[nabs-l] staring

Jedi loneblindjedi at samobile.net
Wed Nov 23 02:20:09 UTC 2011


Why not, if possible, just tell the person who's staring that their 
staring makes you feel uncomfortable?

Respectfully,
Jedi

Original message:
> I say make yourself look really good then they have a reason to stare, like
> "Dam that person looks good."  I know this isn't the real reason people
> stare at us as blind people, but when I go to the club I don't use my cane
> and people can't tell I am blind with out my cane, at least this is what I
> have been told.  I get a lot of stares then to, I never thought of my self
> as pretty but I get looks in a positive way.  Staring isn't always bad, it
> can mean you look good.  I have been stared at negativly to every day and
> the energy is different, but maybe it helps to pretend it is positive
> staring all of the time in stead of just some of the time.  If not have fun
> with it.  I have a friend with CP so she has a different wwalk or sometimes
> if we go a long distence she is in her wheele chair and she always makes
> people feel stupid when their staring at us.  She is more blunt than I am
> but I admire it.  She says things like "I am going to give you a description
> of the room because you can't see it but some person is rubber necking
> trying to find out how we can even be breathing on are own."  I replaced her
> language and description of the person which she always inserts with person
> to avoid offending anyone who does not like swaring.  Most of the time this
> much roodness isn't necessary, but sometimes it is because some people just
> need more blunt discoragement.

> Andi

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Lea williams
> Sent: Monday, November 21, 2011 8:10 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] staring

> This is true, it does make it easier and you don't make yourself look
> like a full popping off. People are going to stare at all kinds of
> things, and one of them being that your blind and they might have not
> seen someone who was blind and are just curious. I was with a friend
> once and the daughter wasn't feeling well and was using a wheel chair
> while we were picking up medication and a couple of other things for
> her at wal mart, she was imbarrassed cause people were staring at her
> for being in a wheel chair. If anything with her, they propley pittied
> her, but with us, they might pitty us, or might just be curious as to
> how it is we do things because they have never seen blind people doing
> anything before. Not saying that blind people do nothing, but that
> they haven't seen a blind person and do not know what to expect or
> wonder if their ideas are true or not.
> Not sure if I made any since.

> On 11/21/11, Rania Ismail CMT <raniaismail04 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> I get staired at too but my mom and have fun with it! We feel you have to
>> have fun with it because it makes it easyer to deal with!
>> Rania,

>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf
>> Of Joshua Lester
>> Sent: Monday, November 21, 2011 11:03 AM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] staring

>> This is another reason why ignorance needs to be dealt with, in
>> sighted communities.
>> I was at a Taco Bell, 30 minutes away from my hometown.
>> There were two boys laughing at me, because of my blindness.
>> My brother got on to them, and they left me alone.
>> It's a shame, that people that don't know any better make fun of us,
>> when there's really nothing wrong with us.
>> Blessings, Joshua

>> On 11/21/11, vejas <brlsurfer at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> I hate staring.
>>> People do it all the time in my community, and I don't even know
>>> that they are doing it.
>>> I have no vision as of recently.  I can't tell when people are
>>> staring at me.  But I know-because my parents sometimes tell me
>>> that in restaurants, people stare at how I eat.
>>> What is more upsetting, though, is why aren't my parents doing
>>> anything about the staring, like telling them to stop? I wonder
>>> do these people even realize they are staring?
>>> Vejas

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