[nabs-l] Security in ourselves, acceptance in others
Darian Smith
dsmithnfb at gmail.com
Sat May 28 18:15:10 UTC 2011
Firstly,
I feel like someone being beatin down because they are a
federationest is no different than someone being beatin down because
they were a black panther, so to me while valid, it's different in
that it's a subsection of blind people, as the panthers were of
black people
I don't doubt that people are unaware of all of what went down that
effected the blind americian expirience, as we are largely unaware of
alot of the minority expiriencesinour country. Fact is that for the
sake of this comparison, blacks faced constent threats on their
lives, and even up until now they still do. I don't know how many
blind people have to worry about the police stopping them because
they "look like trouble". I don't write this to play "who has the
worst life", rather to say that some could find fault in the
comparison. For my part, I don't quite know if I agree with it at
this time.
Respectfully,
Darian
On 5/28/11, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
> Mike,
> In the African-american struggle for huma rights, there were/are
> lots of different philosophies and approaches taken by a lot of
> different people-you probably know more about that than me having
> lived through a lot of the craziness. Do you think more could've
> happened faster if...say, Martin Luther King and Malcolm X spent less
> time bickering and more time cooperating or, at the very least,
> ignoring each other? I'm not denying that both of them did a lot to
> better the condition of black people...but imagine what could've
> happened if the two of them didn't take so long to reconcile-or, if
> nothing else, if they didn't spend time attacking each others'
> philosophies and devoted that energy to their respective movements?
> Could that comparison be aplicable to us? Am I remiss when I say
> that we in NFB sometimes spend too much time attacking the
> philosophies of other blind people rather than advancing our own
> philosophy? Am I remiss in saying that many in the ACB spend more
> time trying to tear down the Federation instead of building up the
> Council? Why can't we, if nothing else, leave each other alone and
> spend all our time working on our own goals?
> Maybe we could take that comparison further, to incolude individual
> blind people who disagree with us. Ideally we should try to engage in
> constructive dialogue and find some sort of common ground with people
> who disagree and, for example, have next to no travel or daily living
> skills. After all, we hope they'll "see the light", so to speak, and
> become empowered with good training. But let's say they don't accept
> our philosophy...whether they're compitent blind people or not, let's
> say they want nothing to do with the Federation. I say first we try
> and learn whatever we can from them, no matter their skills and
> atitude (or lack thereof). Once we've learned something from them,
> even if it's as simple as "I need to have better cane skills" or "this
> guy has terrible hygiene-at least I know now why it's so important to
> take showers!", then I think we try and let them learn from us. That
> can either be by talking or by them looking at our example...if they
> chose to not accept our world view, there's no reason to get angry and
> defensive. There is still probably common ground somewhere and, even
> in the highly unlikely event you can't find any (which is probably due
> to you not looking hard enough), just ignore the person and move on.
> If we can't be friends, there's no reason to be enemies...live and let
> live, and all that jazz.
> Warmly,
> Kirt
>
> On 5/28/11, Mike Freeman <k7uij at panix.com> wrote:
>> I know of no site that has everything gathered in one place. However, you
>> could do worse than to read Dr. Floyd Matson's book, "Walking Alone and
>> marching together" (available on the NFB website and via the NLS
>> Web-braille
>> site) and, if you'd wish to see the alternative point-of-view, James
>> McGivern's "People of Vision: a History of the american Council of the
>> Blind", also available from the NLS Web-braille and BARD sites.
>>
>> It might also behoove us all to reread or re-listen-to the NFB convention
>> banquet speechdes of Drs. tenBroke, Jernigan and Maurer.
>>
>> I know that's a lot of reading but no one ever said Federationism was
>> easy!
>> (huge grin)
>>
>> Mike
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf
>> Of Josh Gregory
>> Sent: Saturday, May 28, 2011 10:07 AM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Security in ourselves, acceptance in others
>>
>> Is there a site with... the history of blind people and what
>> they went through? I'm curious now, this is a good thread.
>> Josh
>>
>> sent from my Apex
>> Email: joshkart12 at gmail.com
>>
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Mike Freeman" <k7uij at panix.com
>> To: "'National Association of Blind Students mailing list'"
>> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
>> Date sent: Sat, 28 May 2011 09:52:47 -0700
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Security in ourselves, acceptance in others
>>
>> Although I was never subject to one, I can still remember when,
>> at late as
>> the 1960's, welfare workers conducted "night raids" with the help
>> of the
>> police wherein said workers would visit blind clients and go
>> through their
>> homes to make sure that nothing had been bought that would
>> indicate that the
>> clients had unreported income. This extended even to such items
>> as a new
>> dress.
>>
>> I echo Briley's sentiments that many today have no concept of
>> what went down
>> in the past.
>>
>> Mike
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org
>> [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
>> Of Briley Pollard
>> Sent: Saturday, May 28, 2011 7:28 AM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Security in ourselves, acceptance in others
>>
>> I think it is not always an appropriate comparison to say our
>> struggle for
>> civil rights isn't completely parallel with the black American
>> experience,
>> but we have struggled for civil rights. Go read some history on
>> how blind
>> people have been treated by families and institutions over the
>> years. Blind
>> children were targets for sexual assault in extremely high
>> numbers because
>> they were considered to be vulnerable. They were placed in
>> horrific living
>> conditions throughout history in institutions because families
>> believed that
>> blindness was equal to ineffectiveness, and that they'd never be
>> able to
>> succeed or help out their relatives. As a people group, we have
>> suffered
>> many indignities that I don't think the current generation of
>> blind people
>> even come close to realizing.
>>
>> Best,
>> Briley
>> On May 28, 2011, at 1:23 AM, Darian Smith wrote:
>>
>> Mike:
>> African-Americans/blacks (however one choosses to term
>> themselves)would not have been too keen on the idea based upon
>> how
>> they were treated by whites up to that time.
>> It is curious that how african-americans were treated is
>> always
>> one of the first ways we as blind people choose to make our
>> comparisons in our struggle for first-class citizanship. I
>> wonder,
>> were blind people beatin and hosed down when they peacefully
>> protest
>> the unjust ways they were treated? Were they lybnched? Can we
>> safely
>> make those comparisons? unless I am missing something (I
>> could be,
>> and it wouldn't be the first or last time I have), we have some
>> similarities with regards to civil rights, but largely our
>> histories
>> were quite different and the scars, deaths,risks were felt on
>> largely
>> different levels.
>> Just some thoughts on the matter,and I very much appreciate
>> the
>> question.
>> Respectfully,
>> Darian
>>
>> On 5/26/11, Mike Freeman <k7uij at panix.com> wrote:
>> Darian:
>>
>> What do you think African-americans would have said during the
>> 1950's and 1960's had one of their number said he/she would
>> rather
>> date a Caucasian person because of the concern for two black
>> persons
>> dating?
>>
>> Mike
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org
>> [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Darian Smith
>> Sent: Thursday, May 26, 2011 5:49 PM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Security in ourselves, acceptance in
>> others
>>
>> Jedi,
>> Sure-let me see...
>> We as federationests have certain ways that we like to deal with
>> situations, ways that we see life or phrase things in life. For
>> example We like to use the term "blind" as opposed to
>> "visually
>> impaired" or any variant there of. We also like if a person
>> uses
>> products with Braille on them (braille watches, braille
>> compass,
>> braille books and the like, but somehow we tend to make people
>> who
>> don't utilize these things seem lesser for not.
>> I have a friend who would much rather date a sighted gentleman
>> than
>> a blind gentleman because she is concerned about the idea of two
>> blind people dating.
>> Personally I may feel a certain way about these things, but I
>> would
>> like to think that it's huge to consider where each person is
>> in
>> their life and accept them into the fold as they are. I am
>> fine
>> with educatinn, so long as we arn't critical and that we are
>> accepting, because seems to me that weas people hate to be told
>> that we
>> are "wrong"
>> for thinking like we do.
>> Does that make sense?
>> Respecgfully,
>> Darian
>>
>>
>> On 5/26/11, Darian Smith <dsmithnfb at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Very good points.
>> We as blind people are a minority, and I think it's good to
>> remember that there are other minorities out there. How does
>> one
>> member of a minority group address another member of that same
>> group
>> if they don't feel that this person is acting like they should
>> in
>> public? Don't feel like this person is projecting a positive
>> image
>> of the rest of that group to society?
>> I believe that we all face that problem and how we deal with
>> it
>> varies, but I would hope that we know enough to not take it
>> upon
>> ourselves to change the worlds opinions. I think we can model
>> that
>> positive image that is with in our grasp to become, that
>> probably is
>> the healthiest way to approach this idea of
>> perception-changing
>> that we think about alot, Does that make sense?
>> thoughts?
>>
>> On 5/26/11, Jedi <loneblindjedi at samobile.net> wrote:
>> Excellent points.
>>
>> I'm going to add to that some.
>>
>> I've noticed that we also tend to judge a person's actions when
>> they attempt to handle a vexing situation like overhelpfulness
>> or
>> discrimination. I've been doing some research on the effects of
>> such judgment and have concluded that it creates an invisible
>> audience for the blind person in question. This audience is
>> made of
>> both the blind and the sighted community and creates thoughts
>> like
>> "What will my blind friends and colleagues think of me if I
>> react this
>> or that way?
>> What will the sighted person I'm talking to think? What will
>> sighted bystanders think?" What this does is create a win/lose
>> situation where the stakes are high. Aside from causing stress
>> that
>> limits problem-solving ability, this high stakes situation also
>> creates a greater likelihood of negative response to perceived
>> threats to the blind person's self-concept and sense of efficacy
>> in the
>> interaction.
>> So for example, an overly helpful person might cause a blind
>> person
>> to feel ineffective as it is. But the invisible audience
>> concept
>> boosts that feeling considerably because of the stress involved
>> with feeling like they have to show themselves as both effective
>> and graceful in handling both the offers of help and the person
>> who's offering it. Is any of this making sense? So the bottom
>> line
>> is that by trying to be the perfect ambassador for the blind, we
>> may be shooting ourselves in the foot by creating such a high
>> stakes situation in our mind that the stress lowers our ability
>> to
>> present the cool, calm, and effective image we want to offer to
>> the
>> public.
>>
>> On that note, I've noticed that our community seems to have it
>> in
>> our heads that we're responsible for how the sighted feel about
>> us.
>> The truth is that there are limits to that responsibility.
>> Sure, we
>> want to set a good impression in all areas, but so does everyone
>> else. The sad truth is that we are judged based on the actions
>> of one
>> person.
>> But the thing is, there's nothing that we can really do about
>> that
>> except to expose a given sighted person to the diversity of our
>> population. Even if we set the perfect impression, it's likely
>> that
>> the sighted person will still stereotype by saying that we're
>> all
>> amazing or that the one individual in question is the exception
>> to
>> a rule. It seems to me that the only people who really get that
>> we're as diverse as they are are those who know how to
>> deconstruct
>> society's grand narrative or are those who have seen enough
>> diversity in our population to realize that they can't judge all
>> of
>> us based on one
>> person.
>>
>> Respectfully,
>> Jedi
>>
>> Original message:
>> That makes perfect sense, but we should not fall into the trap
>> of
>> taking responsibility for others' actions. When we do that, we
>> lose sight of our own goals and direction in life. Unless
>> you're a
>> therapist, or a rehab teacher working with people like that, it
>> is
>> not your job to fix them. Even as a therapist or teacher, your
>> place is to be a mentor and an instructor. As I previously
>> said,
>> if that person, after being shown compassion and alternative
>> ways
>> of thinking, doing and living chooses to fall back into old
>> patterns as soon as the instructor's back is turned, that shows
>> a
>> lack of respect for everyone around them, including themselves.
>> So
>> if a person wants to wallow in misery and self-pity, let them!
>> That person will either fall hard when they find out their
>> parents/family members/significant other or what have you can't
>> take care of them forever, and then they'll realize what needs
>> to
>> happen in due time, or they will get sick of the status quo and
>> want to change it. And if people hold it against a decent blind
>> person because they've met a person like that in the past, it's
>> not worth it to try and make them feel any differently. They
>> will
>> either come around in time or they
>> won't. Choice is the key word here.
>> Everyone is free to think as they choose so long as it's not
>> hurting anyone. So, while it might temporarily sting a bit to
>> lose
>> out on a potential friendship due to someone's ignorance, as
>> soon
>> as you meet someone who's worth your time, you forget about that
>> other person real quick
>>
>> On 5/26/11, Daniel Romero <djdan567 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> I think the reason why this might go down is because of the view
>> that we get from the public in general. Most people who are
>> sighted are not used to a blind person. You have to understand
>> that one blind person being seen is a huge thing. They're now
>> reliable for what a person thinks about blind people. They are
>> the ones setting an example. So if you have a blind person who
>> smells bad, rocks, pokes their eyes or just do not have the
>> proper skills, the outside person will make an assumtion and say
>> that all blind people are like that. i'm not saying it's right
>> for blind people to call out other blind people with a skills
>> set
>> that is lower then theirs, they're just calling them out because
>> they are representing blind people. It puts a bad label on us
>> blind people who do take care of ourselves, have the skills to
>> be
>> independent and succeed. like i said, i'm not saying it's right
>> but I don't think us who do have the skills want to have a
>> negative conotation. Not all blind people poke their eyes,
>> rock,
>> hop, twitch,bump into everything, smell bad, do not clean their
>> own clothes, or anything like that. So to be part of a group
>> that's going to display such a view that is negative to the
>> public,
>> we fall right behind that. Am I making sense?
>>
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