[nabs-l] staring

[Andi]

I say make yourself look really good then they have a reason to stare, like 
"Dam that person looks good."  I know this isn't the real reason people 
stare at us as blind people, but when I go to the club I don't use my cane 
and people can't tell I am blind with out my cane, at least this is what I 
have been told.  I get a lot of stares then to, I never thought of my self 
as pretty but I get looks in a positive way.  Staring isn't always bad, it 
can mean you look good.  I have been stared at negativly to every day and 
the energy is different, but maybe it helps to pretend it is positive 
staring all of the time in stead of just some of the time.  If not have fun 
with it.  I have a friend with CP so she has a different wwalk or sometimes 
if we go a long distence she is in her wheele chair and she always makes 
people feel stupid when their staring at us.  She is more blunt than I am 
but I admire it.  She says things like "I am going to give you a description 
of the room because you can't see it but some person is rubber necking 
trying to find out how we can even be breathing on are own."  I replaced her 
language and description of the person which she always inserts with person 
to avoid offending anyone who does not like swaring.  Most of the time this 
much roodness isn't necessary, but sometimes it is because some people just 
need more blunt discoragement.

Andi

-----Original Message----- 
From: Lea williams
Sent: Monday, November 21, 2011 8:10 PM
To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] staring

This is true, it does make it easier and you don't make yourself look
like a full popping off. People are going to stare at all kinds of
things, and one of them being that your blind and they might have not
seen someone who was blind and are just curious. I was with a friend
once and the daughter wasn't feeling well and was using a wheel chair
while we were picking up medication and a couple of other things for
her at wal mart, she was imbarrassed cause people were staring at her
for being in a wheel chair. If anything with her, they propley pittied
her, but with us, they might pitty us, or might just be curious as to
how it is we do things because they have never seen blind people doing
anything before. Not saying that blind people do nothing, but that
they haven't seen a blind person and do not know what to expect or
wonder if their ideas are true or not.
Not sure if I made any since.

On 11/21/11, Rania Ismail CMT <raniaismail04 at gmail.com> wrote:
> I get staired at too but my mom and have fun with it! We feel you have to
> have fun with it because it makes it easyer to deal with!
> Rania,
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> Behalf
> Of Joshua Lester
> Sent: Monday, November 21, 2011 11:03 AM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] staring
>
> This is another reason why ignorance needs to be dealt with, in
> sighted communities.
> I was at a Taco Bell, 30 minutes away from my hometown.
> There were two boys laughing at me, because of my blindness.
> My brother got on to them, and they left me alone.
> It's a shame, that people that don't know any better make fun of us,
> when there's really nothing wrong with us.
> Blessings, Joshua
>
> On 11/21/11, vejas <brlsurfer at gmail.com> wrote:
>> I hate staring.
>> People do it all the time in my community, and I don't even know
>> that they are doing it.
>> I have no vision as of recently.  I can't tell when people are
>> staring at me.  But I know-because my parents sometimes tell me
>> that in restaurants, people stare at how I eat.
>> What is more upsetting, though, is why aren't my parents doing
>> anything about the staring, like telling them to stop? I wonder
>> do these people even realize they are staring?
>> Vejas
>>
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