert spoke of their
> feelings
>> for one another. And her father answered. "My dear daughter, I do not 
>> give
>> my permission. Let me make this very clear, Robert, though you are a fine
>> fellow, I must oppose this marriage. I do not want my daughter to be 
>> fated
>> to the life she would have to live if she is betrothed to you. You are
>> blind, a condition which greatly, how should I say it --- blindness
> severely
>> impacts your life--you are stigmatized; you have reduced independence 
>> and,
>> therefore, your prospects to financially care for my daughter are
>> handicapped. No. I forbid this union. You are one of God's cursed."
>>
>>
>> Robert Leslie Newman
>> Email- newmanrl at cox.net
>> THOUGHT PROVOKER Website-
>> Http://www.thoughtprovoker.info
>>
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