[nabs-l] Making Friends/Socializing With Sighted People

[Brianna Scerenscko]

I don't mean to sound consided or anything. :)

On 3/26/11, Brianna Scerenscko <bfs1206 at gmail.com> wrote:
> I have been in that same situation both at school and in other social
> gathering places. I'm not sure how to handle it; whenever it happens
> to me, I usually feel bad for a few seconds, and then think "oh well,
> their loss". LOL I honestly think my parents feel worse about it than
> I do.
>
> On 3/26/11, Joshua Lester <jlester8462 at students.pccua.edu> wrote:
>> Kerri, I don't know what to do in your situation. I have some of the
>> same problems at my community college. I'll say hi to somebody, but
>> they won't respond. I do have a question, though. I know it's off
>> topic, but how do you access Facebook? Every time I try to create a
>> page, the computer shuts down. Please help me offline.
>> Thanks, Joshua
>>
>> On 3/26/11, Kerri Kosten <kerrik2006 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> Hi All!
>>>
>>> I thought I'd bring this topic up because I'm interested in hearing
>>> opinions and a lot of people have commented when I mentioned this on
>>> Facebook.
>>>
>>> As I've posted here before, my father owned a popular bar/restaurant
>>> that I like to go to on the weekends.
>>>
>>> I am noticing that quite often people will come up to where I am
>>> sitting, say hi, have a quick conversation with me, and than say
>>> "Well, I'm going to go join my other friends. Nice seeing you," or
>>> something like that.
>>>
>>> I have tried to not let it bother me, just ignore it, cheerfully say
>>> goodbye and go on but it's starting to really bother me. Last night I
>>> saw two girls that live in the same apartment complex as I do, and one
>>> of them works at the radio station with me.
>>>
>>> I use my cane all the time when I'm in Crockett's, to get everywhere.
>>> I never ask to take someone's arm, and even when I go outside to catch
>>> my cab to get home I go out by myself. I never ask people for rides,
>>> always paying for cabs to and from to independently get there and
>>> back. I always wear glasses to make my eyes look less funky (one is a
>>> lot tinier than the other), I always make sure my hair is brushed
>>> back, and it is always clean. I usually wear jeans but last night I
>>> was wearing a pair of corduroy pants and a nice shirt with a sweater
>>> vest over it that I know looks nice because it was the outfit I wore
>>> for Christmas. I usually do not wear makeup but put lipstick on last
>>> night.
>>>
>>>
>>> I discussed this situation earlier with a good friend who is also
>>> totally blind and she said people do the same sort of thing to her in
>>> the dining hall at the college she attends.
>>>
>>> Do many of you get similar treatment by sighted people?
>>>
>>> In your opinion, what is the best way to react/handle it? Is it rude
>>> to ask the person if you can join their group or should you always
>>> wait until you are invited?
>>>
>>> How do you deal with this and not let it affect/bother you or put you
>>> in a negative mood/frame of mind?
>>>
>>> The hardest thing for me is when people come up and talk to me and
>>> then they don't invite me to join in and I am left sitting alone it
>>> really upsets me and makes me think negatively. I was told that at
>>> least people do come up and talk to me;they could just walk past and
>>> not say a word. Sometimes though, in a way I think that would make
>>> things easier because then I would have never known they were there in
>>> the first place. I was also told to just cheerfully go on as if
>>> nothing happened and try to not let it bother me, and to think of
>>> myself as number one.
>>>
>>> Just something I thought I'd bring up for discussion. I understand all
>>> anyone can give is their opinion.
>>>
>>> Kerri
>>>
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> Brianna Scerenscko
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