[nabs-l] Awkward Situations: What would you do?

[Domonique Lawless]

Jedi,
	That’s really unfortunate, not to mention embarrassing for both you
and the woman.  I find that as I grow older my tolerance for this type
of ignorance diminishes. I still try to stay patient though. If
something like that happens again maybe you could say “I really like
your perfume but honestly, that’s never been a good way for me to
identify people. Besides, by the time we’re finished working out
neither one of us is going to smell very pretty so it might be better
for you to state your name when you want to come talk to me. At least
until I become familiar with your voice.” I find that trying to defuse
an awkward situation with humor usually helps and doesn’t make the
person feel stupid. I’m sorry that happened to you.

Domonique


On 9/19/09, Teal Bloodworth <tealbloodworth at gmail.com> wrote:
> yeah i get that too but it doesnt make since....really who looks the other
> person directly in the eyes when they talk to them? I dont think i even did
> that back 3 years ago when i had 20/20 vision...dont think i wil now either
> since i am totally blind NLP....
>
>             -Teal
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>> I think one of my favorites happened when I'd gone out one Saturday
>> night. I was talking to a woman, and this guy came up behind me. He
>> says, "Sir, you can't see her face, but she doesn't trust you." I
>> responded with a laugh and said, "Well, she shouldn't, since she doesn't
>> know me." And he says, dead serious, "No, I mean, she thinks you're
>> dishonest. Or shifty maybe. I've been watching you. You're facing her
>> and looking at her sometimes, but you haven't met her gaze the entire
>> time you've been talking to her. You keep moving your eyes around." I
>> pointed to my white cane and said, "no muscle control over the eyes I'm
>> afraid." The girl I was talking to laughed, as did the guy who had tried
>> to "help" me. So it was all friendly. However, I found it interesting
>> because I'd been asked why I didn't make eye contact before, but never
>> had someone assume it was for any sinister reason. Not and tell me they
>> were assuming that, anyway.
>> - --
>> Stress (N): The condition that occurs when ones mind overrides the
>> body's natural desire to reach out and slap the hell out of someone
>> who desperately deserves it.
>> Joseph C. Lininger, <jbahm at pcdesk.net>
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